Silent Miscarriage

[hairytriangle]

my baby has no heartbeat. It was picked up on a ten week (private) scan yesterday.

I have been to hospital today and they have said they won't re-scan me and that I can:

1. Wait to miscarry
2. Have tablets to miscarry (but they won't scan me first)
3. Have surgery to evacuate

What would you do?

I am totally devastated and I don't know what to do. I would take the tablets but they won't re-scan me and I know that I would beat myself up if I did it without knowing for sure (ie: confirmation that there is definately no heartbeat).

If they would look at the fetus to see what was wrong (if anything) then I would have surgery - but they won't as it's only my second MC (this year ) :(
Thanks.

Sorry to hear about your loss, hairy. I had the same thing, a chromosomal abnormality - so they said - 3 months ago today. It was a horrible shock, like some kind of mental car crash, but it does get easier. As you say, have a plan and work towards it and on the bright side, at least we did manage to get pregnant and had a couple of happy months to think about becoming parents.

Well the d&c didn't get anywhere near the fetus. It is still there and showing clearly on the scan.

At least we now have a pic for our memory box.

Waiting to see Doc about what to do!

How awful for you I am so sorry x

Medical management. Q glad as I don't want them poking about again

hairy first my apologies for what in hindsight was a very insensitive post a few days ago

I am so sorry the erpc didn't work, but I remember you saying you wanted a pic, so at least there is that. I didn't get a pic but kept a rose from one sent at the time and dried it, maybe another item for the memory box?

I do hope things go better for you and you can start trying to put this behind you as best you can

oh hairy I DO love the fact that you are far from straightforward . What an unusual situation... have never heard of that after an ERPC. You are truly special! I hope the medical management goes ok - I guess it's worth bearing in mind that whatever you have to get through in the next few weeks is to get you further along the road to TTC again/explore other options. And that however hard it is, it IS all for a purpose.

Thinking of you - do come and see us on the 40+ thread when you feel upto it. x

Hey orange you weren't even slightly insensitive!!

And jolls I sure dint do things the easy way! Lol

thanks

hairy what a palava :( so sorry you are having to go through exectant management ontop of the EPRC :(

Thanks Nicks - the hospital has said they will keep me in for min 6 hours on Friday (after taking the second dose of medication). I think they may have a hard job kicking me out, because if I get pain anything like what I experienced yesterday, I don't want to go through that pain at home.

I am prettly strong, I think, and am just going to have to go through it, and rather this than them having another poke, or worse still, having to open me up

On a lighter note - this was my first anaesthetic and I was funny when I woke up - super chatty - first thing I said to the recovery nurse was 'ooh I like your tattoos have you got them all over? when can I have a cup of tea? Oh I survived it then!'

PS: I am now tucking into a large portion of brie :) which will be followed by prawns and blue cheese!!!

Ah hairy glad you are tucking in, they will give you gas/air wont they if its bad? Still about the EPRC good to see you are in good spirits lovely! Best of everything for friday (wishes/luck just doesnt sound right) Thinking of you x

hi again Nicks Yes the consultant said they would give me pain relief from co-codamol to pethedine and anything in between, should it be needed

enjoy the brie. I am digging the alcohol these days

me too KT, me too :(

I'm not allowed any alcohol til it's over, but after that I shall most definately be getting thoroughly sloshed at least once before TTC again!

KT - I read that as dipping it (the brie) in alcohol and had a proper WTF moment...

hairy - hope everything goes well with the medical management.

If it makes you feel any better, I came around from my erpc giggling at the woman in the bed next to me, who was wailing the house down and which prompted me to actually ask the nurse, "Tell me I wasn't bad?". Inappropriate? Yes. Insensitive? Yes. Am I embarrassed about it? A little bit...

Lol viv

I haven't tried dipping brie in alcohol, might be good

Good luck tomorrow hairy

LOL :)

I might just get a coctail shaker, some brie, some blue cheese, some prawns, some alcohol and some pate and shake it all about and see what happens [sick emoticon]

Sounds quite nice actually, you may be onto something !

So. Pessaries at half eleven this morning and still haven't passed anything. Been on gas and air all day and had pethedine injection about thirty mins ago

you are a medical oddity miracle challenge... hope things get going ok sometime soon. Have you enjoyed the gas and air? I went a bit overboard and was later sick over DP... . Squeeze for you.

Gas and air has been a godsend I've spent most of today off my face lol . they also gave me anti sickness drugs. Tramadol had no affect at all. Wonder what the bloody hell they will do with me next!

Hope you are ok x