Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 22

[Monty100]

Yay, did I make it to the bar first again??

Oh well Lou you put him straight.

Janos, think I have put Stallion straight too in a letting down gently way. I said I had been busy and didn't want to keep putting him off, he said he didn't want someone playing games and that he was there if I change my mind. Certainly wasn't interested in anything casual with him, nothing with him full stop tbh.

I do tend to have casual things going on and I suppose sit suits me, unless I fell totally in love and it wouldn't suit anymore. But this just evolves via meeting through friends/history etc rather than meeting via the internet iyswim.

Gosh, just looking at loose women on ITV2. Michelle Collins and lots of other women on the TV around my age are looking so much younger, must be Botox. Alright for some if you can afford it.

Flipping heck it's gone cold and is raining now.

Hmmm, IDKWYM eve. Sounds like you handled the situation with Stallion very well.

I do actually prefer to meet people IRL but then needs must. Not easy for me to get out so much during the week.

Atm I'm happy with casual myself. I don't want a man around the place all the time, I like doing my own thing of an evening and enjoy my own company!

another one here who likes casual for the time being.

Did have a long txt convo with exbf last night after commiserating re football. It all turned a bit strange when it transpired that he thinks I dumped him all those years ago and I thought it was the other way round.

His memory seems clearer than mine generally though (eg when we first got back in touch he remembered my birthday fgs).

Later on he said it had prob turned out for the best as he couldn't have given me a child as he didn't want any more. That felt like a body blow tbh but he's prob right.

But what I find more 'amazing' is that we had a completely different take on the end. I told him if that was the case then I had made a mistake and was gutted.

But perhaps the past is best left where it is and not raked up - can't be changed can it?

He is hard to read but kept asking whether i had someone there or a boyfriend which to me screams insecurity oh I dunno. Just wanted to share. The thing is he wouldn't be with me now as he couldn't do stepchildren again - so really what that says each time is that his needs/wants come first. If he really wanted me then he would maybe put them second.

Lou cheek of plumber/kickboxer.

Eve - stallion sounds poss to OTT for you.

YY to shitty weather. What happened?

Hope it cheers up again for tomorrow.

SCL - how do you feel about ex? I think if a man "can't do" step children he has no business being with a woman who does - if he wants a proper relationship I mean. After all they are there and a huge part of your life, he can't pretend they aren't and/or expect to come first.

Janos, I think we all feel like that until we meet the one who changes all the rules. I hope it's not a fallacy. I think we need a pep talk from our friends here on the marital sofa, that it happens like that. I strongly suspect, in my case, that it could happen.

I mean a woman who does have children...obviously! D'oh.

Scl i know. If i had not been so ill i probably would have been crosser.

Yep eve, I'd agree with that...never say never!

well you all know how i said same as you before i met dp.....

Hope you feel better lou
hello to everyone else
football was embarassing ...
spent day with ex sorting out school stuff. He makes all this fuss and storms on about paying for it but what a lot of hot air. Down to me to sort it, as usual. Have discounted home ed as ds is driving me insane, i can barely get him to tidy his room so education would be pushing it!
sorry no chemistry with your date janos.
I really should go on a couple this summer, just too lazy. lol at squirter bloke
who was I in the film of the thread btw?

lou.

Guess what you guys...I've been asked out a date by this really nice 24 year old (veggy, runs his own music company).

I am resisting the urge to say..you do realise I'm 35, not 25, right?!

ninah - sounds exactly like my ex. Full of hot air (maybe literally - noticed when he dropped off DS today he was looking fatter than ever)

nothing wrong with a little age gap
he does sound lovely too!
yeah ex has an expense account belly lol
turns out his brother is my mate's accountant
he was there too, you can imagine what they talked about lol

ROFL @ expense account belly.

And they say women are the worst gossips....

He does seem really nice from our convo..good looking too

Hope he doesn't have a change of heart!

was talking at school today
there is amazing help available for divorcing/separating couples re impact on dc

that was at your young chap btw not the divorce help

he would be mad if he did janos, how many young men would think all their birthdays had come together at the chance to date a hot older woman?!

he would be mad if he did janos, how many young men would think all their birthdays had come together at the chance to date a hot older woman?!

ROFL at the the thought of me being a hot older woman...

I'll need to think myself into the hot older woman mindset now

janos, you can do it! the trick is it's all relative and you actually are really still YOUNG
if I embarked on hot older woman i fear I'd look like lou's ex's mad friend in the leather mini
luckily I am drawn to men who are older and more wrecked looking than I am (who have no mirrors and fancy 20 year olds)

dont make me come and slap some sense into you janos

of course you are

you got it going on girlfriend

Evening all,

Lou - you sound a bit better.

Janos - welcome to Cougar world lol. Not really, you're only a youngster still.

Ninah - rofl at expense a/c belly.

Eve/SCL - I think if I met a guy who didn't want to do step children, it would have to be kept pretty separate from family life. I'm not saying I wouldn't do it, but I think that's how I would do it.

Mine were really young when dp joined our world and he stepped in like a full on father more or less (his understanding of what that entails anyway, as he's never had his own children). However, this little bubble burst when twatface exh moved onto our doorstep (almost literally). There's quite a bit of acrimony now between ds and dp. But I like to think it's probably not much worse than a 'normal' family as ds is of course a teen now. Dp and dd have little tiffs too, but probably not much different either.

Actually, and I wouldn't mind your comments on this, dp announced today that he is NOT going on holiday with ds. . I've said if exh isn't take ds on holiday then I would do so myself! (It turns out that exh is taking ds on holiday). I'm not too impressed, although, I have to say that dp does have a point, insofar as ds is hard work.

But it doesn't sit that well with me tbh.

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Lou -

You're definitely on the mend girlfriend. lol

i would be very hurt monty
but then again I think of the situation I was in with ex's ds - remember, the one who was hostile and rude? I could not go on holiday with him, I just could not
however I have not known him all the years your dp has known your ds, and I know that you would reprimand rudeness as my ex did not
anything in particular to spark this comment?

Ninah - I am more than a little miffed. Nothing specific has sparked it, just in general ds has been a horror of late, he's growing up and is beginning to have his own opinions etc and he can be disobedient. It could be a disaster if the 3 of us were to go on holiday, me piggying in the middle a lot probably.

It suits me that exh is taking ds. But dp has p*ssed me off by saying it.

Exh and dp bumped into each other today . Exh told dp that he was getting the money together to take ds away. Dp said he almost offered him the money!!! How wrong is that!!!