West London Thread August continued...

[Kewcumber]

shiny new thread to sully.

Hi, I have emailed 2cute myself. Yes I am a bit anxious but without wishing to appear cryptic I don't want to go into detail here.

that is understandable glad you got in touch and I hope she is ok.
miss seeing her around too

okay, I have heard back from 2Cute earlier this morning.

She has asked me to tell you that her husband passed away on Sunday. In her words, they were each other's lifeline.

Clearly she is devestated. I am sure she would appreciate your support and thoughts. I am not sure if she is online but I know she is getting texts.

I am sure her family are around her but she will need as much love and support and maybe some practical help from all her friends here as well.

OMG that is so terribly sad

will get in touch

Poor 2cute. I'll email her tonight. He can only have been in his early 30's!

OMG - am in tears at the moment - how terribly terribly sad for her and ds. I will try and email her now. Pc - please let her know that we are here for her and if there is anything we can do.

probably too early for her but Yorkiegirl recommends a group set up for young widows and is an expert on what money you can claim. I'm not sure she'll want it splashed all over MN though but perhaps I could get Yorkiegirl to email her privately.

That is terrible news. He seemed like such a nice person.

I will ring 2Cute, probably on Friday. I've texted that we're all here for her. She did give me details of the funeral but I am uncertain if that means she would like me/us to come.

I really want to be able to do something practical but am at a loss as to what really.

Pre-cooked meals, a tesco shop, flowers, a collection.....

Any ideas/comments anyone?

2cute if your reading this, I'm thinking about you and the family. I'm so sorry for your loss and sending you lots of {{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

if I was there I would go to the funeral

she will need lots of support and usually people who are grieving don't ask for it

if anyone would like to go to the funeral please email me and will give you the details.

it's my day off so i intend to go assuming i can get childcare.

helping out is the kind of thing 2cute would do.

I imagine it is hard to think at this time. if she is ok with it I would like to try and attend the funeral, I think just being there even if at a distance if necessary would be a good thing.

It really is so sad. I guess help and being there in the weeks and months to come is what we need to do.

OMG. I don't know what to say.

Was he ill? What happened? I know nothing.

But, I am truly shocked. When is the funeral?

This is so terrible... words fail me.

I agree SFX, it's very hard to ask for help in these circumstances. 2Cute has even said she doesn't know what she needs other than comfort right now. All you can focus on is needing and wanting the person back.

Long term support and love is also so important. Often it seems life/everyone else moves on so quickly whilst you are left with your grief. Balancing the support without suffocating is the trick.....

I had a text early yesterday afternoon from 2Cute's brother which I replied to. I had another text in the early hours from 2Cute herself. I have no details as to the whys and wherefores other than her request to let you all know and the funeral arrangements.

As I said, I will ring on Friday. This is partly due to being in a conference all day tomorrow but also to let another day or so pass.

I think just the fact that she has told pc whats happened and asked to inform everyone and given funeral details she would want people there.

I agree with Quokka.

(Hiya Quokka)

I absolutely agree and intend to go to the funeral if theres any way I can swing it to take the day off.

Unless anyone objects I think I will also cat yorkiegirl and ask if she has any advice for thigns we can do.

Paddle,

I emailed your bigfoot account.

oh bugger I'm guessing its Tuesday then. I have a board meeting

kew I think I still have Yorkies email address somewhere. I think it is a good idea.

will check with dh about funeral when I get the details, have emailed bigfoot too.

should we collect for some flowers to send to her?

I'm a much bigger fan of sending flowers to survivors than taking flowers to a funeral so I'd definitely be up for a quick collection. I can take paypal donations (in my usual email address) and there's nothing in my account at the moment so won't get mixed up with anything else. Alternatively there are some damned expensive biscuits you can send with her DS might like www.biscuiteers.co.uk instead. What do you think?