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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 22

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Monty100 · 01/06/2010 18:23

Yay, did I make it to the bar first again??

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lou33 · 08/06/2010 21:09

it isnt only dp he has let down but 2 others as well

and he has been asked to work a few hours tomorrow morning (they think he is off tomorrow evening) as they are so short of drivers atm, so my promise of him taking hte boys to school tomorrow has been deferred until thurs

still he is only working from 6.30 -10 am so not too bad

janos, wrt the lyrics, if it was from the song or not, it's still way too shite as an opener

dd1 had an a level today which she says went ok, another one tomorrow

oh and their father finally made contact, 4 weeks after going, but he waited until he was back, telling htem he never said he would call them

funny that, it says differently in the message he sent me and told me to pass on weeks ago....

he didnt arrange a day to see them either

lou33 · 08/06/2010 21:10

i also meant to say sorry about your crappy day, as well

Janos · 08/06/2010 21:41

for your DP lou.

I don't GET flakey people. AT ALL. If I say I'm going to do something then I a)mean it and b)do it! (eehhh..sez woman who got mediation dates mixed up ). Still YKWIM.

As for GS blurk it is a shite opener isn't it.

I was with a mate when I picked up the message and she went 'Whaaaattt?'

Was sooo disappointed as he seemed like a nice bloke from his profile then I read that. Come down city!

Sorry to see your XH hasn't changed much lou. No suprise there but how disappointing for the DCs.

lou33 · 08/06/2010 21:49

i think they just felt grateful he got in touch finally tbh

i dont get the flakey stuff either, especially for something like this

i mean surely the right thing to have done was give him notice it was looking a bit shaky, not string him and the others along and then just IGNORE all calls and messages they sent?

ffs, i know we all have to cancel at times for whatever reason, but i give as much notice as i can, and he has been not responding for a week

i told dp that if it were me i would have sent him a message long before now to say i would assume it was off unless i heard by x time or date, and take the decision into my own hands, not leave it so late to be let down

still a shame for him though, but maybe karma for rubbing it in my face by turning up the radio or tv every time it came on

he seems ok about it now however, though has said he wont be giving him the time of day ever again

Janos · 08/06/2010 22:15

Well, exactly. What's wrong with a quick call/text/email whatever to say really sorry but will have to cancel cos of x y z.

If I have to cancel I always, always let someone know, just don't get that attitude at all. So bloody rude!

Agree with your approach, that's how I do things now.

lou33 · 08/06/2010 22:34

baffling isnt it?

ninah · 08/06/2010 22:36

oh here's flaky
invites to school party, bbc etc, lovely
i got one, my friend got one
she is away (iow incidentally, sorry lou's dp) so I read her the info
fine - she knows them a bit, yes please
hers says 'parents too' so I email the party woman, don't know her, saying great I'll come, can I bring ds as well if I can't find somewhere else to dump him
and then I look at my invite
and it is just for dd crawl under a stone emoticon
hey juicy GOOD LUCK for tomorrow.
written tests you already know you can do
Interview - if you can't talk them into hiring i'll eat my fascinator

Monty100 · 08/06/2010 22:52

Evening all

Juice - good luck tomorrow.

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Janos · 08/06/2010 22:55

Ah ninah that is EXACTLY what I would do. Then spend ages feeling like a right twunt.

Arf @ fascinator comment. Vee true.

ninah · 08/06/2010 23:06

I am feeling v twuntish
she is mid 30s, chic hair, seasonal au pairs, you get the picture
and I am going on 'well I may have to bring ds as I'm a single mum'

  • you're not invited luv!!
hi monty
ninah · 08/06/2010 23:07

actually I tried to ring first thank god she did not pick up phone, would have been worse than email even

Monty100 · 08/06/2010 23:26

Ninah - Hi. Oh dear . And arf also at eating fascinator.

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ninah · 08/06/2010 23:36

dragging my sorry ass to bed lol
night all

hatesponge · 09/06/2010 00:06

juice - good luck for tomorrow! Though am sure you will sail through it

evening to everyone else...have quickly skimmed thread and looks as though the marital sofa is getting pretty crowded at the mo!

No prospect of me joining you there anytime soon, am giving up on Match/the whole online thing as it seems pointless. It's been so long since there's been anyone on there I would even consider going on one date with, let alone think might have potential beyond that! Am resigned to being firmly on the shelf for the foreseeable future....

thesouthsbelle · 09/06/2010 08:08

juicy - good luck today i'm sure you'll do fab, what was the role for? glad you had a good w.e -when are you promoting him then?

sponge you won't be single forever. don't worry - mr right is out there somewhere. what area are you in?

lol@ fasinator.

kdk - wasn't a hard sell - just a bit flipant! lol. there has to be some good un's out there surely? althou that said thou it's hard. get playing scrabble on FB i've just been propositioned by a young man from birmingham who's given me his number. new way of doing it! lol.

sm - when the right one comes along you won't have those insecurities or walls around you or anything else, they'll all fall by the way side & then there will be nothing but you & him there. honest.

Lou - we're both of the same mind frame, for me it's a step outside the zone i'm used to but one I very much want to try (even pre soldier) so watch this space, did see the party thing but not sure on that, may need to build upto it! glad all is well with you & DP.

played hooky from the gym monday - bloody shoulder no idea what i've done to it thou. as for my peachy assed little friend - he'll have to take a ticket and get to the back of the line again. his ass maybe fantastic but he'd need to be something pretty damn special to turn my head away from soldier atm.

had one of my wobbles y'day I get around this point - things are sorted out. He's coming over later & I have to cook - how the hell is one meant to do yorkshire puddings for a yorkshire man when i'm southern!!!! good job X MIL taught me well!

passmyglassplease · 09/06/2010 09:47

hi guys, just dropping into say hi quickly and to ask for advice re court appearance tomorrow.

I have a hearing at the court to establish if ex has the right to move into my flat, I wont go into the detail but I just enough to say that the stress factor is off the Richter scale

however, must get to the question, silly as it may sound, what do you wear, ie skirt or trousers, all in black etc?

oh yes could you please hold my hand as well as I am all of a dither, am worried I will be made homeless!

thesouthsbelle · 09/06/2010 09:49

as long as you look well groomed and smart (i'm thinking suit) you should be ok.

we're here don't worry. good luck, fingers crossed he won't.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 09/06/2010 10:10

suit - grey/blue or black.

or smart suit trousers and a blouse with a fitted/tailored smart jacket.

trousers can be substituted for a grey,navy,black pencil skirt. nothing shorter or longer.

my interview is thurs

thanks in advance though

passmyglassplease · 09/06/2010 11:56

good luck for thursday juice

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 09/06/2010 12:05

pmg- good luck in court

aurorastargazer · 09/06/2010 15:12

'you and me babe how about it' - a line from the song romeo and juliet by dire straits - i know that song too

pmg - good luck

juice - good luck

Janos · 09/06/2010 15:49

Ok, good luck for tomorrow Juice .

Well the online dating is going nowhere fast. Seems some (not all of course, I know from experience) disappear over the horizon the moment you mention being a parent. I reason it's better to know at this stage. Wheat from chaff etc.

I briefly wondered whether I should slice a few years off my age then realised that's a complete non starter, and why would I want someone focussed on age anyway.

Anyhoo - am gonna put a pic on my profile. You guys tell me what you think. Completely honest please!

Pmg - I agree - smart for the court. If you don't have a suit, smart trousers plus plain top and 'understated' jewellrey all create a good impression(I've done court appearances so well appreciate the stress involved). Do you have any support?

Remotew · 09/06/2010 16:11

I want to start again but cannot afford to pay. Not sure which site to try from the free ones. Guess it will have to be POF as the others a dead here in the sticks.

Now DD has turned a certain age I have said it's time to put myself first. No wingeing about me going out and it's up to me whom I invite home to a point. Also I am feeling deprived on the man front (putting it politely) and it's been a while since I've been this horny keen.

Janos you don't have profile on here .

Janos · 09/06/2010 16:13

Sounds like the eternal dilemma eve.
I thought I did have a profile..will just go and check settings.

Janos · 09/06/2010 16:16

I didn't have it switched on to public settings, photos should be available now!

Can't really afford paying sites either. Seems a lot of money for not much return!

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