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[alliwannado]

hello again , so sorry for not being intouch for a while but you know what its like with jobs and kids........... even busier now with the schools finishing, got 6weeks to fill up.
Anyway anyone fancy a meet up, in Calderstones Park or even day out at Father Teds or something similar.............. Bebby you about? fancy speke hall some day soon? just let me know.
Anyone new out there fancy meeting up?

fast asleepIam in crosby. But used to live in fazakerley not too far from the hospITAL.in the new houses by tge racecourse? dO You live near the showcase?

I live near enough to the showcase to almost see it it's a five minute walk from my house...which is a crappy ex-council house in that place with all the car-chases

welcome reallyshy (Tam?) and fastasleep, Im 36 (going on 66), live in childwall, work just 2 days aweek the rest of my time is spent running around after my 2 kids, DD 16mths and DS 5yrs. I have lost all confidence in myself since having children and often lock myself away for days feeling sorry for myself but when I do push myself to go to M&T groups I really enjoy it and it helps me get through the days and my DD loves playing with other children...... theres lots out there to do with the little ones but the thought of walking into places on my own terrifies me so like Mishi I hide behing my DD LOL. Hope to meet up soon

Hi everyone - the last few days have really been hectic so sorry for not logging on Friday as I said. The idea of a Christmas meet sounds really good and is long enough in the future for us to be able to manage it. I would really like an evening meet without the children as Christmas time is so hectic a bit of relaxation without the family would be really good, perhaps we could do both for those who are really shy and have lost all their confidence since having babies......, my advice if you are feeling shy... look at the beautiful life you have brought into the world, you did something special, look at how you manage motherhood, it is the hardest job in the world, much harder than sitting in a meeting at work arguing with your superiors because you think they are nuts! United Nations peace keeping talks...basically a piece of cake compared with negotiating with a 2 year old who doesn't want to put coat on/get out of the car/brush teeth/do poos on the potty (my latest struggle...my ds aged 3 waits every night till you put his bed nappy on and then promptly fills it with a little end of day present for you...no amount of bribes will make him do it on the potty or toilet the joys of motherhood, the tests, the stress! Be proud of your job, and don't be shy!)

OOOH, that felt like a rant and it wasn't meant to be! I will check out the site again for details of a meet, day or otherwise soon.

Take care.

Hi all and hello to fastasleep and reallyshy. I am going to Grandmas on Thursday morning. Does anyone want to join me? Alliwannadoo, what about you can you make it? Bebby, you mentioned the 23rd for a coffee? If you are still on for it, I would love to join you. Shall we sort a date out for the Xmas meet up? What about Allerton Road, or would you rather have town? Let me know and I'll book something x Hope you are all well. I had a baby scare today and had to take DS2 to hospital re:breathing but he's okay now. (for the new girls - I'm 34, mum of 2 and a half year old boy and 3 month old boy. Not working at moment but going back next summer part time. Am not going crazy at home but quite enjoying it but have relocated from London and so look forward to meeting you all and sharing happy stories x

hi leglebegle! definitely up for doing something sociable on Thursday, like granmas.

sorry to hear about the fright with the baby - hope you are both fully recovered.

allerton road is fine for the xmas thingy.

Hi Alli

Isn't it funny what having babies does to your confidence. Never realised there was so many people from the Liverpool area on this site.

I seem to find it hard going anywhere with two kids but I need to push myself to get out more....escape from my life of cbeebies!!!!

lol really shy its terrible when your only friends are big cook little cook...lol

Grandmas meet up...mm i might try to come for an hour but not sure as adam has to go for his MMR between 11.30 and 12. But would be good to be out instead of sitting at home moping and worrying...lol

Xmas night / day... i dont mind where it is as i can drive although to be honest i will find it hard to go out in the night but will try...lol will do the day one no probs...shall we just put down dates and rough ideas for both and so which appears most popular/ easier to get to

I would attempt to get myself to Grandmas... although it's a treck from here, but I'm busy with repeat prescriptions and baby clinic on Thursday... not going swimming tonight because I'm expressing for too long and it'll be almost closed when I get there, popping in for leaflets though...will find out about baby stuff. Still hoping Reallyshy will come out of her shell a little so that we can go somewhere with the babas! ...

Looking forward to meeting Mishi and Adam on friday... this place is so useful!

I have a hectic life with two demanding kids. my ds is at the stage of crawling, but annoyed that he can't join in with dd....I live in a general wild house. I'm only 27 and I feel like I am 60!! I am also busy trying to sell my house....which is not happening at the moment, typical!!!!

Hopefully I will meet up with some of you on here at different mums groups...not too sure where thay all are, though!!!! I've got a cra, but am really useless with directions. Think I know where Grandma's is....hunts cross..right???

hi
grandmas is right by the asda in hunts cross so not too far away..takes about 15 mins from huyton so add on about another 5 for u...lol
take care

Hi, sorry can't make this Thursday, off to cheshire oaks outlet village, going to see if I can get cheaper clarks shoes for DD..... and next week is a no no because DS is off school on half term so going to have my hands full but look forward to a meet up the following week, will hopefully catch some of you at sticky fingers this Friday, anyone else going or is it me and mishi eating all the toast again LOL maybe meet in a certain part of the hall this time so we don't miss each other.

My dh keeps telling me Grandmas may as well be on the far-side of the moon... hm. Where/what's stickyfingers? I'm sure you've told everyone lots but hey, I'm sleepy!

Went to Carr Lane pool, there's an early years community place (reallyshy said friday mornings for M&T) with cafe. There's a mum and baby pool-time thing on Wednesdays from 11:30-12:30 which i'm going to try to go to but no swim nappy so if I can't buy one there I'm going for coffee! (By the time we found the place is was 6:30pm so could only get in swimming pool for times!)

The only person from round my way's moving? Doh. Hope it goes well reallyshy

Welcome to fastasleep & reallyshy. Amazing how this meetup is growing!For the new netters, I am 42 (Am I the oldest? Think so!!) with two children, DD started school last month and DS is 21 mths. Live in Mossley Hill & Work 2 days a week (paid) and work the rest of the week like the rest of you (unpaid) looking after the children. I agree with Bebby when she says that motherhood is the hardest job. For me, it definitely has been the most difficult job I have ever done.
What I am most amazed at is how many of us have suffered depression/PND/anxiety/loss of confidence, etc. I had PND with my daughter and one of the ways I finally let go of all the angst over it was to write an article about it for the freebie Livepool magazine "Families" that you can pick up in certain shops, restaurants. You can read it on their website - type in PND article in their search box and it should come up.
I would be interested in any feedback from you to see if there are any parallels with how I struggled with PND and how I dealt with it. I was lucky that I didn't have it with DS, although there are still some days where I get anxious and a little down. Funny how we deal with it, for me going out is the last thing I want to do when I feel like that although I know of lots of women who have to get out of the house most days.
On a brighter note, went to the "Rhyme Times" at Wavertree library this morning. Sorry MTS gave you the wrong address. As Mishi said it is on Picton Road. really enjoyed it although it was very busy. The woman who suggested it to me told me it was the busiest she had ever seen it since it started so hope by posting the info. I haven't spoilt it for the regulars. Rita, one of the SureStart staff members asked me to post info. on another session she runs on a Wed morning 10-11am at Harthill (near Frontline) on Gainsborough Rd (I think) Its called "Toddler.com" for parents/ carers with children under 4 and it's a hands-on session using the internet.
I will be going to Sticky fingers Fri - so Alli/Mishi I will be looking out for the two women with faces bulging full of toast. I will have DS with me and have short dark hair, 5ft 6in & a cream mac on!!! Tend to stay in the small room as DS loves the trucks there.Look forward to meeting you there.
Allerton Rd for me for the Xmas evening out is great - walking distance to stagger home! I am pretty lucky with evenings - can make most except Thurs at the moment.
Bye for now.

The web-site address for Families hasn't come up - how do you do that link!!Anyone?
It's www.FamiliesMagazine.co.uk

pmsl bron
sorry not at your aticle i have actually read that before because I worked at the Leeson centre..place listed underneath as first contact...so when i realised i had depression first thing i read was that article because i was looking for support then saw my work place listed underneath and remember feeling gutted as i hadnt actually told anyone in work...or at home how i was feeling....lol
I actually remember being reading about you and wanting to be on that side of the depression.. I so wanted to get better and be me....still on my way there now but it is about being me and not trying to be u or another pnd survivour if you know what i mean.....oh well as they say grass is always greener on other side..lol...just at the moment its a bit yellow where i am
take care

Thanks Mishi - what does lol mean!!And pmsl. Keep seeing lol on the site.
Coincidence you having already seen the article. What do/did you do at the Leeson centre. The editor of families raved about the centre but I have never been. Anything there that would be of interest do you think?
Am still going in the morning. Met up with MTS at the book club last night. None of us had read the book - a first for us in 2 years but having spoken to the ones who are furthest in the rest of us have pledged to finish it! Had a great night eating good food at "The Quarter" and sharing interesting tales with a bunch of very lovely women. When I think of all the years I chased men to do avail (re. happiness - husband excepted!!) only to find that womens' company is so much more fullfilling and enjoyable.
Does anyone know of somebody who could use a double buggy? Only thing wrong with it is that one of the rubber wheel covers fell off. It has the cosy toes to go with it - Navy and white. Do not want to throw it but have tried so many charity shops and refuges. Anyone got any ideas of how to get it to someone who could make use of it?
Hope everyone is OK - will hopefull meet up with Mishi and Alli in the morning at sticky fingers.

oh no i can't believe i missed the book club! I meant to phone the lady but never did. do you know when the next meeting is? I must, must, must ring her. Mishi - I meant to say the other day, I totally don't want to hijack your idea of a xmas meeting. You wanted one in the day, and I won't interfere in any way I promise! If I organise something for the evening meet up and you sort something for the day, I hope I won't be stepping on your toes. Also hope to meet you soon at some point. I didn't go to Grandmas today as the baby is still very poorly and not breathing properly. Haven't heard back from Bebby re:meeting up on the 23rd ????? I hope I meet some of you soon, I can't go to Sticky fingers on Fridays as I only have the baby (toddler in nursery) and he's too young for it at 3 months x

Hi everyone.

Leglebegle - sorry to hear about your little fella still being poorly, and hope he's better soon. Do you fancy going to Sticky Fingers on Monday (the baby one?)if your little un is feeling better? The Monday one is very loosely structured - mums, babies, toys and free tea/coffee and biscuits, and that's about the size of it!

I have had a lovely time both times with the book club so far and would thoroughly recommend it. Next meeting is 4 weeks yesterday, and the book is the Reading Group by Elizabeth Noble.

I went to Granmas today - didn't see any familiar faces or anyone that looked like they might be reallyshy or fastasleep - and was too gutless to go up to anyone to ask if they were "really shy" or "fast asleep". Steven had a good time there, but didn't seem at all keen on the ball pool for some reason.

ha ha.....would have been funny MTS if you had asked. Imagine the looks!!!

I have been waiting in today for health visitor this morning and a dvd player to arrive. Very boring day.

Where is sticky fingers????

hi really shy

hope the DVD player arrived ok!

sticky fingers is at the Frontline Centre on Lawrence Road, off Gainsborough Road off Smithdown Road - 5 - 10 minutes walk from the Asda on Smithdown Road. The Frontline Centre is connected with a church, but there is no overt or covert religion at the m & t groups. So on the way out from the city centre to Allerton. The Monday Sticky Fingers one is little babies - a lot of them are about 3 to 4 months old - Steven is one of the oldest at 7 months. The Thursday/Friday one is a toddler one - 6 months ish up to a few years old. The Monday one is very unstructured, the Thursday/Friday one has more going on by way of crafts/story time etc. The Monday one is Free, and the Thursday/Friday one is a £1 - but you do get toast as well as tea and coffee LOL.

Thanks for all the info mummytosteven. the frontline thing on mondays sounds like a really good idea. i can't go next monday unfortunately because i have someone coming out to fit an alarm (there have been loads of burglaries in my area of late) but i would love to meet you at the next one. Do I need to call the lady who organises the book club or can i just show up? i will put it in on my calender and buy the book anyway! I think bron left the details of the lady to call a while ago, i'll check the thread. hope you are well.

The name's Abi MTS at least asking 'are you steven's mum?' sounds more sane! I couldn't go because of healh visitor stuff, but maybe next time if I can ever find it!

Meeting Mishi tomorrow, if I like this new meeting people thing I'll do it more often lol...is it normal to be all scared? (Not of Mishi though she seems lovely!)

lol abi
yeah its normal to be scared i am. You will also be meeting jayne of course as she will be at sticky fingers. Tommorow we are making an autumn tree apparently so be prepared to get glue/ paint/ mud and water on u...especially if adam has anything to do with it.
Will pick u up at 9.30 ish hun
take care

Hi Mishi see you in the morning