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Recurrent Buns Graduates - Pregnancy and Beyond

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Glitterybits · 06/07/2011 21:53

Thought it was about time we had a new home for all those lovely ladies who used to frequent the original Recurrent Buns thread, or anyone else who has been through the hideous journey of miscarriage, recurrent miscarriage, infertility, testing etc. and now finds themselves either pregnant and in need of hand-holding (or better yet) with their long-awaited bundle(s) of joy.

I know it perhaps seems a little inappropriate to start a thread in the miscarriage topic but it still seems the most relevant spot for those of us who haven't yet completed the journey - and nowhere else really seemed right or fair to everyone.

I do hope you'll come along and say hello. I do miss you all!

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mumatron · 20/09/2011 06:56

just checking in for news.

hope your ds has had his op and is on the mend justmee

and coconuts fingers crossed you're enjoying your new baby already.

will try and do a little catch up later. I started back to work yesterday so things are a bit manic here atm.

LAF77 · 20/09/2011 19:23

Anxiously checking for updates on coconuts and justmee

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Glitterybits · 21/09/2011 10:17

Still lurking and sending lots of love and supportive vibes...

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LunaticFringe · 21/09/2011 20:08

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mumatron · 21/09/2011 20:45

I really hoped there would be an update tonight.

still thinking of you coco and justme

do any of us have either of them on fb?

really hope they're all doing well.

digitalgirl · 21/09/2011 20:50

Also lurking with the hope that no news is good news and they're both too busy cuddling their babies.

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LAF77 · 21/09/2011 21:11

I know coconuts was on the pg post MC thread, but there hasn't been any update on there either.

mumatron · 21/09/2011 21:13

hopefully they are both busy with new babies and dont have time to update.

will keep checking as much as poss.

back in work now and I'm enjoying new levels of exhaustion :( off to bed soon.

will pop back in the morning.

justmee · 22/09/2011 15:01

Just to fill you all in

im still in hospital and it doesnt look like well be home for a long time

they was going to operate on monday as he has a bad heart condition where 3 of his heart valves are missing so hes living off 1 its absolutly killing me they told me tuesday that to prespare myself for thr worst as it didnt look good his heart was failing but today we went and theyve cancelled the op as theyve put him on inj and they have seemed to have help so they want to get him feeding off my milk so they are putting a tube into his tummy tomorrow and then when hes put a bit more weight on they are going to op on his heart

im devestated i shoulld be at home enjoying my baby but insted im in a horrible place where noone explains anything and i am scared to death eveytime i touch my little boy tht it will be the last time

i cant even bare to talk or look at anyone right now iv totally lost eveything i ever wanted xxxx

digitalgirl · 22/09/2011 15:55

oh justmee what a living nightmare Sad. Huge big big hugs for you. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. Getting him to take your milk is a good sign - could be just what he needs to grow bigger and stronger so he can have the op. Will they be doing an op on his heart as well as his oesophagus? Do keep us informed if it helps.

LAF77 · 22/09/2011 16:07

Oh justmee I'm so sorry to read this. Big hug for you.

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justmee · 22/09/2011 16:56

tht would be great i dont even know what the condition is called as they cant tell me the english name i dont know when ill be back on here as i will hopfully be hospital for 3 months and then im praying our little boy will be able to come home its so hard and i cant tell anyone what im feeling right now i want to give up complatly and just run away where nothing can hurt me . i dont want to go on anti dipresents but i feel that im going down that road since my c section iv not sat down iv run up 8 flights of stairs everyday not sleeping eating probly and feeling like im a usless mummy i just never thought this would happen to me and why did i deserve this what did i do im sat in floods of tears writting this i wish someone could help me and take this pain away :(((((((

digitalgirl · 22/09/2011 17:28

Bliss Family Support Helpline Freephone 0500 618140 Monday to Friday 10.00am-10.00pm

(it might be different calling from abroad - maybe email them and ask if you can't get through on that number [email protected])

digitalgirl · 22/09/2011 17:32

justmee I know you must be struggling right now and if you think the ADs would help keep you focussed and strong enough to be there for your boy then it's no bad thing going back on them. You must take care of yourself, even though you think it's not worth it - you're going to need everything bit of strength to get through this.
We're all here thinking of you, even if you can't post much. Lets hope you will be in hospital for the next three months...as long as it takes to get him better.

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stillfrazzled · 22/09/2011 18:34

justmee I'm so sorry this is happening.

FWIW (and I know things were less serious for us, but remembering how f*cking terrified and devastated I was makes me want to howl for you) I wanted to run away too. On the day F was born - just after we found out he had his problems - I was sobbing to DH that I wanted to run away because it was too much to take in, and that he didn't feel like my baby because the nurses and doctors would take care of him and he wouldn't need us.

DH, sound man, said that in fact he was going to need us more than DS1 had. That we could make more difference to him, and knowing we were there to love him would be crucial to him.

He was right. Your little lad is just that - yours - and he will never be in any doubt who his mummy is, believe me.

Have been thinking of you since you last posted and and keeping everything crossed for you all.

mumatron · 22/09/2011 19:09

Sorry to hear this justmee

I'll keep you and your ds in my thoughts. Have you named him yet?

Any sign of coconuts yet?

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Glitterybits · 22/09/2011 22:51

justmee my heart was in my throat reading this. I cannot imagine how you must feel but I have to second frazzled that your little man will be in no doubt as to who his Mummy is. I know you feel like running away and it is both terrifying and devastating, not to mention horribly unfair, but he has fought long and hard to get this far and he is still fighting. Being his Mummy you will find reserves of strength you never knew you had in you. I am hoping and praying for your lo to thrive on your milk and get strong enough for his op as soon as possible. Try not to think too far ahead. Take each day as it comes and remember that he is in the best place possible right now. Much love to you all at this horrible time. XXXXXXX

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ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts · 24/09/2011 09:34

Hi everyone, got home last night after 8 days of being admitted.

My beautiful Thomas James was born on 22nd Sept at 0304 weighing a healthy 8lb 12oz.

We had a very tough time and ended up with emergency forceps to get him out but he is here and we are well. He is beautiful, but battered and bruised. He had to have blood taken from his head during delivery so he's pretty scratched and has bruises from the forceps. He was taken away for tubing and xrays to confirm the PH wasn't caused by anything inside him but all was clear :)

So so glad to be home, thanks for all your support in everything and I'll come back with a pic soon. xxxx

mumatron · 24/09/2011 10:06

YAY! So so glad things have worked out for you! Grin

8lb 12 is an amazing weight.

Will be back later to catch up.

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts · 24/09/2011 11:00

8lb 12 at 38 weeks so dread to think how big he'd been if he was full term Grin

pics on profile if you want to be nosey

JugglingMama · 24/09/2011 11:43

COCONUTS hurrah hurrah!, congrats on your much longed for and special baby...he is here at last. amazing surreal feeling im sure..well well done..

JUSTMEE, my heart is breaking thinking of you and baba and what you are being put through..unbearably unfair..keep fighting both of you. sending angel care and strength to you...xxx

mumatron · 24/09/2011 12:20

Oh he is beautiful! Well done you.

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