The virtual girls' holiday in Ibiza thread - moving on from mc with or without ttc but with plenty of wine and virtual all night dancing

[freelancegirl]

Ok ok I succumbed to peer pressure to create the thread. This is a place for some of us (and anyone else who wants to join) who have been through the downs of mc and are ready for brighter days and a place to chat nonsense away from the How Are You Feeling Post MC thread. The How Are You Feeling thread should still survive, especially for those newly going through the process, but here we can move on to hopefully brighter days.

Really (newly minted with a BFP and therefore the first of the group to be properly ttc) can kick us off with her no doubt filthy dalliance with a Geology student (was it?) in Crete and we can all pretend we are in a girls' holiday in Ibiza. Grab a glass of sparkly and plonk your (this is virtual so we can look exactly as we want to) toned bikini bodied bum on a bar stool! xx

awww its nice now that i can see babies and feel happy for others rather than jealous! Get some more down you :) I have just opened my second bottle so if i post again and you can't understand it, you know why x

Hello all lovelies,

Sorry I haven't been able to check in, I have been mad busy doing all sorts and saw a fantastic play in Shoreditch on Saturday night. Really good, mainly because it involved lots of naked men, so lots of me looking earnest whilst really checking out the wedding vegetables.

DH has just asked me if I am 'catching up with my correspondence' which made me laugh alot. I feel like the Pepys of the m/c world.

Am loving the weekend away chat. I think I would choose Madrid too, I haven't been there either but I.C is a very persuasive bunny.

I had an awful night's sleep on Friday and dreamt I was m/cing again and it was really vivid. I woke up and wasn't sure if it had happened (I dreamt I got up and went into the bathroom and there was tons of blood) and was freaked out for most of the day. Spend the day knicker checking and weeping. It was awful I should probably talk about this on the other thread...

arti I send you a hot toddy and a soft hanky. I hope you have Holby City dvd's to keep you company Possibly ones you have borrowed off LIG*

Pixie I hope you are well lovely girl
Bll I must look at the feminist thread too, I am intrigued.

Free Big snogs
pnj They are crazy hours, what the bejaysus? Are they actually legal and do you get breaks? You sound like a Victorian in a workhouse! I send you a big bosom cuddle.

Cream You lovely lady, please organise a big special weekend for all of us to see... IC in Madrid.
Mopey Big waves!

I hope I haven't missed anyone,
Big kisses, love to you all xxxx

really i can imagine why you worry its going to be hard but we all have a fingers crossed that all will be ok for you. My work are sneaky as im a mobile carer you have to drive from call to call and although they don't give you travelling time they class them as breaks. Oh well its extra pay at weekends and we sure need it after DP losing his job!

I think we should all really book a trip to Ibiza! we definately deserve it :) xx

Thanks pnj, am worried sick so trying not to think about it. So sorry to hear about your DH, is he definately going to lose his job?

Hi really I'm sure you just had a vivid dream because the niggling worry is lurking somewhere in the back of you mind - but I'm sure you will be absolutely fine especially if no sign of any bleeding - why dont you try and have an early scan at 6 weeks to keep your mind a little bit more at rest.
all fingers and toes crossed for you x

Mopey Hello lovely, I actually have a scan booked for tomorrow. I have no idea of dates as I hadn't had an AF. Absolutely cacking myself. Thank you for the reassurance, am trying not to think of it but keep tormenting myself by spending too much time on Dr Google.

ooh - how exciting - keep us posted, I'm on my 2ww at moment with af due at end of week!

Hello everyone

Good luck for tomorrow Really - have got fingers and toes crossed that all is well.

Hope your feeling better arti

And hello to everyone else - will be back for a longer post tomorrow x

Hey really - really hope scan is good tomorrow, all fingers and toes crossed for you. What time is it? Very scarey for you, I'm sure but hopefully reassuring news. I had to chuckle at your 'Pepys of the m/c world' reference!

pnjeff - sorry to hear about your DH. That must be a worry for you. Hope he can find something else soon.

mopey - hope the end of your 2ww brings you good things!

Cross-post blue - thanks and hello!

Oh no

I've just seen the news that Kelly Brooke has just lost her baby at 5 months pregnant .

What is going on? I had never heard of any celebrity having a late loss, until it happened to me and since then there have been three : Lily Allen, Amanda Holden and Kelly Brook. And I don't think it is because I'm just more aware of it. I was just looking at a picture of Kelly (with her little bump) and her chap looking really happy a few days ago. Its heartbreaking

I know, I saw it too. Poor, poor woman. I hope she has lots of support around her and the media leave her alone. I guess that celebrities are a lot more 'visible' these days through magazines and papers and so we hear about everything; whereas in years gone by, famous people probably had more privacy - and the media felt that such events shouldn't be reported.

Hope you are okay blue. x

really do you know the date of conception? I know you put on the other thread about it so maybe you could work out how far from there?

arti DP will definately lose his job if someone doesn't buy the store B&Q have bought some but theres isn't one of them. There pretty sure now that they will close down completely!

blue Its awful isn't it! Although it think it does show that it happens to all types of people. No matter how much money they have or how good their healthcare is, it can happen to anyone! It proves that it is natural and it happens a lot! Just hope she is getting plenty of rest and the press can leave her alone! x

Oh god, arti and blue, I just saw that Kelly Brook thing too!! How awful. 5 months :( Wonder what happened.

Actually I have been watching Kelly Brook's pregnancy with something of not envy but almost wonder - thinking wouldn't it be lovely to be that confident of it going well. Only that I was on the same plane with her in early January and I think we must have found out we were pg at around the same time. We were both in the early stages when we flew, although I didn't actually know I was pregnant. So a few weeks later when she announced hers we were pg at the same time, I lost mine and all was going so well with hers. It must be so horrifying for her.

Hope all goes well with dh's job pnj does he has any other plans if the worst happens? Or just to go out there and try get another job.

Hello Mopey, Really, Cream and anyone else I have missed. Am going back to read more about Kelly Brook. Poor girl, what sort of feeling she will be going through right at this moment :(

He has been asked if he can do a newbuild for a gentleman we know which will bring in a fair bit of money so will carry on looking while he is working on that xx

Aaargh! In Sweden on a work trip and just saw the news about Kelly Brook - sort of messed me up and now I am tearful and trying to psych myself up to go to work. The world is just such a horrible place at the moment - five months must be a terrible time to loose the baby. (Also, the guy I was supposed to travel with dropped out last minute as his dad is seriously ill - leaving me completely disorganised as I was planning on him being organised.Another horrible thing going on in the world.)

Saw the Dr about the PCOS yesterday - he was great and refered me to a gynae and ordered lots of blood tests. In a wierd way feel better as was sort of expecting him to tell me to go away and wait to see whether I got regular cycles again before doing anything.

Big waves - will post when i have a bit more time! xx

Hi LIG, yes it is awful isn't it. I think it resonates with us so much more too, considering recent happenings. I think I said above that I was watching her pregnancy anyway as we were on the same flight and pregnant at around the same time, not that I was jealous but because I was so in awe of it all going right for her as she (from what we saw anyway) confidently thought 'being pregnant' is equated with 'having a baby'. A confidence I don't think I could ever have again. And here she is. Awful. Especially so late.

I was thinking about you and your PCOS and looking out for info on it a bit more. Seems lots of people have it and have children and I am glad your doc is taking you seriously. Hope Sweden goes ok. I can empathise with your worries about organisation - I think I still have baby brain.

Has anyone noticed I am up rather early for me...? Couldn't sleep either. Am working from my nan's for a few days though so will get up and have a cuppa with her and try not to eat too much cake (it's on tap here). Am also going to try to go for a run....

Monkey. Welcome/hi,

Best remedies that have helped nearly everyone on this thread are:
Wine, icecream & cheese (especially the previously pg. off limits ones) & LOTS OF THEM x

Hi chocolate x

Thnx LIG x my SIL is a always a bit of a pain...but w.t.f...with yr SIS in Dubai? Have u spoken to her? Are things normally good between you??you must feel bit upset? The dvd seems bit mean timing...Big hugs yr way x (passing the large bottle of vodka yr way with the pack of Marlboro,plus yr breakfast plate of sausage,egg, beans&chips)

Hi & Luv n hugs to IC, FREE, MICHY, PUDDING, JEMIMA, MOPEY, DIAMOND, CREAM, BLUE, BLL, WL PN, 0x x x x & anyone I forgot mwah (which one of it was you dancing naked in the pool at 4am??? Singing "en...ge...laaaand... en..ge..land....en...ge..land")????? .

RE WE going to Madrid for our next virtual holiday???? Cool. Hola x

Pixie x

Ps. I keep waking up at 6am....?????

Dearest all

That is very sad about Kelly Brook. I hope she gets some privacy. The poor woman, what a thing to go through publicly.

LIG Sweden? Blimey? I hope you're okay and your meeting goes okay. Sorry you were dumped by your workmate. Good to hear you have started PCOS investigations.

Pixie 6am? Ouch.
Freelance I hope you're having big nana cuddles and enjoying the cake. On tap? How fantastic. I want one of those taps.
pnj The new build sounds great, what a cool project to work on. So sorry that you have all these hassles to think about at the moment.
Mopey How's the 2ww? How are you feeling?
Arti and ILB I hope you are both well and I send you both a parcel of snogs.

My appt is today at 12noon, it was moved forward from 2.20pm and I will report back straight afterwards. I am a bag of nerves. DH is coming too as are the DC, the clinic is in the middle of nowhere. I will have to remain composed, whatever the news.

This would all be alot easier if I could have at least 20 cigarettes and 2 bottles of wine to calm my nerves .

no FREE you are not being dim.. I AM -

i read the post on the how are you feeling after m/c & then read this thread & got everyone & everything confrused........ doh .

& i thought it was you who woke me up this morning ! ! ! !.

I'm off for a bit of banana bouncing with .... what was their name again ....? so many people, such little time........

(saunters off with vodka bottle strapped to her bikini & fag hanging from lips)...x

pixie

PS.... i am not liking these PMS feelings - not had to have them since Jan.... w.t.f. are they all about.

my 1st AF after m/c is due in a week & my body is all over the place - ? am I the only one?

I've got 'loose tummy contents syndrome', snarling at EVERYONE syndrome, headache from hell, tearful, extra bloated, sore bloody boobs, EVERYONE I encounter in RL gets on my nerves (especailly slow people, stupid people, people who insist on stanidng on the left on escillators (ooops spell check)... tell me im not going mad & its just the AF? pls x

Hello ladies

So, back from the scan and it isn't looking good. Have only 2 mins as DH is working from home and has cruelly taken over the computer. It isn't growing properly - it is too small for dates. I had my hcg taken and have to go back in 2 days to see if it has risen (I think they are ticking the boxes before the erpc, if I don't miscarry before). They did say it was worth having another scan in a week, but they weren't listening when I said there was no way this was a 2 week from conception pregnancy, absolutely not matching up with our dates. Fucking arse.

I wanted to punch the doctor who did the scan, she kept giving me bad news and grinning, this was after keeping me waiting for 40 minutes, insisting I drink 2 litres of water for a vaginal scan and generally being a dick. Nice to know it is equally shit when you go private.

Off to find some wine....

Have to say, when I was getting the bad news, I thought of you girls and it kept me sane. Am not upset, not like last time but am feeling pretty pissed off.

Big kisses xxxxxx

Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck. I was worried it was shit news when you didn't come back to us afterwards. Fuck. I wonder if this means there is a reason for it? Which, being pragmatic, might mean something can be done to stop this happening again. Fucking arse of a doctor too. She must have known what you have just been through?!?!! What the fuck is there to smile about??

Are you SURE about the dates? It sounds like you feel you are definitely sure from the above.

It's odd, I am more pissed off for you than upset too. I think we have become quite hardened over the last few weeks maybe. This experience has definitely changed me, I don't know about you.

I have just offered some help to someone who posted about going through a mc on another thread and all my advice was practical, with no :( faces or over-doing the sympathy. Just said, it's fucking awful, this is what happened to me, this might happen to you too, come back if you need to talk.

Hope we can keep you sane xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sorry about my fucking language xx

really so sorry to hear that news - was thinking of you this afternoon.
Big hugs xxx

Oh really what a truly rubbish day for you. Your virtual (& in some cases real life e.g. free & pixie) friends are always here for you. I wasn't listened to either when I questioned the dates they were giving me - you just know what you know. However the EPAU told me they had to do this as it's protocol.

Hope it all gets sorted out soon x