Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 23

[Monty100]

These threads are finishing faster and faster!

As you were.

hi elasta

I gotta find a parallel universe with an extra few hours in it to actually get out there and meet some people

and grow a thicker skin

taking all my emotional energy to have thick skin with XH and be strong/upbeat for DDs, and not cry in public when stuff at work goes pear shaped (why am I in cust service??? ), not sure what I have got left for knock backs from online oddities

or maybe I just need GSH lol

Eve - don't cancel . He obv fancies you! Don't be negative, just go and see how it goes.

morning all - and welcome to the thread mummy, I am same age as you and in SE London. Have given up on online dating - was on Match - as am too picky, and none of the men I met remotely floated my boat

aopologies but need to have a rant re the evil Ex. He has told DS2 he is taking him abroad next week on hols, but has told DS1 he won't be taking him. No reason given .

I know the reason. He is taking his GF and her 3 kids and can't afford to take both boys. Also DS1 and he don't get on that well (he is not DS1 bio dad but has been around since he was 18 months old) and DS1 can't bear the GF and her kids.

However at the end of the day, I still don't think thats a reason to take him. And I don't want DS2 going without him (esp as Ex has not even told me where they are going!)

As matters stand I am minded to say that if DS1 cant go, then neither go. I asked DS2 if he would be upset, and he said he would rather stay at home and play the Xbox

OK I won't cancel, how can you fancy someone you have never met, Monty? lol That's why rl dating works better sometimes at least you see what you are getting.

Eve - from your photo? Of course, when you meet the chemistry might blow into orbit... or not. But you have to go and find out.

Sponge - I wouldn't want to split them either. I wouldn't be keen on ds1 going anyway if he doesn't get on with gf and dc's. Your exh is truly a twunt.

What was that award we used to give to twunt exh of the week??

sponge [gasp] and at ex's idiot plans
if DS2 not bothered then think you go with the boycott

am having fun on the old threads and also looking at all your profiles

also, am amazed. have had messages and 'winks' (what on earth are these about??)from SWK site and I haven't even got a proper profile

by the way

have read scary stuff about mentioning existence of DCs on dating sites (I do realise the SWK rather gives it away, was thinking about other sites) in case it attracts dodgy types - views pls?

and one of the winkers (euphemism?) is 60................

i really must do some work

Just finished my meeting

I always say I have kids as they are the main thing in my life - but I dont ever put pictures of them up. I would'nt introduce anyone to them unless I knew them really well and also dont tell people where I live until I have been on a few dates.

Also, I never meet anyone unless I have spoken to them on the phone and we have something to talk about. Anyone boring, over enthusiastic or who sounds a little creepy I just drop. And anyone who just wants to talk about sex goes straight in the bin.

Of all the guys I have met on line only Traveller and one other actually know where I live and none of them have met my kids

hi mummy - I have a viagra story too - actually happened when I was still with exh - have to dash to pick up ds2 but will be back to regale later.

I am another who has sort of gone off online dating since exh and I split four years ago have had about three dates, dated someone from a site for about six months but that all went a bit weird and then had a RL stalker which was not pleasant.

In the background I have an on/off thing with an exbf which I must admit is probably adding to my reluctance with online. However have had some fun with it and although a bit wet round the ears to start with soon wised up and grew a thick skin.

Eve - please do go on your date.

Sponge - no would not be happy with the holiday situation. My two are off with exh and p and the dts next sat and I am plannign to pack secret supplies in their case as they say they get hungry when they are with them (and allowed one fizzy pop per week!!)

Plus apparently when p saw ds1 she sort of told him off because he had a tan - 'didn't you wear suncream?' well er yes but if you spend weekends outdoors palying sport and a week in Spain then you might get some colour. She is an extreme health freak!!! Plus uses the dreaded GF with the dts (still) and this impacts on all of us unfortunately

Rant over as you were.

Eagerly awaiting SCL's viagra story.

yes, on tenterhooks here re viagra story

Glad everyone agrees that my Ex is a prize twunt. Suspect there will be fireworks on Sun when he finds out he can't take DS2. But I'll cross that bridge when I come to it!

In the meantime agree I would always make it clear on a dating site I had children, but I wouldn't put up photos or give any further details on my profile itself. And agree with elasta I get rid of anyone who sounds 'odd' - for whatever reason - immediately. When I was dating I refused to consider anyone without children, which I now feel was something of an error. So I wouldn't be too rigid about the children/no children thing - although how engaged (or not) a potential bloke seems to be in his childrens lives can be quite telling.

talking of men, wedding man is doing some work at my house on Friday will all be quite professional as the DSs will be there, but am thinking of asking him to stay and have dinner with us (will be doing homemade lasagne as an early birthday treat for Ds1 who is 12 on Saturday) if that wouldn't seem too odd. will just have to tell the boys to remember their table manners

I have dated men with no kids, but I think it is all about their attitude to them - traveller hasnt got any and has never wanted them - I suppose that says it all really

Dp hasnt got kids and he is great

Dp hasn't got his own either and has been around since my teens were littlies.
Things are strained at times these days, but that because they are now teens and I think their 'bickerings' are probably normal. I bicker with them and I'm their mum .

Sponge, go for it perfect opportunity.

How long have you been with DP Monty?

eve don't overthink this, it will be fine as juicy would say see it as a few hours out and anything extra is a bonus!
sponge lasagne was the first meal i cooked for dp..i'm sure that he'll love it,men are easily won over by home cooked grub

Sponge - that dinner invitation is perfect, as long as dc's make themselves scare when you've eaten .

Eve - I've been with dp 12 years with a couple of breaks of several months .

There are about 6 teenagers rollerblading outside my house.

Ok, have just caught up on thread on blackberry on train with 2/3rds bottle of wine goggles on so not I really want to know the viagra stoey too, c'mon, 'fess up

I did do some work today, honest....

And thanks for tips re onling dating and mentions of dxs, makes sense even to my addled brain

If I am honest am looking for excuses to stay in hiding...

Monty, how are kits and mummy cat?

Come on mummy, time to get out there girl I also work full time and am very much on my own with my kids, so I dont get much time - but we have an au pair though, who has made it her hobby to push me out dating!!!!

Have just had a message from a man on MSF who wants to take me out - which usually I consider a rubbish site and I was about to take myslf off.

Lets call him sailor. Apparently, he likes the look of me because I can sail a boat and like dogs (we have 3)

Still waiting for the viagra story!!!!

Mummy - they're all doing fine .

Our boy cat isn't very impressed though, and is exhibiting a curiosity towards the kittens that I'm keeping a close eye on.

Have you been to the pub after work?