The virtual girls' holiday in Ibiza thread - moving on from mc with or without ttc but with plenty of wine and virtual all night dancing

[freelancegirl]

Ok ok I succumbed to peer pressure to create the thread. This is a place for some of us (and anyone else who wants to join) who have been through the downs of mc and are ready for brighter days and a place to chat nonsense away from the How Are You Feeling Post MC thread. The How Are You Feeling thread should still survive, especially for those newly going through the process, but here we can move on to hopefully brighter days.

Really (newly minted with a BFP and therefore the first of the group to be properly ttc) can kick us off with her no doubt filthy dalliance with a Geology student (was it?) in Crete and we can all pretend we are in a girls' holiday in Ibiza. Grab a glass of sparkly and plonk your (this is virtual so we can look exactly as we want to) toned bikini bodied bum on a bar stool! xx

Really how long after you stopped bleeding did you test because then i can kind of work out when my af due this cramping has been going on for about 4 days now :(

pnj Well, I tested 29 days after I stopped bleeding but that was only because I had some pregnancy tests at home (left over from testing after the m/c to make sure they came up negative). I felt a bit odd so I did it, I also did a ovulation test at the same time to try and shed some light on why i felt odd. But, anyway, that's a bit irrelevant. I think you can expect a period up to 6 weeks after your m/c. Having said that I was a bit suspicious as everyone else on the thread seemed to be coming on at around 28-32 days and I hadn't. Do you think it might be worth a trip to the doctor's just to check out the cramping? big hugs xxx

Don't freak me out, of course Cream is a big square crispy yet savoury snack with Jacobs on her chest. How could it be any other way?!

Sorry you are having weird symptoms pnj and just realised I didn't acknowledge your 'life change' comment. I know exactly what you mean and, having made a big career change myself some years ago, would tell you to go for it. We need to do things that make us happy. Finding out what that might be is difficult if you don't know I guess. Do you have any idea what you might like to do instead? Today I have started getting really proactive with work rather than sitting around being a bit crap. As for your af pnj - no bloody idea. I THINK i might have had one as there were a couple of splodges of dark red amid my six weeks as the Incredibly Bleeding Woman. Are you due another scan at all? At mine they found I had a small cyst which had 'got smaller' since the last scan - even though they didn't bloody tell me about that scan the first time. Today I googled possible symptoms and it seems you can get some aches and pains and also bloating (regular viewers might be aware of my frequent letters to the editor complaining about bloating...). I am not saying that is what you have too. I am just saying that there are always annoying bloody symptoms we might not ever get to the bottom of. But yes, maybe it is a BFP???

Talking of bottoms yes I did indeed get my lady bits lasered :) and yes to start getting shy about things now brings to horses bolting and too late closed doors. I was always crap at shaving and didn't really mind so much until I became a super fit gym bunny and noticed that the other girls in the changing rooms were all groomed to within an inch of their landing strips. So when a deal came around on Group On I signed up and got six treatments for £100! I still have to run a razor over the non lasered bit every couple of weeks but it really is fab :)

Radioactive pee pods being sent to hospital on a regular basis? That is just bizarre! How very odd you must feel arti. But I think like me it's quite good for a while as we are out of that ttc game for a reason, as long as your health is ok. A vague idea that once the referral is checked by the Dr S (aka God in the mc land) it takes about 12 weeks to get a nhs referral. But he has been on leave, there have been easter holidays, there was a delay at first when my referral wasn't received... so who knows. I could pay to get an earlier private appt but not sure whether that would mean I have to stay private with him or if the NHS can kick in later. Either way am chillin' about it at the moment, particularly here in our Ibizan hideaway

really and free so confused not sure what i'm expectin. My last scan said all was clear np cysts that they could see. I had a 1cm lining which they thought meant i was due my period soon! I don't know how soon! Well i don't think it could be a BFP but i have had a naughty moment Really did reasure me that it would be ok as she was 100% sure she wasn't pregnant! I had to have a giggle when i found her news. However i think the symptoms seem to be more like when i get my AF o dear what to do with myself!

As for what i want to do, i'd love to have a nice 9-5 monday to friday job, i work way too much! I do hope you get your referral from DR S soon free how dare they have time off so inconsiderate! xx

pnj Am thinking of you honey. And yes, I did give some resoundingly shit advice. I blame my Catholic upbringing - the nun's told us nothing!

Free But what if big full lady bushes come back into fashion? you'll be like the ladies in the '70's who plucked their eyebrows into slivers and then regretted in when they couldn't grow them back al a Brooke Shield's in the '80's. Tut. We'll have to get you a merkin for Christmas .

I have actually considered that if a full lady bush remerges onto the catwalks I will have to cover up in shame. Not that I am prancing around the dressing rooms with my bits out, I am a discreet and quick changer rather than a throwing it all open to the elements changer, but just in case anyone should glance I like to be prepared. I don't know if my fashion conscious side could bear the thought of being too trim to be cool so I would indeed have to wear a merkin (ooh, that's in the spell check!). My friend who had it done the same time as me went for the whole thing off!! I think that was a mistake. Getting rid of it all occasionally is fine if you like that sort of thing but it is good to have a choice. I think mine still has adequate coverage. This is the longest I have ever written about it but now I feel on a roll, maybe I should write a book. A photographic coffee table number of course.

Pnj we are watching you (although I know that sounds weird after the above paragraph) with interest to see what develops! Really could you also advise me that under no circumstances could I ever win the lottery?

haha really and i have decided that she should not get a job in the family planning clinic! And those nuns they do regret to tell you some important things! I was slighly worries you may be watching my lady parts but then again you know everything else about me im laughing at myself now and my partner thinks ive gone mad! I do like the sound of having laser treatment though! Yes really please advise me about the lottery too

does anyone mind if i don't wear my yellow biniki Thursday night ???? as it's a bit cold out & unfortunatey in RL Im not that toned, have celulite & a loose floppy tummy & do not want to been seen wandering around waterloo/southbank in a skimpy yellow biniki - would po=robably get arrested (mmmm now theres any interesting thread !!!) well... not until I've had at least a few glasses of pina coladas..... hicihic hic

pixie
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I suggest we meet at a pub 1st, if there is no where to sit, we can always move...the fire station is nice but always packed....but don't mind trying it.

I shall be dispensing my words of nonsense wisdom as they come to me.

Arti 4 of us are in London or Surrey. Do you fancy coming? Please do.

It's like having Brother's Grimm on the thread. Spun Blood? It's all very Rumplestiltskin.

Sorry we missed your crockery banging arti, I was too busy debating whether to snog Pedro or not at 6.30am (6.30am - are you mad? I am freelance - my alarm rarely gets set and this morning it is set for 9am just in case I overslept :) ).

Spun blood does indeed down fascinating.

Like Really says we would love to have you along for the ride on Thurs. We are also more than willing to scatter crumbs so you can find your way through the forest and let down our long golden hair so you can climb up to the bar to get a drink.

Pixie the Fire Station is indeed a good option but yes is often busy. You sound like quite a Waterloo connoisseur! I used to work around there too, on Hatfield St. Lets see what the weather is like tomorrow and assess whether we will go river bound or not and go from there.

Right, am going to PM you all my number so we have a more solid plan :)

Oooh, check Pixie and her knowledge of Waterloo. I am usually at the London Aquarium (yup, me and my love of fishes, not) so have no idea where the youth of today meet these days.

Free 9am?

Much LOLing at the various posts above - especially at Really's travelling expensively, arf arf....

I've decided that on our virtual holiday I will NOT be ttc, so can indulge at will.

I'm very pleased you didn't pee in the pool, given its radioactive qualities, arti...!

Ooh, I had my legs lasered recently - it's like being spattered with hot fat (the sensation) when you've got too close to the frying pan and sausages are going all fireworks. Mind you, I got sufficiently used to it that I nodded off while she was doing the backs of my legs. I'm impressed at you getting your ladygarden done, free! That strikes me as being a tad YEOUCH!

BTW - I AM A REAL PIXIE ... I am .... I am

I am shortish in height, reasonably small in stature & do in fact have pointy sticky outy ears...

have also just stumbled back into the apartment having danced the nite away with...... Ooooh what was their name again...????? Owe my head hurts & the sun is a bit too bright this morning....

Right. I'm off for a big fat fry up.... anyone else coming????? There is a right good British cafe on the beach....

As for thurs. Festival hall area sounds good. Plenty of choice of inside or out.

& I'm a connaisseur de tout, of course.I am a Pixie x

Hi all,

Can I join the Ibiza trip too? I had a MMC in early March at 8 weeks, and I am really feel in need of letting my hair down! It is so lovely to see such an upbeat thread full of such fun, nice ladies!

I starting to wonder if there was something strange wrong with me. After the initial sadness over the MMC I have been feeling slightly wild - just in need of a few good nights out, lots of shopping trips and a couple of new pairs of glam shoes (well, a few new outfits as well....oh, and a new bag....). Like I say, I just really need to let my hair down for a while. I don't know if it is just a reaction to my body being such a mess because of the mc, or a subconscious reaction to the idea of becoming a mother, but I have not felt like this in years. I am usually a very quiet living person - not really drinking and preferring to spend time at home rather than out in the evenings. Since I have gone back to work after the mc, I feel totally different. Does anyone else feel the same? We have decided to wait a few months to TTC - give us a chance to get over what happened and to enjoy some time together, going out and perhaps going on holiday. Anyway - this feels like just the thread for me!

Freelance - where did you get your ladybits lazered? As part of my 'new me' I decided to get the same thing done, but have been battling over the cost. I'm in London (I think you said you were too). Even if the 'full' look comes back into fashion, I don't think I'd be too worried! Do those kind of things go in and out of fashion?? .

Lovely to see you all! [raises mohito in a toast to you all]

welcome secugrel -

OUCH - lazer lady bits - OUCH OUCH OUCH - - that sounds sooo painful.

bet it looks good though...

my b'fast was delicious - instead of the egg & chips I headed straight back to the beach bar for more mojitos.......

caraf anyone?

who peed in the pool?

pixie

ps - SEC - I felt just like that - before ttc, i didn't drink much, go out on wild nights out etc.... but have changed since m/c - def feel like it's time to let my hair down... so totaly understand where you aer coming from on that one x

oh just reaslised i've not said hi to ARTI yet either - HELLO

are you a pina colada , mojoito or mix it all together girl? there are plenty of sun loungers, bar-men, suntan lotion putter onners, pools ( with no pee), drinks, & fun here in our ibiza - x

Welcome securegal!
The first thing I did (after getting over the initial upset) post mc scan was to quaff a glass of something fortified and eat a big chunk of brie. Wild, wild, wild, that's me(!)
But in seriousness, needing to enjoy the things formerly verboten by pregnancy is I suspect a very common reaction.

Thank you! More mojitos.....

I know what you mean about the 'ouch' factor in lazering ladybits! I had my eyebrows threaded in John Lewis last week and it was all I could do to stop myself shrieking with pain. I don't recommend this at all - largely because my face looked like it had been hit repeatedly with a hot frying pan, and I then had to negotiate my way out of John Lewis and down Oxford Street !!!

I think I might be a caipirinha girl...mmmm....and for breakfast too...you ladies are exactly the therapy I need. :-)

cheers IC . it really IS NOT a good idea to eat runny eggs on an an emtpy stomach.

Hello to everyone else - (sorry not to name check everyone) x how many of us are there here? it's quite a party. I for one am v. glad to be on this thread (oh look out - here comes the drunken I loves everyone bit...)

but serisouly everyone - you're just greeeet... zonderful & ..... hichichic (

pixie x

btw - concrete on the southbank sounds fab - did you know they have dj on Thursday nights?????? our RL ibiza here we come !!!!!

Ola!

Welcome securegal! Am tut tutting at the lasering lady garden nonsense and have settled down to knit you and Free some woollen knickers for winter. You'll be thanking me come February. You can't rub vick's on those bits you know . Oh the agonies of threading. I usually end up with tears running down my face and sneezes and snot everywhere. The therapist is usually quite pleased to see the back of me. I had my upper lip threaded recently and I nearly passed out from the agony. Plus it was bright red for a couple of days so I would have been better off with a full 'tache.

I.C There seemed to be quite a few of us who greeted the bad news with a big slab of brie. I never thought the day would come when I would find solace in cheese. .

Free I'm sure you did another groupon deal recently... are they good and do you get what they promise? I have signed up to the website but it all seems too good to be true and wasn't sure if there was a catch.

I'm off on a SAGA holiday coach trip. I'll be back later. Behave yourselves >

Lovely - thank you so much Really! Woolly knickers! Just the thing to get TTC off to a flying start in a few months!! .

Really - SAGA? Have a lovely time!

Did someone say chilled white port?!

I was only up at 6am coz I'd been dancing to some well phat toons (is that what the yoof say these days?) with a bananaboat instructor called Jesus on the beach until that time. Gosh, I hope none of you thought I was doing anything boring like making chicken sandwiches and scrubbing snot off my work shirt.

Hello fellow newbie securegal - I went proper mental for a while after initial shock of mc/moley - in a 'positive way'. Booked a holiday to China (with a toddler FFS!), signed up for a 10k, resolved to drink a different cocktail every week and started a children's book.

And cheese as solace?! Oh caw yes! Cheese is the best. My MIL is a madame de fromagerie, dontchaknow. This means we get free cheese.

I am indeed a London lass these days, Northern Line situated and working 10 mins from Waterloo. Alas, I really wasn't angling for an invite as DP has secured the child-free ticket for tomorrow night. Another time though and I'll see you at the Cuba Libre for a mojito.

Right Jesus has promised me a sunset ride on his big banana, so must dash.

Hi arti,

I am so glad that I am not the only one. I don't know why, but I really feel like I have to cram a whole lot of 'living' in at the moment. We are thinking of booking a holiday to New York (shopping, of course) and I actually went clubbing (I'm 32 for God's sake!) last week. I saw free's post on the other thread about not feeling sure about having children and I can completely identify with that. I think the mc really does have an impact in really unexpected ways. I thought I was coping really well, but who knows? At least I'll have a lot of lovely shoes at the end of it all!!! Wow - China - how was that? It sounds amazing!

I haven't tried the comfort cheese yet. Perhaps I should give that a go. Off to the fromagerie...when I can be bothered to get off my sunlounger!

Enjoy the banana....

secure - interestingly, a couple of friends of mine who have both mc-ed have both independently said that they felt it 'changed them'. They have both since gone on to have child/ren but felt that in some ways the effect of the mc was still with them - not in a terrible way but 'there' and that they were subtly different from the person they were before. My experience has certainly been that it's made me question aspects of my life and be a bit more gungho than I am usually (hence China! haven't been yet - off next week!) I already have a child but can well imagine if I didn't that having a mc would make me question my feelings about that too.

Got a bit deep there, sorry