The virtual girls' holiday in Ibiza thread - moving on from mc with or without ttc but with plenty of wine and virtual all night dancing

[freelancegirl]

Ok ok I succumbed to peer pressure to create the thread. This is a place for some of us (and anyone else who wants to join) who have been through the downs of mc and are ready for brighter days and a place to chat nonsense away from the How Are You Feeling Post MC thread. The How Are You Feeling thread should still survive, especially for those newly going through the process, but here we can move on to hopefully brighter days.

Really (newly minted with a BFP and therefore the first of the group to be properly ttc) can kick us off with her no doubt filthy dalliance with a Geology student (was it?) in Crete and we can all pretend we are in a girls' holiday in Ibiza. Grab a glass of sparkly and plonk your (this is virtual so we can look exactly as we want to) toned bikini bodied bum on a bar stool! xx

REALLY -
unfortunatley theree are rubbish people out there with no concern of our emotions. i think we should all turn up to your next apmt (if it's with her) in person & shout at her.... bring pieces of paper & wave them in her face & then all burst in to tears in front of her - stupid woman - gosh, i'm sooo cross.
it's a hard enough time anyway without another woman making it worse.....
urgh....
anyway. we are here to help you feel betta x x x x

what is that thing with the dates - i thought i was the only one !
(due to my circumstances - we used a donor so I know when the sperm arrived!) - they totally refused to beleive the date of conception & kept telling me that I got the date wrong - HOW COULD I HAVE GOT THE DATE WRONG? we only did 2 inceminations ! 1 on the monday night & 1on the Tues morning (less than 12 hrs apart) ... i ask you ? & I told them that too, they still didn't get it...

now unless I am indeed called Mary...

What does a woman have to do?????

pixie
x

Ahem pixie/Mary

Please note my MN nickname.

Well, there's still hope by the sounds of it Really! Bravo and FX and all the other luck things. That sonographer was well out of order. Have you considered putting in a complaint? I'm not suggesting you try and get compensation for emotional distress (although I suppose you could if you wanted to) but if a non-medic such as yourself eventually worked out the mistake, there's not excuse. And what if she does the same misinterpretation for other women? And as free said, how awful if someone had ERPC on the strength of it...

Bloody DM, free!

That's just what we all need to cheer up this thread. An immaculate conception. Everyone, think hard, has an Angel called Gabriel been in touch?

I've got a mate called Gabriel who Facebook's me sometimes, does that count?

Hello ladies,

Pixie suggested I pop in, this is a very appropriate thread as I cancelled an Ibiza hen weekend last Friday and found out on Monday that I'd had an MMC at 9 weeks. I'm just back from a ERPC which went well although I woke up crying which I think panicked the nurse. Had to explain that it was the procedure rather than the pain.

Am feeling relatively OK but know that could all change.

Really have only just (virtually met) but have everything crossed for you and hope you have a much better professional per on your next visit rather than the work experience fool it sounds like you got.

Oh really - got my fingers crossed that all is okay, and that you never have to deal with that ridiculous doctor again. Doctors should make you feel like you're in safe hands - but I'm finding that is less and less so.

That DM article is a bit rubbish free - I think you would have done a much better job.

Hello to everyone else x

Miscarriages are indeed soon going to be soooo last season. That should the title on my next pitch as I might get it now. Really, really hope you are not going to have an mc this time around cos, to be honest, it just ain't cool anymore now EVERYONE's having them...

As a resident Spanish expert (along with IC of course) I don't think I need to point it out to you that IC is actually foreign muck for Immaculate Conception. And was indeed the name of the church I got married in in Spain (and indeed another 10,000 churches).

Feel any after shocks of the Spanish earthquake IC? My Dad just alerted me to it on the news. He is ok down in Malaga though, this time. Worrying though. I was in a tremor there when I was a kid, all the apartments shook.

Really and Pixie are you SURE you got your dates right...? :)

at IC - yes indeed - it hadn't crossed my mind until you mentioned it = doh.....

& plenty of pillows thrown in FREEs directions x x x ahhhhhh

Hi REALLY - hope these posts are cheering you up a wee bit? [hugs]

BIG pieces of my white & dark chocolate bar to everyone x (it's a big bar)

x I am indeed now called MARY & off to do IC deeds with plenty of gorgeous folks tonight whilst driking cupious amounts of sweet liquor & smoking plenty of virtual fags..... later ladies x (or are you coming with?)

MARY x x x x

actually - i think i did see Gabriel on the beach earlier, he had his hands all over IC x x x x x

actually - i think i did see Gabriel on the beach earlier, he had his hands all over IC

Wings, me thinks.

Maybe we should all take on some religious names so that when people read back over our posts eons later they will wonder why Sister Mary, Joseph, and the Archbishop of Canterbury were so interested in checking their pants.

PLEASE don't hand me even virtual chocolate. I have been mainlining cake for days now at my nan's. I am going to have to do so much self-flagelation to make myself feeling even worse about this. I haven't even been doing any virtual exercise to make up for it. Home tomorrow but then it's already the weekend and that probably means more calorific naughtiness. Need more will power.

really - hope this all translates into positive news on Friday for you, it must be very confusing for you. If Dr Google hasn't already made the referral, the American Pregnancy Org has some quite good stuff on early fetal development that I remember obsessing over.

Welcome shellshocked and sorry you had to come and find us and for what you have been through. But if you have to be anywhere, this is a lovely, funny and supportive place to be so feel free to cry, rant, swear and pretend to sleep with waiters.

Jeez Louise, I am cream-crackered (no offence intended, creamcracker). But I have finished work and I am going on holiday tomorrow, whoop, whoop! And if that isn't exciting enough for one day, I also have to dispense my first morning urine into a radioactive postal piss pod and send it on its way. Too much fun.

Feeble waves and apologies for not name-checking proper like.

Too much fun indeed! The rest of us will be watching passing Royal Mail vans keenly to see if any of them are humming with a radioactive glow and give your wee a Royal wave as it goes on it's way.

Where you going on hols? xx

PS Glad you apologies for using Cream's name in vain...

ART- where r u going?

do u realise that where ever it is u will have a large group of us cooeying & waving st u on every corner!!!!

I am off to see the Great Wall of China! (something else I arranged in a moment of post-mc midlife crisis). We are staying with friends in Beijing. I am both excited and terrified (the latter at the thought of DS on an aeroplane for ten hours). Hopefully China's stringent internet censorship doesn't yet extend to the evil that is MN and I'll be able to log on from time to time for a cocktail with Carlos.

free. Good luck with your pitches. DP works in TV and I tried to convince him that he could pitch me as part of a freaky pregnancy programme, based mainly on the fact that Channel 4 would surely fall over themselves to air a programme called 'The woman who was pregnant with a mole'. Alas, DP remains resolutely unconvinced.

Right. Go and pack.

Wow, arti, have a fantastic time!

Thanks, pixie

Now free, if you can't have virtual chocolate, what kind of chocolate CAN you have?!

And you don't think Gabriel will post that as his FB status, do you?

Welcome Shellshocked1. Bad luck at having to find us, but we're glad you did. Pull up virtual glass of Sangria

Well, post mc AF2 is due about now. No sign yet. I am feeling pg symptoms, however (same as last time - indigestion/bloating/wind) but they could easily be psychosomatic or PMS. I'll keep you informed....

WOW art.
That is so cool x brilliant, so brave, bloody fantastic time... I am well jealous. I'm sure its gonna b such great fun. Don't worry about DS On The plane. Staff r usually good as they r used to them.take plenty of books & favorite toys etc...&even if its hard, it will be worth it & will only last a few hours (smile).

IC - I'm waiting for my (1st post m/c) AF too. Due on Sat. Bloated, windy & chocolate craving in RL. I'll keep my fingers crossed yrs r pg symptoms.when will u know?

If my AF does come in next couple of days, we will start ttc end of may (scared smiley face,with a slightly panicked look) xx

It's odd, as I've read everyone else's posts on being in this situation.& never thought of when I would going through it. I'm actually scared.... very odd.
No more brie, strong coffee,wine, (can I still have these things here?).

& what if m/c happens again. My sonographer actually told me not to hang around due to my age (cheek!).

Hugs to everyone (hi shell.u made it x)

MARY x

Hello everyone.
Havn't posted for a bit as have been having a whole rollercoaster of emotions and feeling a bit fragile.
Looking forward to joining you for a dip in the pool later though with a few sangrias.

Really - sorry you have been having a crap time of it, your sonographer sounds totally unprofessional and a proper cowbag. I would seriously consider put in a complaint and make sure you don't get her for the next scan. Fingers crossed for you.
Shell - hello, i hope you are doing ok and recovering from your erpc.

Just about to head off to hospital myself as just did my 2 weeks post erpc preggy test and its still flipping positive, fuckeroo. Just rang them and they said they would do a blood test(they said it was common to still be positive - did anyone else have this?).
I just want to get everything back to normal and get cracking with the ttc again. Have been feeling immensely broody and currently really peeved at DH insisting that we wait a cycle until we start again (he has actually gone out and bought condoms, v annoying). Feels like time is disappearing. With the 2 mc's and this waiting we will have lost 6 months of this year in ttc time. I do realise i am sounding slightly deranged with it all and that there is more to life! I have a hen do (that i am organising) this weekend and then 2 weddings in the next month to distract me though!
Sorry this has been so me me me.
Hope everyone else well!

When I do a test, I guess pixie - or if AF turns up
I'll probably leave it around ten days then if there's still no AF, I'll get a pee stick.

That's frustrating, Jemima. It wouldn't surprise me if that is a fairly common situation, but that doesn't make it less annoying. Lovely to hear from you again, though!

pixie do you mind me being super-nosy and asking if you know your donor personally or if he's anon? Just curious because of the different ways my lesbian mum friends did the insemination bit. One mum wanted a dad to be involved in a part-time way and amazingly found a male friend who was willing to accept those terms. He is still a part of his DC's life, looks after them, has them to stay, takes part in family activities etc. even though he never had a romantic involvement with the mum (this was all with the full consent of her partner, btw). It's an interesting set-up, but seems to work well for them all - the DC are lovely, very happy and well-adjusted. Who says the conventional family set-up is the only/best way of raising children?!

PS free no earth-shaking here, thankfully.

Well, not in that sense

Thanks arti, have an amazing time in China, sounds like an incredible thing to do.

Thanks for the sangria Immaculada, when do we move onto the shots?!

Am feeling OK today, although complete lack of motivation, am planning on going back to my Mum's but still sitting here in my dressing gown.

Jemima they didn't even tell me to do a pregnancy test after my erpc, will have to check. They told me in A&E that the pregnancy hormone can show up in your urine for quite a few weeks, even after miscarriage so that may be why. The blood test shows up everything more quickly. Hope you get the answer you want and you can start TTC again. It's the first thing on my mind but we've agreed to wait a couple of months because of timing in our jobs. Although I've got the fear that I'll wait and then it won't happen. Such a mass of emotions.

Soz in advance for crap abbreviations (like Soz for a start), spellings and lack of paragraphs as am in train. Shell, I reckon it's shot time already isn't it? It's almost 10am afterall! Arti - bloody hell, china! I know you said you had booked it a while ago (well, a couple of weeks ago, but post mc days are like dog years) bur didn't realise you were going so soon. How amazing. Yes the woman who was pg with a mole is a perfect c4 doc! Not quite so good as the woman who gave birth to mole but we work with what we've got. Seriously, tell dp to commission my doc, it will be good! Miscarriage is going to get more attention, I can feel it in my virtual mooncup. Well, like the rest of you I feel bloated, chocolate craving and the rest. am not expecting af for ten days yet though! As matt and Luke might say (c'mon, we are all ladies of a certain age) I keep singing to myself - when will I, will I be thin again. Must get out more. Or better still stay in more. Jem, I got a negative after around 2 weeks after starting mc but then bled for weeks after that. It's all very annoying. Let us know how doc visit goes. Hi pix, Ic, really and all else who sail this ship xxx

Free I can't believe you didn't mention Craig. Poor Craig, I wonder what happened to him? .

I have an idea for a script.

It is about a group of women with superpowers.

Characters so far:
*Free - the incredible bleeding woman - she can see the future in her mystical mooncup.
Arti Half lady/half mole. Off to China to burrow under the Great Wall and establish her headquarters.

IC Has heavenly powers and in a tumultous relationship with 'Angel' (Gabriel).

Pixie A bit lady/mostly Pixie
Really Can take out Sonographers with a scanning probe which is actually a light sabre.
And so it goes on. Couldn't figure one out for LIG Any ideas? Add yourselves ladies, don't be shy.

Plot ideas anyone?

Shell I hope you have a peaceful day, sounds good to be vegging in jim jams for the time being. Do you think you'll get looked after at your mums? I hope so.

Jemima Oh honey, you never know. The hcg level might be really low and could vanish in the next few days. Am sorry this is dragging on for you.

Big kisses to everyone else, I hope I haven't missed anyone xxxx

Craig is actually a very successful songwriter and producer and ain't half bad looking! I was at radio 2 studios a few weeks ago and had a chat in the lift with matt! I could swear he was flirting with me. Years ago I would have peeded my pants at such a prospect. Super Miscarriage Superheroes is a great idea for a cartoon. I can't believe it is not already in production. Dr s, a man of mythical proportions, can be are mysterious leader. No one knows what he looks like but takes orders (and lots of praise of course) from him via radioactive peep pots we all put to our ears like sea shells. We capture evil sonigraphers with home spun ewcm (much stronger than cat gut) shot from specially adapted tampon guns. Pow!

I hate it when my iPhone conspires to make me look semi illiterate