Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 23

[Monty100]

These threads are finishing faster and faster!

As you were.

maybe I should get some too lol

i did register on one but find it all rather odd - some of them look and sound very (ish) nice but it just feels realy artificial for some reason. I have had a couple of emails but they rather put me off than anything else

tbh I think I would prefer to meet in RL and get the whole body language, eye contact thing going on - first impressions and all that

BUT

I work FT in a pretty big, customer service job which I love but is unrelenting. Dash home to be with the DDs (7.5 and 2.5) and avoid major overtime fees for my lovely nanny (I am the breadwinner and XH actually thinks I should be supporting HIM, which I draw the line at but monster mortgage plus nanny gross wage and all my other living costs paid for by me so I try to keep her hours to the contractual amount.

Parents 1.5 hrs away so they can't 'pop' to babysit (fabulously helpful though they have been) and XH has moved away (I am west Herts, he is now Richmond/ Surrey) and works eves and weekends anyway so no let up there in terms of a childfree evening...........

I think I am hoping for some miracle in a queue at the coffee shop counter or something

on a dating site that is

sounds like you've enough on your plate atm!
I find that when you have very little free time it does make you extremely discriminating about what you choose to do with it
I quite like chatting by email. At least if I'm put off I haven't paid a babysitter

v good point

any advice on which sites are the ones to go for? I dipped my toe in Guardian Soulmates (oh dear, what does that tell you about me ) but have been underwhelmed as I say

half wish I had got there in time on the dutch/italian bloke from Bucks lol I speak fluent Iti so that would have been a start

i dont have much to spend on dp sadly, though he deserves shitloads of pampering

ds1 tried to call dp to ask him what he wanted for his birthday, but dp was on a job so couldnt answer, but he has told me he is really chuffed about ds and his idea

he told him to get him a big bag of twiglets

wrt exh, i think the others can back me up here when i say he is a massive cockbag and a total waste of breath

i was talking to dp about it the other day actually, trying to find one thing he actually gave to society/the kids/life in general, and i honestly couldnt find one reason

all he does is take and drain

i think it speaks volumes that none of the kids have actually talked about getting anything for his birthday (he will be 48), and the talk has been all about dp's

as for the guest list thing, omg that was YEARS ago, pre kids, but i still feel the same lol

i met dp online almost 8m ago, tho it wasnt on a dating site as such, however i have used them and had some fun times out of it, remianed friends with quite a few

too tight to pay for a dating site tho

oh i am the worst person to ask that question! i went out with a model rail enthusiast from match
Some people have used pof, I have window shopped only on mysingle friend and singlewithkids
good to see what's under offer in your area
if you were 'eligible' for the bucks man you are 30s? you will be swarmed

i also found that any blokes who tried their luck irl were horrendous, and got v short shrift

i dont mince my words, not sure if you have picked up on that yet

Lou, twiglets, rofl

how about a pampering without spending money? you could give him a series of IOUs or 'vouchers' for things like:

a massage
a walk in the woods (having previously stashed a bottle and some nibbles wrapped in a blanket that you come across in a suitable spot)without the dogs
to do whatever 'his' household jobs are on a number of occasions
breakfast in bed
erm, can't think of any others but you get the gist

it does speak vols about the conversations with DCs

my XH not a complete waste of space but a selfish, thoughtless arse too many times...........
Interestingly, my DDs didn't seem to actually miss him whilst he was abroad, they have got used to life without him, which I find extraordinarily sad in some ways and a relief in others

how did you handle intro of new dp to dcs? that is something I find scary to contemplate - feel they have been through so much trumoil with XH departure

get in there and sell yourself on the thread anyway if you like him, you have nothing to lose!

lou, got that loud and clear, love it

ninah rofl re model rail enthusiast - that would be me I tell you. I work in telecoms and all the men I meet are variations on homer simpson socks and pens in the top pocket, or else married (and of course lovely)so thoroughly off-limits

lou, I was referring to your lack of minced words btw

ninah, am 38 going on 100 atm so unlikely to be swarmed

I fear the italian bloke would terrify me in RL

yes, that was him
going to turn in now nn all

exh fucked off abroad for 14m when we split, to "heal himself"

the youngest said he forgot what he looked like

i have always introduced anyone as a friend, but this time it felt so right so soon, i told them beforehand he had asked if iw ould be his gf and i had said yes, and wanted them to meet him

it went v well and has done from day one

this i am v grateful for, as if there had been an issue with him and the kids then we wouldnt have been able to have a relationship

they all really like him, but ds2 is pretty much glued to him whenever he is here

and as for the pampering, he gets all that anyway when i see him!

nn ninah

Lou, that sounds great re dp and the dcs and he is a lucky man

evening all just catching up!
welcome to all newbies as always
mont the midwife how is all going with the LO's?
just skimming here but is dp really a leo lou?
think we need ninah grant here and her book...think eons ago when she gave us all our readings!

no he is a virgo!

i feel like the lucky one tbh

43 (44 in jan), 4 kids, cock of an exh, no money, cant believe my luck tbh

he is stuck with me now tho

Mummy - I think when you find your feet online you grow a thick skin, in the early days of these threads there were some laughs and shenanigans going on, all a learning process of online dating. One of the first guys that ever emailed me for example was standing by a car holding a mahoosive fish, and I'm thinking 'aw that's sweet' because my db is a fisherman, but realised soon enough how thick shallow it actually is to do that. I learned a lot from these threads, and yes we do have a laugh. Hope at least some of that makes sense .

ASBM - the wee ones are fine, it's the mum that needs all the tlc as she is caring for them. She's getting 5* at the minute. I'm not even a cat person I'm a dog person!!!

Lou - what about the picture idea, no?

lou have scrolled down...your ex isn't even worthy of our thread time..bad enough in our head time
{tis my new mantra}

would be curious to know what your dp's ascendant sign is tho?
elasta i'm about him,what the hell does he want?
and seeing that it was a dating site that you met each other from,how does he expect to do the whole 'take the kids out'bit?
eve you're always the dark one on this thread..please elaborate
agree with everyone else that well cut jeans,nice top and heels will do the trick

monty i bet she is!
blimey doesn't seem 5 mins since you had her

ASBM - that's a sore subject because I was railroaded into having the two kittens in the first place and Al was going to be in charge of vets appointments, bills for food etc etc and dd was going to do all the feeding, clearing up, and me going on and on to Al about taking them to the vets to do the necessary continued until her first heat and now........... need I say more.

She isn't even one yet.

(Which is why I'm spoiling her rotten, poor thing ).

morning all

I am going to trawl back through previous of these threads to pick up the early days internet dating giggles and tips

started to sign up to single with kids last night but got cold feet when I got to the profile stage - I loathe that part

Lou, sounds like you are both lucky and that is a good balance

Morning All!!

Hi Mummy, welcome to the thread!! I am on GSM too, thats where I met traveller and a few others. I am up north but used to live in St Albans so know herts well.

ASBM not idea what is going on with traveller and going to let it all quietly drop. He seemed to think it would be great for us all to go out climbing one weekend when the kids get back from their dads. Cant imagine why I would introduce him to the kids if he is openly dating someone else.

Shall be moving swiftly on from there

Just a quick hello before I start work.

Mummy was going to reply to you last night but couldn't get on the laptop. Lets hope that Viagra he bought was fake, hope you are going to have a go about it, you should tell him if he has a problem he should get it on prescription not some dodgy internet site. Maybe it's her that needs it .

I would join in on the Bucks man thread, you never know.

As for internet dating, I prefer the free ones to pay sites. Unless you don't mind perservering and paying fees for as long as it takes. I found if I paid then I went on dates just to get my monies worth. Whereas if it's free I can hang about forever and only correspond when I can be bothered. A friend had success on Guardian, it looks a bit up market for me.

Forgot to say hello to Knickers too if she is still reading it.

Lou, I like the idea of burying a bottle in the woods with some nibbles for a cheap but lovely walk. In fact the guy my friend met on Guardian did something similar on there first proper date so Mummy that could be the site for you.

ASBM, I'm not expecting anything much from this date. Had cold sweats just thinking about the age gap in bed last night. (Come to think of it this has been happening a lot). Which begs the question why would a good looking younger man want to meet an old dried up woman like me. Might cancel!

Oh dont cancel Eve, you never know! Also remember you have your on line friends to think about - someone here has to be out dating

Must go to my meeting and do some work.

Back later