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The virtual girls' holiday in Ibiza thread - moving on from mc with or without ttc but with plenty of wine and virtual all night dancing

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freelancegirl · 03/05/2011 10:24

Ok ok I succumbed to peer pressure to create the thread. This is a place for some of us (and anyone else who wants to join) who have been through the downs of mc and are ready for brighter days and a place to chat nonsense away from the How Are You Feeling Post MC thread. The How Are You Feeling thread should still survive, especially for those newly going through the process, but here we can move on to hopefully brighter days.

Really (newly minted with a BFP and therefore the first of the group to be properly ttc) can kick us off with her no doubt filthy dalliance with a Geology student (was it?) in Crete and we can all pretend we are in a girls' holiday in Ibiza. Grab a glass of sparkly and plonk your (this is virtual so we can look exactly as we want to) toned bikini bodied bum on a bar stool! xx

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mopey · 12/05/2011 11:26

Hello everyone really how are you getting on.

arti have a fantastic trip - how amazing

I'm living up to my name today - and to think I was almost going to change it to cheery but not yet - bloody bfn - was really quite hopeful - had SWI on right days etc, I know it was a bit much to hope for it to happen after first af but always happened relativily quickly before - shows I'm getting old - and to top it all off, feeling very pmt ish and weepy about it all.

Where's that waiter - need a double shot in my Mohito today.....

Reallyusefulengine · 12/05/2011 12:05

Oh Mopey, I send you a parcel of big kisses and rum. Am sorry that the 2WW turned into this. Are you actually due on today or is it tomorrow? Would you consider getting some opk's next month?

Reallyusefulengine · 12/05/2011 12:07

MopeySorry, duh, sounds like you knew your correct days anyway. Am sorry you feel weepy. Flipping bloody hormones, go easy on yourself today.

Free Can you imagine if you were now Freelance Goss? We would all like you even more.

Off to capture sonographers with my EWCM.

xxx

pixie100 · 12/05/2011 12:23

crickey, I gi to the gym & come back to m/n & nearly lost you x sooo many post& faces back x Hi everyone x

I was told by my gorgeous (&actually quite sexy) surgeon, that positive pg test can happen for up to8 weeks after m/c...

IC- its not nosey to ask. We talk about our knicker contents, pee, clots etc....
Our donor is known to us.not a close friend. We met him as we wanted a known, but not co-parenting donor.& so did he.we want our dc to know where it comes from,looks like, & actually has someone real who is a part of dc especially when dc starts to want to know where s/he comes from,how he was made etc....we don't anticipate donor taking a regular 'parenting role'. He doesn't want to.but we r keeping options open as (I'm guessing) children r challenging & have their own views on things too. I don't want to be too ridged... does any of that make sense?

Now who was it handing out shots of mojitos. My glass is over here . It's passed midday Xxxxxxxxxxxxx

FREE: "Take the chocolate. Take the chocolate.take the chocolate.take the chocolate .. Mmmmmmm . Take the chocolate. It's very tasty. It's delicious. Take the chocolate"

Who is CRAIG?

InmaculadaConcepcion · 12/05/2011 13:45

It makes perfect sense, thanks pixie!
I remember one lesbian mum friend (her partner was the biological mum of their DC) saying in moved wonder the day after their DS' birth "To think all this started with a £1.99 syringe from Boots!"
FX for the next try, pixie.

free, Really, I love the superhero idea! Can I fly? I hate flying in RL so it would be really handy to be able to miss out the aeroplane part of the process.
Also, one important thing: my feminist views would have a problem with Dr S being our leader, especially as our superstrength comes from each other. Could he just be the "Q" figure?

freelancegirl · 12/05/2011 15:39

Ooh yes, I kind of meant a q figure, he can stay back at the ranch whilst we are off doing serious work. Talking of serious work, the incredible bleeding woman strikes again! Please can you all look sternly at my womb and ask why it has emitted a large brown blob? I was wondering why I've felt a but dizzy and had an increased awareness of my insides somewhere.

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Reallyusefulengine · 12/05/2011 16:56

Free, there comes a time when friends have to ask: What the hell are you keeping up there? It's one hell of a uterine spring clean. I imagine the lining sparkles now.

Is there any word on Dr S, our leader no, our Doctor of small mercy's, yes.

Pixie Craig Logan of course, who else.

IC You can glide. No flying neccessary. Or you can fly in the arms of A.G of course.

freelancegirl · 12/05/2011 17:29

If it goes on any longer I'm going to join those ladies in Bangkok who can recreate a fine approximation of the Sistine Chapel using a strategically placed pen. I might manage to dribble my initials. I must have the sparkliest womb lining this side of, well, anywhere.

Craig Logan Pixie I think I was ignoring you on the basis that Craig was actually my favourite at one point and I just couldn't bear to think you might not have shared my love for him.

Craig Then:

www.virginmedia.com/music/pictures/toptens/weakest-link.php?ssid=9 (the runt of the litter)

Craig Now-ish:

www.nowmagazine.co.uk/gallery/gallery-specials/25393/1/2/dannii-minogue-and-kris-smith---a-love-story-in-pictures/1/

(much better)

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Reallyusefulengine · 12/05/2011 17:49

Free What did you mean, you fancied Craig? I think you should write to him and tell him he had a fan.

Okay. I got my scan result back. They say the 'paperwork' from the crap sonographer isn't ready but my gestational sac did indeed measure 7mm. So my sums are right I think. Tomorrow I have my appt to see what's going on. Arrggggh. Am panic eating pesto in the absence of wine Confused (mental note to stock up on better comfort food)

freelancegirl · 12/05/2011 18:21

Gosh, I am not really sure what to think Really! (about the scan not Craig Logan). There's a huge possibility that your sums were right and all could be well! Great - you get it right and the professionals don't. Like we said, someone else might have just gone for an ERPC!!!! Maybe they could give you a job and sack that useless smiling idiot. Arrrggggh indeed! Roll on tomorrow. Quelle time? I am completely obsessing about it for you now.

And what do you mean you are panic eating pesto? Are you just wantonly spooning it in, without some sort of pesto plinth to base it on? No pasta, ciabatta or even a thin cracker? Are you at the fridge gorging it down with both hands? I don't disapprove, I have found myself in similar situations. Just curious.

Well, I am still getting a bit of oozey brown stuff (still mainlining pesto now, huh, pesto girl?). WTF! I feel like we are in some weird miscarriage groundhog day. Some definite gynae happenings. No pain, just the general feeling of a happening.

Am in Brighton to go see a friend do a book reading so will just have to have a glass or seven of wine and contemplate my knickers every so often in the pub loo.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 12/05/2011 19:12

Hail, Ibiza mc club (sounds like a chapter of Hell's Angels....are you sure about Gabriel? What if its Lucifer?)

Pesto, Really? What an excellent choice of panic food.

Best of luck tomorrow. Travel hopefully.

Well, free, it could explain the difficulties in shedding the weight. Your womb is hanging on to a few big heavy blobs of gunk as some kind of warped uterine joke on you. Give it a stern talking to.

I went to the doctor today for my post mc check up (they tell you to see your family doctor 6 weeks or so down the line here) and was slightly confused to observe that I was down to see the pediatrician. Then I looked more closely and realised I had actually made the appointment for DD. Ahem. So now I've got a new appointment for next week. If AF has failed to turn up by then I'll do a pee stick before I go. As DH pointed out, if it's a BFP, it'll save going back again a week or so later.

Hail!

Shellshocked1 · 12/05/2011 19:27

Evening ladies,

My only real comment on seeing Free's picture of Craig now, is 'Blimey, Dannii Minogue has shagged pretty much everyone, hasn't she!'

InmaculadaConcepcion · 12/05/2011 19:45

What did I do to put Danni off?

Reallyusefulengine · 12/05/2011 20:08

Free Well, we'll see what happens tomorrow. Am feeling sick with worry again. And pesto. I ate some on pasta, left over from DC supper. And then had some on a spoon, and then dipped some parmesan in the tub and then I stuck my finger in too. Yup, no manners in this house.

Oh bless, am sorry you have the oozey brown stiff. Glad though that you're in lovely Brighton and have a good evening planned. It all sounds very cultured, apart from the k.c of course.

IC I will travel hopefully. Thank you lovely. Am glad your diary is as organised as mine.

Shell She has shagged everyone, hasn't she? Grin

freelancegirl · 12/05/2011 21:21

Oh Ic, we are watching you with intent. Baby brain (why does my iPhone do Braun before brain?), booking appointments in dd's name and having bfp like symptoms..? Yeah, shell (feeling like am on eastenders), danni has def been round the block! Her current beau, father of child, is gorgeous though! Have you seen him. Really, that's you honey, am with you on a virtual form, gorging pesto from the fridge. But in real life I am on wine Nbr 3 (v enjoyable it is too) in a chin stroking coffee shop in Brighton listening to the CURRENT world champion air guitar title holder do a reading about acdc! Oh yes, it dont get better than this! Love you all xxx

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LIG1979 · 12/05/2011 21:24

Slightly concerned about all the pictures of bros and discussions about Dani's sex life - but shows what happens when i spend an afternoon in meetings......

Good luck Really for tomorrow - i think it sounds hopeful. Pesto and pasta sounds like yummy comfort food!

Been thinking alot about why sonographers are so stupid about dates - could it be that they don't know what to say and so say that so that they can check with the doctor rather than give you bad news incase they are wrong. I did work in medical imaging earlier on in my career and i know when we saw a bad scan we would be very vague and say that we couldn't comment to avoid giving the wrong diagnosis when the scan was so obvious that the patient could see the problem.

pixie your pregancy test and free your brown blob comment is a bit topical for me. decided to use an OPK test to see if i have wrong LH hormones (apparently a symptom of pcos) - had them but never used them when ttc. that was all negative which is good. but then decided to use an old digital test (20 micro sensitivity) i had loitering just to confirm i wasn't pregnant - what do i get but "1-2 weeks" pregnant. so then tried with a cheapy internet one (10 micro sensitivity) - nothing - not even a waterline. very confused but a bit gutted that there is still a little blob of something inside of me. wish i had pushed for an ERPC rather than an everlasting miscarriage!! also slightly worried about my obsession with peeing on sticks - keep leaving them round the house and then having to run round finding them when people visit.

arti i assume you are already off on your travels - i am very jealous of china. going to a wedding in cornwall next weekend but it isn't quite the same.

IC hope the earthquake didn't affect you too much - you are a fair way away in the center aren't you. never realised spain was in an earthquake zone! hope you and everyone you know are ok. x

bye for now x x

babylanguagelearner · 12/05/2011 23:16

Really gosh all that uncertainty must be absolutely hard to take. Fingers crossed for you tomorrow that you get some information, delivered with a better bedside manner that actually gives you some confidence in your medical-care-providers. I have been thinking of you, even though I have not been keeping up with the thread in real time, and it is great that you are truly feeling the support of the ladies on here to help you get through this.

Well I am certainly making the most of my decision to wait another month or so before TTC. Am embracing my new-found (or rediscovered) attitude of shaking the cloak of motherhood matyrdom and actually having quite the social life this week. A long lunch for my friend's 40th on Wednesday - I rather recklessly for the first time called the babysitter with the "I won't be home until late can you please stay late and get the kids sorted for dinner and bed" (how liberating). A belated mother's day lunch with DH and the DC's yesterday (he took the afternoon off work, after having been away for a stag do on our Aussie mother's day last weekend) and a night out pending tomorrow night for a friend's birthday. DH is out tonight (Friday) and I am actually relishing my quiet-night-in, so I can regroup for more drinking tomorrow night.

IC am waiting with anticipation for you and for my sister who is also going to POAS this weekend if AF not arrived. She has been TTC her first, for nearly a year, and it would make my day if she gets a BFP.

babylanguagelearner · 12/05/2011 23:19

x-posted. Hi LIG!

pixie100 · 13/05/2011 08:17

LIG. What pregnancy test????

REALLY GOOD LUCK TODAY honey x we're here x x x x

Ooooh BABY . LOng island iced tea....
it tastes great from my (un-used) moon cup.

IC. Craig???? Oh deary me x never mind...(smiley face& hands over large longisland icetea)

What is POAS?

Just to get something off my chest,sparked by the sonograpgher paperwork not bring ready....(apologies in advance for rant)...

when I decided to have d&c I had scan in epdu then bloods & urine taken (day before d&c) in pre-assessment with lots of paperwork filled in..

I arrived on day of op initially shouted by nurse that I wasn't allowed anyone to wait with me as ward was too full!!!! & then that why hadn't I gone to my pre assessment? ??? I waved my piece of paper with pre assessment info in her face saying id attended the day before...
then Dr. arrived saying they didn't have any paperwork on me -apart from details on my visit to a&e more than 6weeks earlier (i had had 5 apmts, 4 scans & 3 letters given to me since then) . She apologies for loosing all my paperwork. WTF?

BTW. I waited by myself for about half ur until same nurse come back rating, 'oh sorry I didn't know why you were here, of course u can have someone with you...' I did nearly kill her...

It all turned out ok, but it was very stressful.

(Mental note to self to keep breathing... breath. Breath).

Mmmmmmm. Mojitos followed by Long island iced teas for breakfast...with runny fried eggs,chips & beans.

pixie100 · 13/05/2011 08:19

PS.
Sorry for rant.
Think I'm bit stressed.
1st AF due tomorrow if my body does what it should
(for once.!!!!!) That would be good.

freelancegirl · 13/05/2011 10:30

Warped uterine joke IC! Grin It might explain the weight and bloaty feelings, definitely. I feel a bit slimmer today. Not sure if it is psychological. I ate an awful dinner last night of some sort of fish and potato burger and some deep fried cheese balls at a kebab house in between pubs! That's the sort of classy bird I am, innit. When are you going to POAS IC? This thread is better than watching any soap opera isn't it! Much more stuff going on. (Note for Pixie - POAS is pee on a stick :) I found that age through here too).

Talking of which, bloody hell LIG! That's really frustrating. Do you think it might be a sign leftover from the mc or, as you also mentioned, that having PCOS might affect hormone levels. OR could it be that any 'normal' person can get the odd faint line too depending on what's going on in the body? I don't know enough about it. I daren't POAS stick myself either, just in case.

A big aussie wave to BLL! Am very pleased you are 'shaking the cloak of motherhood martyrdom' and having quite the social life this week. It sounds like that was what you needed. Obviously I am not a mother so I don't know, but I think when we get temporarily stuck or over focussed on any one of our roles in life we can easily get bored and miserable. That seemed to be where you were a few weeks ago. So it is good that you are reminding yourself that you are a social being and have so many strands of 'you' that it's great to exercise them all! Keep us updated on your sister. Hey, I have forgotten whereabouts you are over there? I love Australia, definitely want to travel more of it. Have been to Sydney, Brisbane and Melbourne and next time want to visit the Whitsunday's and Uluru as well as other places. So many travel wishes, so little time (oh, and cash).

Poor Pixie, I can't believe that treatment!! WTF! Don't these people have anyone compassion. You are perfectly allowed to be stressed, AF or no AF. I hope it does arrive promptly. I can't remember - will this be your second post MC? Are you working it out from the date of your last AF? And how many days post mc did that arrive?

I am filling out a calendar of my bleeding so added a large dark brown blobbing session to yesterdays date. Wonder what delights await me in my pants today. Funnily enough, it feels quite good that things are still coming out. Like IC said, it might explain why I haven't physically been back to myself yet. Hope that after this week I will drop around 5lbs overnight :) I have decided I don't want to get back to the weight I was this time last year as I think I over did it a bit, but just to lose around 8lbs would be ideal. And even then some friends would complain I am 'too thin'. I am not quite sure why they do that, it's always the ones who are thin themselves who do though. I was around that weight in that Maldives video and I didn't look too thin at all did I? Still had quite a few womanly curves I thought.

Talking of video the huge task of completing my new showreel has been, well, completed this morning and I am very pleased with it. Time to starting sending it out with a vengeance! If am not having a baby (well not right now anyway) I want to go full-on with the career.

It's DH's bday on Sunday so I am taking him for a surprise afternoon tea at a posh hotel later (another group on deal), dinner with friends tomorrow night and lunch with more friends on Sunday, followed by a band. So looks like my health kick/career kick will be starting on Monday afternoon :)

Hope everyone has some nice plans for the weekend (POAS and pant checking aside). When does Art go to China? She might well have gone already!

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freelancegirl · 13/05/2011 10:31

Sorry for stoopid caps xx

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iloveblue · 13/05/2011 10:52

Hello everyone

Just been having a giggle - these recent posts have really tickled me Grin

I was also confused about Craig - still not that much the wiser Confused, and don't think I will ever look at EWCM again without imagining it being squirted out of a laser gun.

mopey I'm so sorry you got a BFN this month, it really kicks you in the teeth doesn't, even when you think you're prepared for it. Hoping next month will be lucky for you - and gives you another cycle to get your body as ready as possible.

Hi shell - I missed your first post, so sorry for not saying hello and welcome. How are you feeling today?

Jemima - nice to hear from you, sorry you're still getting a BFP, but yes, I've also heard that it can take a while for hormones to go right down.

LIG - you couldn't possibly be pregnant could you???

IC - I've also got a good feeling that you will get a BFP this time. Keep us posted x

Hope you get some answers today Really - limbo-land is not a nice place to be.

Free I'm not quite sure what to say about your brown blob (I do love the word blob btw). Maybe just a last bit of lining expelling itself. Hopefully thats it now.

Pixie - thanks for sharing. It sounds like you have a good set-up organised - hope AF gets a move on and you can start TTC soon. Oh and POAS is pee on a stick Smile

Well, I'm on CD19 - we have been SWI (what does that stand for??) every other day, but I've had no signs of ovulation, not even EWCM.
Is it possible to ovulate this late in a cycle?
I don't know how I've managed to have two childen + two more pregnancies and still know very little about my cycles.
I gave up on the OPK's - tried them for 5 days and nothing, and wasn't willing to buy another pack. So I suppose I'm almost in 2ww.

Hello to BLL and cream and anyone else I may have missed out. Have a lovely weekend.

iloveblue · 13/05/2011 10:54

Forgot to say - have a fab time arti, sounds like the experience of a lifetime.

X-posted free - ooooh I love afternoon tea. Have a lovely time x

freelancegirl · 13/05/2011 11:10

Hello blue! SWI is shagging with intent, I do believe :) But what is dtd or similar? I think it means the same but not sure what is stands for. Have read it used on other threads. It's lovely to see people moving on and ttc again though. Yes we are all keeping a watchful eye on IC and Really.

Do you always think there are signs of ovulation or can it happen without you knowing? I am not sure about all this stuff either. I got pg pretty easily last time too. Actually pretty easily the two times before that (one unwanted, age 19 and the other unknown until a mc age 20). What's the bets that if I ever start SWI again I will find it hard this time.

Tell me, what is the CD in CD xx? Does it mean days since your period stopped? And tell me about the 2ww! I guess I should start swotting up on this stuff just in case!

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