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The virtual girls' holiday in Ibiza thread - moving on from mc with or without ttc but with plenty of wine and virtual all night dancing

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freelancegirl · 03/05/2011 10:24

Ok ok I succumbed to peer pressure to create the thread. This is a place for some of us (and anyone else who wants to join) who have been through the downs of mc and are ready for brighter days and a place to chat nonsense away from the How Are You Feeling Post MC thread. The How Are You Feeling thread should still survive, especially for those newly going through the process, but here we can move on to hopefully brighter days.

Really (newly minted with a BFP and therefore the first of the group to be properly ttc) can kick us off with her no doubt filthy dalliance with a Geology student (was it?) in Crete and we can all pretend we are in a girls' holiday in Ibiza. Grab a glass of sparkly and plonk your (this is virtual so we can look exactly as we want to) toned bikini bodied bum on a bar stool! xx

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LIG1979 · 04/05/2011 20:25

Just been reading all todays posts and looking at frees utube videos and now debating between actually booking a holiday and doing my study.....

big waves to arti and serurigal along with everyone else. chilled white port? sounds interesting -never even heard of it! i am also going through that sort of rebellion stage - sort of thought i was over all that partying but now I seem to have developed a taste for it again - i think it is because i can. the soft cheese thing was almost a rebellion for me not sure i even love it that much. (left my scan a few weeks ago after the bad news and went to the local pub for beer and baked camembert!)

anyway - someone is about to steal my sunlounger that is in prime position to watch the fit men play football and in the best area of the pool. Gotta dash

Reallyusefulengine · 04/05/2011 20:40

Arti You get free cheese? I bloody wish I had bagged a DH with a madame de fromagerie wotsit mother. Tell us more, anyway, what kind of cheese, all cheese, special cheese, etc etc. Or is she made of cheese but you are allowed to nibble her, cos you're family, like?

Wow, writing a children's book sounds incredible. Tell all, but give priority to the cheese details if you're pushed for time.

LIG Are you coming tomorrow night? I hope so! pm me your email address if you can and I can email you, or you can rock up tomorrow as you'll recognise Free.

Securegal YOur trip to NY sounds awesome. Can we all come too?

I am very impressed by the chilled white port too. That's I.C for you, she's a bit posh. Smile

pixie100 · 04/05/2011 20:50

I NEED A VERY STRONG - VERY LARGE - VERY VERY POTENT COCKTAIL & I NEED IT NOW ..............................

sil speaking my DP at the mo. complaining about her 2 day old crying ... & her 3y/o DD being too clingy.....

WHERE ARE THOSE DRINKS - pretty please x x x x

& I for one am up for dancing the night away - guzzling ANYTHING & dirty dancing with anyone remotely cute....

in 1980's rave bar it is - anyone else up for it????

please dont let me out alone again tonight - i get in to such naughty trouble if i'm let out alone... ANYONE?

I can see patrick swazay (mmmm not spelt correclty me thinks) - swinging his hips in my direction -

BYE

Pixie
x

Jemimapuddleduk · 04/05/2011 21:07

I will dust off my glow sticks and white gloves and come a raving Pixie, just let me knock back a couple of these delicious sangrias first.

See you in a bit.

freelancegirl · 04/05/2011 21:12

Hello! so many posts I will have to do a lot of scrolling to reply.

Really, you think having grown up in Spain and doing a lot of misspending of my youth there I would know the Spanish for STI clinic but sadly I can?t help. Pedro?s uncle was a dish though so fully worth a bit of a rash.

Yes I do normally get up around 8.30 or sometimes 9am. Sometimes I go back for a lie down around 11am. Getting up can be so exhausting! But I haven?t done that for a while being that I am back at the gym in full force. It was a real treat when I was pg though, I know how lucky I am to have the time to be able to do it. Having the time is a bit of a bugger though as it means I don't have as much work in as I need and am therefore rather skint.

Ooh IC, legs lasered? I would love to do that. I am finding that it hasn?t totally got rid of everything but it is so much easier to keep control of. Not that my bush was totally out of control but you know what I mean. And so does Pedro.

My lady bits were lasered at Skin Oasis in London but it was with that fab offer from Group On. I always see them coming up though so you must apply for the emails. I have had some fab offers from there ? gone to restaurants/theatres/bars/hotels/salons I wouldn?t have even known about unless I have had the voucher offer. It?s a nice way of doing something new for a bargain.

Seen a photo of Pixie, courtesy of Really and she is indeed rather Pixie-esque. Cute! Sorry I missed the fry up, I was too busy having a breakfast San Miguel. I do like a good beer buzz early in the morning.

Securegal, so glad you grabbed your passport, booked into our apartment and slipped onto a lounger by the pool. I do remember you from other threads but this one is so much more, well, Ibiza dahling.

Actually, in response to Sec and Arti too, the whole Ibiza thing has started for precisely the reasons you were voicing about having urges to go out and go a bit mad. A lot of us have been embracing hedonism with a bang since mc. I for one drank for England (Europe?) for a good few weeks, getting trashed on most weekends (and there were some quite long ones) as well as some mid week specials. Trying to be good but then wanting to drown sorrows and also just have a flipping blow out. I think I missed the carefree days of pre-pg, pre-mc and pre-getting bloody older. Then every time I did get pissed I would also find myself racked with guilt about what I was doing to my body, what I was doing to my mind, had I drunk-dialled or upset anyway or made myself look a twat. Really and I were going through the same thing, waking up at 5am with 'the fear' ? until she selfishly got re-duffed - but I too am ready for a bit more clean living so it is good to force myself to have a break. Last week though (and I am not saying I won?t feel this way again soon) I just wanted to run away. Not be married, not be worrying about fertility/age/mc and the rest and just be living a really exciting life somewhere bloody anywhere but in my own life. Hence the urge for the girls holiday. Honestly if I had the cash I would round us all up and insist we go for real! My brother lives in LA and I am so tempted to ask him to pay for me to go visit :)

After the weekend however I woke up with renewed vigour for my career ? which I am completely passionate about ? and am really trying to focus on making that a very good place to be. If one major element of my life is going well that I will be less wanting to focus on the bad stuff. And less wanting to escape and question everything.

Loving the idea of holidays to both New York and China! Haven?t been to China. As LIG mentioned earlier (I sent her and Pixie links to my online video so they can see what I look like) I am indeed a travel writer so have great perks of the job, but as a freelancer it is also up and down and I have to do a lot of digging around for work. So I do get free trips abroad sometimes but I don?t get free cheese. Free cheese!!! Am well jel (as they might say in Essex). Arti, if you can come to a future meet up we might be giving you Chinese burns if you don?t bring some seriously smelly stuff and hand it round at the table.

So - manana.... As Really can get there pretty early and I have feck all to do can too, we might be the first. Everyone else text/call us if you can't see us! LIG hope you can come too. But hopefully there will be a next time too if you and whoever else can't make it can't.

Feeling rather sun burnt but looking forward to getting my toned, brown limbs out for another night on the town with my favourite holiday girlees.

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freelancegirl · 04/05/2011 21:14

Hello Jemima sorry - crossed posts. Must be the poolside cocktails. Start as we mean to go on!

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pixie100 · 04/05/2011 21:21

cool DUCK - where r we off to?

& yes, very good vid of free - she's a super star ! ! !

I'm free-lance/self employed too so really understand the battle between LOVING the free-time, when your not working, but not enjoying the non-money ! ! ! !

nighty nighty - off we go ducky x

Pixie

ps - i'm so excited about meeting y'all tomorrow - x Grin

artifarti · 04/05/2011 21:26

MIL is retired now but used to be a cheese expert, mainly of the French type. She can still get free cheese from where she used to work so whenever we go there there's brie, manchego, roquefort, Saint Agur, the works

My children's book is a picture book. It has talking foxes and shit and that in it. I think it is fair to say that JK Rowling won't be putting a bounty on my head anytime soon but it keeps me out of trouble.

Freelance - travel writer, coo-ol. I have a chum who is one of them - he does bugger all too. Wink

pnjeff · 04/05/2011 21:41

securegal Welcome to Ibiza

Sorry only just got back from a day doing undescribable things with a young spanish lifeguard from the beach. Although i think i must shower soon as the sand has got in some unthinkable places :)

Well here i have got brown spotting?? hmmm me n dp were a little naughty this morning which could have caused this right? my period doesn't normally start like this buy then again my body does its own thing since mc!! Also my dp found out today that his company has gone into administration!! so im panicking!!

Well hope all is going more to plan for everybody else.xx

Reallyusefulengine · 04/05/2011 21:44

Pixie I'm excited too!

Arti I am going to re-train at Cheese School and become a Freelance Cheese Expert. It sounds awesome, although I will be the size of a house. Actually I will probably be the same shape as a giant Edam.

BTW. I went to Zara today and got a new skirt for tomorrow night. I am that excited! Woo hoo! I didn't want to be travelling to town looking like a crazy yokel. Grin

freelancegirl · 04/05/2011 21:59

Cheese eating, children's book writing, skirt buying, fiddling with Spanish lifeguards... you are all so witty and clever and I love you all! Yes freelance cheese eater would be particularly good. Maybe that's the career change for Pnj. And now Mr pnj too. That must be worrying though. Also worrying, what on earth is the brown spotting about?? It's never ending isn't it! I was feeling a few weird crampy feelings earlier too. And my tummy feels so bloated still. Forget a new skirt for tomorrow night, I might be needing some elasticated jeans and a girdle.

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pixie100 · 05/05/2011 09:11

Pn. I'm pretty sure that the brown spotting could be because of naughtyness.not from my personal experience mind you, but I was told (by my surgeon at hospital just after my m/c) to expect it if I was naughty (this did make me smile at the time (smile).
& I'm also still v.bloated too. I guess its normal???

I love the idea of being an official cheese taster, wouldn't make much money tho as id be to busy eating it all.yummy.

I'm also loving the idea of another holiday to NY. Can we gate-crash?

Ps: I've just had THE most fantastic nite dancing the tunes away doing the mirangue,salsa, &having the time of my life... oh Jennifer Wots yr name 'eat yr heart out' . Terrific.

Im off to bounce on a banana x
Pixie x

InmaculadaConcepcion · 05/05/2011 10:56

Ah, white port. Yes, I had some while on a Port tasting tour in the Oporto. It's kind of like sherry but nicer. Ice cold, it makes a lovely apero.

I hope you don't have too much fox shit in your book, arti, it's really stinky stuff as anyone whose dog has rolled in it can attest (!)

pnj don't discount implant bleeding either.... (although I suspect pixie's explanation is more likely to be most accurate)

Have a great time tonight, free, Really, pixie and anyone else going along. I'd love to join you, but even with cheap flights, it's a bit of a schlep from Madrid.

(Can't joke about big bananas and men with Spanish names here, DH might get the wrong end of the - ahem - stick)

pnjeff · 05/05/2011 22:14

Hi hope everyone is enjoying their meet?
I tried to see my doctor today but they have no appointments till next thursday? Thats great! pulling my hair out!!
Right i'm very jealous of the ladies with their wine in London so i'm heading off to meet my spanish lifeguard at the club :) xx

creamcracker · 05/05/2011 22:44

Hi pnjeff looks like we're the only 2 hanging out in ibiza tonight!!

Are you still brown spotting? I had this a bit a few days after I stopped bleeding from the mc/erpc. I went to the docs & he did an internal & said it was just old blood clearing out. Being naughty would also result in some brown blood after for me. Worth getting it checked though if only for peace of mind.

Right ladies, looking forward to a run down of your night! Either some drunken posts tonight or hungover ones in the morn! Or some sober one's from Really x

pnjeff · 05/05/2011 23:56

yes this is the third day will ring docs again tomorrow and push for an appointment! i'm so confused!
Yes where are all the drunken posts?
Well Cream i'm at the beachparty with a sex on the beach cocktail ready for you! Come on down xx

artifarti · 06/05/2011 09:02

MORNING ALL! Any hangovers?! Hope you all had a great time. Count me in next time.

Sorry about the spotting pnjeff. I think the body does do some bonkers things after mc. Hope the doc can give you some reassurance.

IC I discovered white port on holiday last year, yuminy-yum. It is now a sore point in our house though as DP bought me a bottle for Christmas then I found out I was pg so couldn't drink it and by the time the pg had gone tits up he had drank the lot! In his defence he did buy me another bottle and then drank half of it. I also know all about fox shit as my cat once rolled in it and was so disgusted with himself he couldn't eat so we had to wash him

Can I just say how pleased I am to have found you guys? I get no support in RL (other than DP) as everyone assumes I'm 100% fine now (most of my good friends have fortunately never had a mc). There are moley forums but they are a bit depressing and obsessive about when you can/can't TTC again. It's great to come on here and hang out with people who understand mc but where it's about more than the mc or ttc again (which leave me feeling a bit of a freak and a bit sad because I can't). And, of course, you are all V CLEVER AND FUNNY.

IT'S MY DAY OFF, WHOOP, WHOOP!

Reallyusefulengine · 06/05/2011 09:10

Arti so pleased you found us too.

Had a lovely time last night with Pixie and Free. Ladies, we must plan another one. Am flying the door to go to the offie to buy white portthe park but will write later xxxxx

pixie100 · 06/05/2011 09:35

M o r n I n g ... oh deary me.

I Had gr8 time.thank you ladies.

Only I bumped into someone I know through work & I was slightly worse 4wear.... slightly embarrassing.well it probably will b when I next see them...Ouch.

I am the only one suffering this morning???

Will post later x I'm going back to bed..... urgh ....

freelancegirl · 06/05/2011 09:58

We ARE all indeed very clever and funny I agree :) Or at least I thought we were last night, three bottles of wine into proceedings...And we were especially funny I thought when we were seeing whether Pixie's client could guess how we all met Grin

I DO have a hangover I think, and it's not often I get them. I came home and cracked open a tin of tuna for dinner. So must have been a tad, er, tipsy.

Arti we are very pleased you found us too and you must meet us for the next one, which I really hope there will be. It was great to be able to talk about the gory detail in RL with our VL (virtual life) friends. Funny actually as my best friend in RL who I thought would be telling me to snap out of it by now is really very supportive and understanding. I think it is maybe because she has had a baby last year, it seems to have softened her. She gave me a big hug last week and told me I had been very brave.

Pnj how bloody annoying! How are you feeling today? Still spotting? It must be 'stuff' still to come out surely? I must say I constantly check my knickers too, there is never a knicker-checking-free visit to the loo these days. I guess the only consolation is it is better out than in.

Well, I've been up and out to the shops (at 8.30am! Must be a freelance record), had apple, strawberries and greek yoghurt for breakfast and in a bit I intend to go to the gym. Oh, I guess I could do some work but frankly, my dears, I just don't know if I can be bothered.

Oh, I almost forgot I was in Ibiza!

Hello Cream and IC. Am with you on the white port. I also tried pink port not so long ago which was lovely. When I was wandering round to the shops for breakfast material this morning there are a sign outside a lovely local restaurant saying 'fancy a glass of wine? Our sunny terrace is open'. I realise it was something that was probably intended for later in the day but despite my hangover and it being not yet 9am the idea almost appealed to me.

Weighed in today 3 lbs lighter than last weeks weigh in. Hoping I can keep it up. I think the wine diet can work wonders as long as you don't add food to it :)

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freelancegirl · 06/05/2011 10:12

PS A text message this morning to tell me that one of my friends has had another little girl in the night. She had a really awful mc (needed blood transfusions and 4 days in hospital!) about 6 weeks before getting pg with this one so was terrified all the way through. So it's lovely news for her. She was really supportive to me when I first started to go through this too. Just thought I would mention it. Not sure why, you are all probably busy out drinking in parks like Really...

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iloveblue · 06/05/2011 11:51

Hello all

Glad you had a lovely time last night really, free and pixie

Its my day off too arti - just had a mad urge to clean/tidy the house. It doesn't happen very often so I had to make the most of it!

How is the spotting today pnjeff?

Did anyone else watch the Inside the Human Body programme last night. I was riveted - so fascinating. For those who didn't they had a computer animated simulation of the sperm's journey to the egg - definitely worth checking out, I learnt lots. Including the fact that there are around 250 million sperm in every ejaculation!! But 85% of them are duds, and it can be down to the last 20 by the time they reach the egg.
I was also amazed at the part where they reach the fallopian tubes, crash into the walls and 'power down' (for up to 5 days) until the egg is released - then just start up again. Very cool Smile

iloveblue · 06/05/2011 11:52

That is lovely news about your friend free - I'm so glad she has got her happy ending [smile}

iloveblue · 06/05/2011 11:52

Whoops, my brackets went a bit wonky Smile

Reallyusefulengine · 06/05/2011 14:34

Oh those macho sperms. I do love the thought of them having a 'power down'. You could say they're having a nap but no, they POWER DOWN! BIG STRONG SPERM MEN DO NOT SLEEP, WE POWER DOWN. I AM MAKING A COCOA BEFORE MY POWER DOWN. AM I IN THE RIGHT PLACE? NO IDEA, I WILL NOT ASK FOR DIRECTIONS. etc etc. Amazing, I imagine the egg comes out, takes one look at them and rolls her eyes to heaven.

I had a flipping great night out, a slightly too good night out in light of my bfp but never mind. I have been very brave and made an appt for Tuesday to see the doctor and get a scan. Am not feeling very updiffed so am not feeling very optimistic, I have a feeling something from the m/c might be hanging around.. we'll see.

Free Lovely news about your friend, bless her heart. 3lbs lighter? The wonders of the wine diet - you should write a book. Chapter 1. Drink wine. Chapter 2. Have a bit more wine. It'll be a bestseller for sure. The best bit is that you'll be so drunk that you won't actually be able to read the scales anyway.

pnj How's it going today? Anymore spotting?
ILB Happy cleaning! Come over and clean my house if you fancy it, you are more than welcome.
Arti Hope you're having a great day off. I like to think you are nibbling an enormous piece of cheese, in the sunshine, working on the book - which sounds fab. You are one clever lady.

Pixie Re your client: He was flirting with you madly by the way. I thought this morning that if he had actually guessed he would have had an hour long graphic description of passing sacs and God knows what. He would never have been the same again. And at least we didn't tell him that we had sought solace in cheese. He would have needed to POWER DOWN.

Big snogs to you all. I am handing out all sorts of Friday goodies. A quick bang on the crack pipe anyone? How about some meths? Or a hula hoop?