@AveAtqueVale
Also just to have a minor rant/ vent: DM was also hugely irritated that I didn’t want to eat the gluten free chicken kiev and chips she offered to make me at 3pm... She seems to find the fact I’m trying to get a handle on my really crap relationship with food quite personally insulting. When (after being asked) I told her I’d lost a stone in the last seven weeks she looked me up and down and just said ‘well you can’t really tell, can you? Anyway, you’ll need to have some carbs soon or you’ll get an allergy to them or something.’ Aaaarrgghhh
I can relate to this behaviour!
Both from a weight loss perspective, and also from a general parenting perspective.
My mum always struggled with her weight, and at some points in her life she was up to a size 20. I was always slim, until my mid-30s, when the weight started to go on, and I first started seriously exploring diets/dieting. She said to me once "the trouble with you is you're just like me".
She was 5 ft 7 and size 20 at the time. I am 5 ft 2 and had never been bigger than a size 10/12 at that point!
But more telling was how she reacted to how I fed my DC. From when they were very little, I used to buy a lot of organic food. It was the point at which organic food was becoming very topical, and very present in the supermarket - i.e. well before the credit crunch/recession.
She got really angry with me for buying organic food, and told me it quite ridiculous. If she'd made the financial argument about it, I'd have agreed with her - it was/is expensive! (Although we could afford it).
Having been quite surprised/wounded by her response, I realised that by me doing this, I was in some way criticising her parenting of me and my DB. Her anger was, really, about herself - and resentment of what she saw as me trying to be a better/superior parent.
My mother was also quite controlling and manipulative (I loved her very much, but she did have these traits) and if she decided something was the right/best way to do it, she didn't like being challenged!