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Happy New Year of 2008 *********** LIVERPOOL LADIES :-).......*************

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Biglips · 04/01/2008 23:40

wanted to say Happy 1st birthday to Nemos DD2 for tmrw!

(is the meet up for Monday still on?? and also a be-lated Xmas meal is still on too!!)

xx

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MrsEi25 · 29/01/2008 00:07

browny sorry to hear about your FIL not recovering as yet. hope things get better soon xx
xx ei xx

Nemoandthefishes · 29/01/2008 08:17

browny no idea on time what he will do is phone me when hes either finished or if he is by yours then I will give him your mobile no. so if your in your in if not no worried he will catch you next time

Browny · 29/01/2008 09:03

Nemo, thanks for that, I'll not be going far today, only to take ds2 to nursery this afternoon and to pick the kiddies up at 3.15 ish.

Jammy and Mrsei thanks for thinking about us, my poor dh doesn't know what to do, he is always absolutely useless around sick people and is hopeless with sharing his feelings etc , I don't really know what I can do or say to him .

JaamyButty · 29/01/2008 12:33

All you can do is be there for him, Browny, so that if he wants to talk he can. x

Browny · 29/01/2008 13:21

Jammy, I know but it's as if dh is blocking the reality of it all out of his mind . My dbrother has been on msn with me this morning, he said he'd look after the kids tonight if we wanted to have some quiet time together.

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biglips · 29/01/2008 13:22

yes probably hes not a talker and he will be ready when to talk.....

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biglips · 29/01/2008 15:26

well girls im off out tmrw night with my ex- work mates who i havent seen for aaaagggggeesss!!! we are going to this one...im starving now!!!....i wish i didnt look now! here

Wed nights does a offer - £12.95 for 2 course meal and a bottle of wino (well the wino not for me this time round but it seems that you get the bottle free :-( )

if this is fab...we gotta book on this one for our late Xmas meal!! Its in town too

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MrsEi25 · 29/01/2008 17:25

oooh biglips you lucky thing i have been dying to go there but as DH is a steak and chips man we havent been yet a friend of mine recommended there and said it is lovely im very you will have a lovely time
xx ei xx

Nemoandthefishes · 29/01/2008 21:37

Browny sorry to see about FIL and hear via dh..hope you are all ok and that you and dh took your bro up on his offer and are spending some time together.

BLS have a good night

hello to everyone else.

Browny · 29/01/2008 21:47

Nemo, please thank your dh again for me, the girls are SO PLEASED that the laptop is working now, I'm over the moon too because dd1 was on one computer and dd2 was on the laptop so there wasn't any arguments tonight!!!.

Dbrother couldn't come tonight, he ended up working overtime, but dh didn't want to leave the kiddies, I think they're taking his mind off everything at the moment. Fil is very ill now, doctors said his heart is very weak now and it's a matter of time , they don't know how long . Dh is not talking about it at all and he doesn't walk me to talk about it either.

Biglips, have a lovely night tomorrow, it looks lovely .

Nemoandthefishes · 29/01/2008 22:00

aww browny so hard isnt it but we all deal with things differently and if thats how he wants it to be at the min then he knows you are there when he wants to talk.

JaamyButty · 29/01/2008 22:11

Browny - huge hugs to you, DH and rest of family. Some people (especially men!)find it hard to talk about grief. Like as if it isn't real if they don't talk about it. Time will come when he may want to talk, though and I'm sure he knows you are there for him. Until then, the children will be a great distraction - what a blessing a big family is.

I hope that at least your FIL is comfortable and won't suffer too much. Is he conscious and has DH been able to talk to him?

Will be thinking about you all. x

Browny · 29/01/2008 22:32

Jammy & Nemo - dh didn't get the chance to speak to his dad today, he was so sleepy, he just squeezed dh's hand. I've suggested that dh takes some time off work so he can just spend time with his dad, but he won't take any time off.

I've told him we'd manage and to take leave without pay but he won't hear of it. I tried to tell him how I felt when I lost my mum, I told him that I'd wished I'd hadn't gone to work and that I'd spent time with her before I lost her, but he wouldn't listen . Thanks for thinking about us all x.

Nemoandthefishes · 29/01/2008 22:36

browny dh is saying your dh will probably be better in work to keep his mind busy and also says dh prob doesnt want to be worrying about no money coming in at the same time..mans perspective and all

MrsEi25 · 29/01/2008 22:49

browny so to hear about your FIL. i agree with the other girls that your DH will deal with it in his own way and in his own time. he knows you will be there for him when he needs to talk it through. {{{{{{{{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} for all of your family.
xx ei xx

Browny · 30/01/2008 09:46

Nemo, your dh is probably right, dh didn't hardly sleep last night and was up this morning when it was still dark, he's going straight to the hospital this afternoon to see his dad. My dad's collecting the children from school for me as I'm taking ds1 to speach and language therapy today.

Mrsei, how's the packing going?

MD and Biglips how are you both?

Jammy - hope you and the girls are o.k., looking forward to seeing you all in half-term .

JaamyButty · 30/01/2008 10:18

Browny - Had a little smile and tear in my eye when you posted that your DH is going to see his dad today. Perhaps your DH has seen the regret you feel when you think you hadn't spent enough time with your mum.

Looking forward to seeing you at half term too, seems ages since we've seen you. Promise I'll confirma a day this week! How are all your DCs doing? Are they aware of what is happening to grandad?

maisiedaisy · 30/01/2008 20:28

Thinking of you Browny x

Nemoandthefishes · 30/01/2008 21:04

Browny how did dh get on with fil today?

Browny · 31/01/2008 11:10

Fil was very weak and shaky last night and could hardly speak , just been told that they are giving him a blood transfusion and more dialysis today, I don't know why they're transfusing him, dh is going in again this afternoon. I had a quiet few mins with dh last night and told him that I thought he was very brave and I didn't know how he was holding himself together, I just said he had to, then the kids came running up to him.

Browny · 31/01/2008 11:11

meant, he just had to

MrsEi25 · 31/01/2008 14:20

hi girls
browny sorry your FIL is still so poorly FWIW usually when someone is in need of a transfusion it is because they are very anaemic and need the transfusion to 'top' them up a bit. its like a quick fix to give him more energy to mend himself IYSWIM it also takes the pressure off his body to fight yet another problem. people needing dialysis often need top up transfusions as a better way to fight and prevent anaemia. HTH
how is everyone else gettin on??
xx ei xx

Browny · 31/01/2008 16:43

Mrsei, thank you for telling me that x

TotalChaos · 31/01/2008 16:47

Browny - very sorry to hear that your FIL is still so unwell, hope that he feels better after the transfusion.

Biglips - Bistrot Pierre is lovely, I used to live near there, I would highly recommend it. They have a good lunch offer - £7 for 3 courses.

JaamyButty · 03/02/2008 18:46

Hi All

Hope everyone ok. Browny, how are things with FIL this weekend?

Just to let you know, looks like Wed 13th Feb for Chez Jaamy as DH will be away. Shall we say lunchtime onwards? Anybody need directions? Browny, if you are able to come, how will you get here? We're right next to whiston station if that's any help for anyone without a car.

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