Blackpool Mums Meet up

[bonniej]

I know this is a long shot, but are there any Blackpool mums out there who would like to meet? If there are any nearby please email!!

god here we go again I am busy sat morning as we are at a birthday party till twelve, free after that though. sunday will probably be busy as Grace is having a halloween party at 4 and I will be spooking the house out.

Unfortunately....you guesed it, im working next Saturday and am off Sunday. Im off in the week though. Considering i only work 2 days a week, it seems to well and truly get in the way of social activities grrrr.
Yes i will be braving play school again.most definitely,not one to shy away from things me! I am confident that things will improve in time and i WILL get some reaction from sombody there!
I dont like to say that they are unfriendly because as the playgroup is only on once a week they will have allot of chat to catch up on and you know what its like when you haven seen some one for a while.
If i can brave squeezing into a swimming cozzy once a week and meeting people, im sure i can brave a few mums at a church hall!
My boy is 15 months now and has never really slept very well at night but just lately he is terrible. Im a bit stuck as to what to try next.
Just wondered if you two had any advice thats all.
Any way,off for a curry tonight, MIL baby sitting so got to tidy up like mad now! keep any suggestions comming and we will get together soon im sure!!!

Donbean, my dd is 16 months so should get on great with your ds Luckily for me she has always been a good sleeper so I'm sorry but haven't got any good advice for you. She always sleeps with a dummy and the only time she wakes up is because it's fallen out of her cot. We are thinking about taking her dummy away now so I'll probably have loads of sleepless nights ahead when that happens I keep meaning to take dd to swimming classes but I don't feel at my most confident in a swimming costume anyway and that along with meating cliquey (Sp?)mothers puts me off. I think you're very brave. Anyway would love to meet you both and as my diary seems to be less full than yours (I'm a full time SAHM) you pick a date and I'm sure I'll be able to make it. Anyway, nursing a bit of a hangover this morning. FIL's birthday bash was a blast, ended up in Flares (sad or what!) Getting too old for late nights. Let's see if we can arrange a meet up before next year

Oh yes, we need little friends the same age as i worry that he doesnt have enough "child" company, thats great.
We had a fairly good night last night, he didnt wake till 5.45 this morning but wouldnt go back off so i had to get up with him at that time,had an hour this morning when he went for his morning kip so feel great today. Does your little one still have sleeps in the day? if so, how long and how often?
Im told that flaires is great, is it all 70's music? if it is then i would love it,definitely,have never been.
Yes i am very very brave going swimming, we go to a small swimming baths called "equarious" next to burn side nurseries. Its only little and they dont have any more than 5 babies in a class at a time so my body in a cozzy isnt exposed to too many members of the public at once! He enjoys it, DH doesnt swim and is frightened of water and we dont want J to be so we decided to go. Sometimes when DH is off he takes him and really enjoys it so its good for us all really.
I find that many of these places are as you say "Clicky" but i really dont care, it doesnt stop me from going any where because some one will eventually make conversation with me. I do get into a bit of a state before i go though, but i always think to myself that it will benefit J so it is worth it.
Do you have any more children? you are so lucky to be a SAHM i would love to be and would give up work tomorow if i could.
I hope you dont mind me rambling on and on, its just nice to talk to you.

Just caught up with this donbean. Glad you had a better night with him. It's not too bad if you can get a good chunk of uninterrupted sleep. My dd has a long sleep in the mornings. she goes to bed at about 7pm and sleeps through till about 8.15 and then wants to go back at about 10.30! It works out great though cos when she has her morning sleep I can have a bath and get ready, get housework done etc. She wakes up just before lunch and then is up all afternoon so I tend to take her out then. I think she does sleep more than she's supposed to but she takes after my dh, he loves his sleep too! I've got one more child, a 16 year old ds so have quite an age gap. I was very young when I had him and didn't feel ready to have any more until dd came along. He makes a great live in babysitter I also don't think my dd has enough company her own age and constantly feel guilty. I try to take her to as many things as poss but am a bit of a coward. I need to take a leaf out of your book. We will definately have to arrange a meet up. Speak to you soon

Your swimming calss sounds lovely Donbean, my dd does to a similar class in Thornton, again only a few in the pool and the instructor is in their with them. At the moment my mum takes her as I work that afternoon but she is soon going to start going in the pool on her own which is a bit scary!!

I think looking back to when my dd was your age she used to have about forty minutes sleep in the morning about ten and then about an hour and a half late afternoon and then go to bed about half seven and sleep about twelve hours. We were very strict with her from quite young and as long as she was clean and not hungry or in distress we would leave her to cry- so she learnt sleep time is for sleep - not easy though.

Good luck both of you with playgroups this week,

swimming class is lovely but again we had to get over the Clique as three of the mothers all know each other from thier play school. They used to talk around and over me,which was very irritating but then one of them started to chat with me when she arrived a bit earlier than the others and now we all chat great.
They are all lovely people.
Speaking to other friends this is a major problem, as i was begining to think that it was me being completely unapproachable, it apears that this is a given at any new mother/baby/toddler event.
I will literally speak to any one me, so i always know that it is only a matter of time before i get chatting and i dont like to think of myself as bieng unaproachable at all.
I always find wherever we go that people will always make conversation about the child so end up talking to complete strangers, do you find the same thing? Are you both very nervous at going to new events?
Nickim,you mentioned that you are having a Halloween party at the weekend, so am i, what sort of stuff have you got planned? food,games,decorations etc?
I have been trawling web sites for ideas and have posted a thread on MN but not got much feed back up till now although i got a couple of great tips from a couple of people.
I got a fab pumpkin cake from Asda, im very excited about it!
hope to hear from you both soon,take care.

Hope you're both ok. I feel exactly the same at going to new events for the first time. I make any excuse to myself so I don't have to go. The only thing that gets me going to these groups is dd. They do need social interaction at that age especially if they don't have any brothers or sisters to play with. Anyone have any date in mind for a meet-up? Our children will have all grown up by the time we sort something out Would love to meet before Christmas if we can. Enjoy your Haloween parties this weekend!

bonniej, why don't you hold the meet-up in your house and let everyone stay for a long weekend ?

How about the weekend after halloween orI am free Thursday afternoons now as well?

Hi, sorry cant do next weekend, and next Thursday is out as ive got a big day on Friday so have to prepare!!!! But post some more dates and we WILL come up with a meetup day.

marthamoo, Donbean what's happening on Friday, I'm intrigued! Right, here are two dates that I can make (at the moment) Are any of these good for you..Thursday 11th or Saturday 13th. By the way, how are you getting on with your driving lessons nikkim? I've just started mine up again after a five year break but have taken the easy option, I'm learning in an automatic car. I can't believe how much easier it is and I'm actually enjoying it now. It's great knowing the car won't roll backwards on a hill and there's no chance of stalling. Can't wait to pass and get some independance. Hope to see you both soon xx

I have a confession Bonnie I ahve stopped my driving lessons as they were making me very stressed and very broke. Will maybe start up again after Christmas.

well, im shaving my legs! havent done them since Dec 2002 as i got too huge after that and since giving birth i just havent had time really!! Only kidding, ive got a work thing, bit of a nightmare really, not sure why i agreed to it but now its here and ive done no work towards it whatso ever im panicking and rushing! HeyHo! Will check those dates and let you know about a meet up.

wondering how you both are.Can make both dates if you are still interested in a meet up.

Can't do this week sorry, am working thursday and we are deocorating saturday. I can do those days week after.

Well as we cant get together for a meet, why dont we just natter for the time bieng? What are you decorating nickim? Hows DDs hair now, is it growing back nicely, have you restarted your driving lessons yet?
What happenend with the weekend invasion of the unwelcome hint droppers Bonnie? How are you both, havent seen your names on here for a while, have you been busy? Nickim, hows the O/U stuff going and are you enjoying it?
Ive been lurking and throwing in the odd comment but im always a bit wary in case i offend someone, its difficult to gauge via computer isnt it.There have been some very interesting discussions going on and some of them make me laugh out loud so its always worth looking for a few miniuts. I shouldnt be here actually as i promised myself that i would tackle the ironing so id best be off. Speak soon hopefullyx

lol Donbean I am taking an ironong break.

We are attempting to decorate the front room, we have only been in the new house for a few months, at the moment it is a deep red which could be nice but it is a room that gets very little light and it is also painted onto some awful blown vinyl. The whole house is decorated in it which is awful, but our aim is just to get the front room done by christmas.

I ahve stopped my driving lessons for a while as money is tight at the moment and I have been feeling very tired lately so am using my Tuesdays while dd is at school to just chill.

DD hair is growing slowly. taking her to the hairdressers next week to get it tidied up.

I am on a break from the Ou until next year, our summer holidays are in the winter, just waiting for exam results and trying not to think about it.

I have been on and off mumsnet, haven't noticed bonniej now you mention it. Trying not to spend too much time in here so I can get stuff done!!

Glad your ok and glad you are around still. I can sympathise with you with the decorating as we have not quite finished renovating our house which was run down when we bought it, we seemed to live in B&Q.
I always think that its nice having a break from academia, its always like a weight lifted for me as i am a worrier and get very bogged down by thoughts of essays and deadline dates. I have to say thet i enjoy it and am always proud of myself when passing stuff but it is still nice to have a break.
I have reduced my hours of work so am available for weetups much more now, next Thursday would be good for me....BonnieJ where are you?

meetups, i mean meetups not weetups!!!!

next thursday should be fine, I have reduced my hours so work only thuesday mornings, alhtough am going in this thursday afternoon as we are relocating and I have loads of clearing out and sorting of toys to do. I will have to work extra hard this week so I can come out and play next week!

hiya, still here. just seeing dh off to work but will be back later to postx

Glad you are both ok. I've been trying to reduce time on mumsnet lately as I felt I was spending too long on here. I seem to have been keeping myself busy over the last few weeks anyway which is good. Had quite a good weekend with the unwelcome guests in the end. Glad they weren't staying with us though as they are quite loud and not sure if we really want to meet again, although they have phoned and want to come up around Christmas time (hope they don't mean Christmas day ) It might do you good to take a break from your driving lessons, nikkim. It can feel like a relief when you decide to not have them for a while. I have never enjoyed driving but I hope now I'm learning in an automatic that things will progress. It is really expensive though.

Trying to keep dd occupied is getting harder as she's getting older. We've had the paints out today and made a right mess, but have had fun Would still like to meet and can make next Thursday if that's good for the both of you. Looking forward to finally putting faces to names!

Yes, it is hard to keep a 16month old occupied isnt it! we went for a wander around Poulton today and i was going to take him on the park but it was wet through and he was tired so i thought better of it.He loves books and so we spent the remainder of the afternoon looking at books,even that becomes boring for him after a while. I havent yet ventured to paints yet as i feel that it would be disasterous and too stressful at the moment. Maybe when he is a bit (lot) older!Im also trying to cut down my MN time as it becomes a little too consuming, as i only discovered it about 3 weeks ago or so, its a bit of a novelty at the moment. I shouldnt be here now as we have got friends coming for dinner and the place is a tip! They have no children so i try to make some effort to show that i am slightly in control.......
Any way, got to go, speak soon x

I am sorry to be an awqward mare again but i have to work on thursday so can't meet up. I am also losing my intrnet for a few days while i move my computer upstairs to the study, just so it doesn't look like I am blanking you!