Oh I love this thread! It is good to hear about people losing weight and people losing inches, and people giving themselves a slap and getting back on it again.
But most of all I love the foodie love. "we've a few aubergines that need using up" mention of "shallots, feta, smpoked paprika" " ground almonds to thicken" "a squeeze of lemon and a few snips of parsley". It's my food-heaven. Thank you everyone 
@Jezzballs2000 oh what a gorgeous picture. Even my dgc are well past the toddler age come on dc2, I need more babies in my life
@AThroneOfLies you ask about the best time to eat dessert (or something like that) I think that in terms of insulin spikes you'd be better eating something with sugar after a meal with plenty of veg. Avoid a sugary dessert after a period of not eating. However I'm also cautious about not eating high fat and high carb/sugar close together.
So, if I'm having (on maintenance) some lentils or kidney beans, I would reduce the fat that I also had that day, I'd have chicken with the lentils rather than pork belly.
If I was planning a rhubarb crumble (made with almond flour and no sugar) I'd have it after a prawn and veg stir fry.
The challenge with many traditional desserts is that they are the combination of sugar and fat - cheesecake with a sweet biscuit base, a rich fatty cheese middle, a sweetened fruit topping. Sticky toffee pudding - flour, dates, sugar, butter, milk, eggs, treacle - bloody nightmare!
So what kind of dessert are you thinking of?
I have totally lost my sweet tooth, so maybe rather than look at food combos or timing, look at how much pudding you actually want. ime one teaspoon is enough, and even then I'm struggling to get the sweetness off my tongue.