Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 23

[Monty100]

These threads are finishing faster and faster!

As you were.

I think doing my roots has helped, but i still feel very blah about myself atm. Think it is because i also need a haircut, i am growing out my fringe and it is at that horrible inbetween stage

Sod all this talk about hair, what shall I wear?

If the weather is as bad there as it is here I would suggest jeans and a nice top.

who is the date with eve?

Lou - my fringe is driving me nuts have been trying to grow it for ages - on a good day it looks ok but on a bad like a combover

Is it just a first meet or a date? If first meet, I'd do jeans/nice top/heels rather than anything too OTT. What sort of pub is it? Posh? You going anywhere after? Do you do skirts/dresses?

Mind you, I'm the last person to ask as dates are not really my forte sadly!

I would also do jeans and a nice top for a pub date. But judging by my success rate you might not want to heed my advice

ah, a date! good on you eve
another vote for jeans

Reckon the way the weather is I need to get my tan boots re-heeled. Got jeans but might have to have a look in town for a nice top. T shirts won't do.

It's a first meet. Will call him GB.

Eve - any more info on GB? I'm with jeans as well. Do you have ankle boots?

DD does a french plait with her fringe taking it around the side of her face iyswim. It looks really nice.

SCL - the good weather is supposed to be back tomorrow, but it is very autumnal this evening, almost dark too.

I'm child free until Saturday. Woohoo and

Just wind the vid on a bit.

Kdk deffo meet up soon.

Yes ankle boots are the ones that need reheeling.

GB has moved up here to work about 8 miles away. He's younger than me. We've exchanged mob nos. and he sent me a photo, sent one back was straight home from work, minimul make-up etc. Hasn't put him off so will see, it's only a date, what's the worst that can happen.

'Minimal'

yeh go for jeans and heels

my fringe comes to my eyes atm, i was tempted to cut it today but i am going to try and stick with it

i see the bucks guy has made his choice for october

and who sent the bloody rain this way?

Yes can see he has made his choice. Wonder how they will get on.

We've had rain for ages Lou at least you have had some summer in the last few weeks.

ok, been lurking for ages and finally plucked up courage to join in - this is more fun than the threads on 'relationships' (though there are lovely people over there, but this is cheerier iyswim...)

cos something happened today re xh which finally made me rofl and feel less generally hideous about whole situation, have GOT to share and you folks seem like the right audience (having spent all day catching up on thread after week on hols, read the first lot before I went but didn't have time to post, but you all seem lovely and I have laughed and laughed at several of the posts)

have been generally seething re OW and XH pants behaviour and knackered after 10 months of being single mum.....then today I discovered he has resorted to viagra I genuinely find that hilarious. He is not yet 38 but she is younger (and blonder than me and bigger tits, emoticon, why are men sooooo predictable?) and he has just got back from a month away so they have obv been at it like rabbits but poor man can't keep up hee hee

sorry, you don't know me at all so sorry about crashing the thread but like I say, you seem very much my kind of people and I hope you don't mind me sharing .....

oh no

have I killed the thread???

now I really am sorry

crash away, you are very welcome (and knickers, sorry i didnt say hello earlier )

it's a v fine bunch of women on this thread imo!

i can report that exh has finally, after me once again instigating it, agreed to have the kids overnight on fri

i did hope that when i said to him that the summer hols meant he was quite welcome to have them whenever he wanted, he would actually take me up on it, but they broke up on the 23rd and he hasnt been in touch, so seeing as it is his birthday on sat, i ended up sugggesting he have them this weekend

he said no he was going to london for his birthday

i wa v good and bit my tongue, but later i sent him a text and sent him a reasonable text (even tho i wanted to tell him he was a prick), saying the kids would like to see him at some point for his b'day so when was he available?

he replied offering a couple of hours over lunch on friday.....

i told him i was thinking more of an overnight thing (ffs he is such a wanker), so finally he has agreed to have them from fri pm to sat lunch, then he will go to london

which is great, but omg he just called an hour or so ago to ask how many of them were staying, and other stupid things, and i said to him that they will be back to school before we know it so please try and book some time to actually have them

he said "oh, yeh right, blimey the time has gone by really fast hasnt it, i will let you know..."

i told him time isnt flying for me...

he sounded like he had been drinking as well, but what's new

so yes i have no kids from fri pm til sat pm, but i cant really take advantage of it as dp is working til 2 on sat, which is when he wants me to get them

i guess we will have a few hours fri night alone tho but he will be knackered and down to see me late because of work

dp suggested all excitedly that i could go to work with him on saturday

i suppose the fact i have to pick them up at 2 is a kind of silver lining, so i can say i cant lol

on another note, dp's birthday is also approaching (1st sept), he will be 39, what can i get for him that will not cost loads as i am as usual, broke?

ds1 today, interestingly, asked me if i would take him to town next week to sell some of his games so he could get dp a b'day gift, and what would he like, but has not even mentioned his own father

that speaks volumes dont you think?

and I started reading the thread originally because I feel like I may want to dip my toe back in the dating scene but have no clue how to go about it and want to curl up and die at the thought of the pitfalls....

oh dear, I keep reading my 1st post and hoping it hit the right note

mily hi! how on earth did you find out about the viagra? lol
lou that is v sweet of ds1
...time isn't flying here either!

Lou - dp's bday is same as Al's . Sadly, Al will not be 39 .

Can you take a photo to the photoshop of you and him, or you and ds's or just you? Then stick it in a frame. A friend did this last week of his son skiing the pic came out really beautiful.

Hi Mummy

Hi Ninah - x post

Lou - ds1, so lovely.

ds could potentially be a cheap b'day he wants Match Attax cards
and that's all he wants
think I'll get him some music. He found an old freebie cd and has been playing Poison by Alice Cooper all day

cheers lou, xpost

scant comfort to you but can't tell you how reassuring it is to read about others' idiot xhs, xps etc.

mine was away for a month, had time to post photos on fb etc but did not email the dcs once

i do wonder what these men have going on in their little heads

anyway

just reflecting on your prob of child-free 24hrs but dp working, re his birthday pres, sounds like maybe an experience with you (eg concert or whatever) rather than a thing might go down well?

though now I recall your post about only going to things you were on the guest list for (lol) so maybe not such a great idea

hi ninah

the eejit paid for it from our joint account (I do sometimes wonder what clouded my judgement so much to marry this genius in the first place). I no longer use that account but had to sort out some tangled up direct debits online and my eye was caught by the payment ref - googled it and howled with laughter - vg job I was working from home, would have frightened the daylights out of my colleagues if I had been in the office

the irony is, the thing that sparked the row that led to him leaving (and I have to say, the scales well and truly falling from my eyes) was dodgy internet chat sites and yuk yuk yuk women generally so the fact that he was worn his manliness out in the 36 hrs since he landed at heathrow is sweet justice

and now I want a date and to be made to feel a bit less grim myself but like I say, am also terrified at the prospect

Mummy have you registered on any dating sites? We're a bit of a mix on here, some still dating, Ninah has promised some action for us in the holidays but not yet delivered.

ah we have weeks to go monty
which includes a child free week
however, you remember Boy George saying (disingenuously as it transpired) he'd prefer a cup of tea ...? that's me
you'd have thought viagra payments would appear a bit more discretely on the statement wouldn't you?