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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 22

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Monty100 · 01/06/2010 18:23

Yay, did I make it to the bar first again??

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sincitylover · 27/06/2010 16:06

can hardly bear to watch

doigoornot · 27/06/2010 16:17

ive come your all of your wise dating advice.
Met a man on internet about a month ago. Messaged on there for about a week. Then moved on to msn and then text about 10 days afyer.
Hes seems nice, funny, job, own house. We have a lot in common and hes asked me out for next weekend.
Now, the last few days the texts have got dirtier and dirtier.. ending up in text sex. Which is fine by me, really it is. And he texts me everyday without fail, asking how i am, and them asks questions about stuff i might have mentioned the week before.. like showes a genuine interest. Earlier this week i was away with work and in the morning he text to have a good trip and could i let him know id arrived safely. Which i thought was nice.

ANyway, - in the interests of finding a grown up serious relationship im wondering if pervy texts are really something i should be doing ( though i do love them!) and if i really should meet someone who is sending them too me?

doigoornot · 27/06/2010 16:44

He also hasnt logged into the dating site for weeks. Not since the last time we chatted on there.

He has also said that he is looking for a relationship, has made no assumptions based on the texts and is really looking forward to meeting me.

Ive told him i dont do casual sex, so he is under no illusions.

I cant work out if the openess is a good thing or not?

sincitylover · 27/06/2010 17:31

hmmm not sure

I also like dirty texts but would think they might be the lead into casual sex IYKWIM

however it is possible that he is non judgemental on that score and could be up for relationship with those too.

I would meet anyway but not really have any preconceived ideas as to how it might work out.

Other mnetters will be along soon with their view.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/06/2010 17:41

hi scl
what a shower of shite
totally outplayed and outclassed on every level disallowed goal or not...hope you've got one opened
doigoornot i'm another lover of dirrty texts but they need to be worded well iyswim
inuendoe is also great
you've also been responding i take it so he prob thinks he might stand a chance of a quick shag
agree with scl it's a night out but play it safe and apply all the usual dating rules

doigoornot · 27/06/2010 18:12

we arent going out at night. We are going out in the late afternoon. To the beach and for an ice cream/walk on beach/paddle/game of pool.

Ive told him i dont do casual sex and he says he doesnt either.

The texts are worded very well. He was a bit shit at them at first. He said he had never done that before ( he also said he was a virgin until he was 25... not sure if i belive him or not, hes very good looking and seems quite nice and kind) But they have got better and better, He is actually at glasonbury this weekend, and has still contunied to text me, i held his attention more than his fave band! ( am rather impressed that he has text me while hes there)

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/06/2010 18:16

have you done internet dating before?

doigoornot · 27/06/2010 18:42

yes. Why?

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/06/2010 19:15

listen to what your gut instinct is telling you based upon your other dating experiences is prob the best advice i can offer

doigoornot · 27/06/2010 19:52

well my gut instinct says hes a nice guy who is exceptionally horney!

I cant see any danger flags waving madly in my face as yet.

I rather like a bit of sexting, im highly sexed myself, and its not something that makes me blush or feel awkward. In fact its rather on the mild side really. I can be more than a bit kinky.

The fact its a daytime date, and that ive said i dont do casual sex makes me feel fine about it, plus i know the area where we are going really well.

i just wondered if i should be looking for something a bit more slow burning? but then again im not a slow burning kind of a person.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/06/2010 20:33

think that you've answered your own question there then lol

Janos · 27/06/2010 21:20

Date update:

No polo necks in sight thank god

Anyhoo he was very good company, really enjoyed myself but don't think anything will come of it. No 'spark'.

Ah well, onwards and upwards! How is everyone. Not too hot and tired to post I hope.

Oh, remember the chaeting exbf? He's been back sniffing about. Have advised him politely that he will not be getting in my pants again.

That is all.

Janos · 27/06/2010 21:26

doi - I'd say if you feel comfortable with and enjoy it(and it sounds like you do) then go ahead!

I used to love all that stuff myself but my sex drive has pretty much taken a nose dive recently. Maybe I'm getting too old...Hmmmm...I could be a mad cat lady perhaps?

Remotew · 27/06/2010 22:31

Personally, I would save the sexting until you had actually met and know that there is a spark, but that's just me.

Janos, sorry about your date. I'm supposed to be meeting Stallion again tomorrow night later but I've arranged to go out earlier with friends for something to eat so will have to leave them to do it. Then I reckon I will have to tell him it's not happening. Think I will at least meet him again as he is so keen. Damn!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/06/2010 22:52

janos he's not
what about that woman?
eve your night out sounds lovely so why finish it earlier than you would have liked?
you're quite within your rights to just text or call and end it like that
at least it's better than bfs

Remotew · 28/06/2010 12:01

Tis done. I have told him that I don't want to keep letting him down as I'm busy which is true.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 28/06/2010 12:56

how did he take the news?

Remotew · 28/06/2010 13:26

OK, just said that I could send him a message if I want to see him another time.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 28/06/2010 14:04

sorted then!!
here's to a top night out for you then!

lou33 · 28/06/2010 14:19

afternoon everyone, i finally feel well enough to sit at the computer!

not for long though, just enough to update you on stuff and to say i hope everyone is ok

does anyone remember me talking about my plumber kickboxer friend who has always had a thing for me , and from time to time will try and act on it?

well on friday night i was in bed starting to feel worse and he texts me, basically trying to persuade me to go round and spend the night with him

i ignored it, then he messaged again asking if he had done anything wrong, so i replied asking him what kind of reaction was he expecting, when he hadnt been in contact for ages, let me down about fixing my boiler, ignored my texts etc, and then sends me a message acting like he can fucking buy me, and i also added i doubted my bf would like me to be upping and going round there all that aside,and i was ill to boot

he replied saying he wasnt interested in the bf, and he bet me £100 i wanted to go round cos i loved him more than dp

i replied saying he was not hte person i used to know and left it there

dp however decided he was v pissed off at how disrespectful he was to me and got my phone and copied the number, which resulted in him sending a couple of texts asking him wtf he thought he was doing speaking to me like that

fell asleep soon after that, but was up and down all night being ill, so about 5.15 i heard another message come in apologising to me for being so hideous, and to say sorry to my bf etc, which would have been fine , aside from the fact about 5 mins before he had also sent one to the dp basically telling him to back off from me!

dp was furious, i do hope we never bump into him, as he wont forget it

plumber did say he had been a twat for saying all those things but i dont see how in a million years, knowing me as he does, that he thought talking to me like that would have got him anywhere even if i had been single ffs

i did send a lengthy reply in the afternoon telling him that and havent heard anything back so i hope thats all done and dusted, the only thing i worry about is there is a chance we could bump into him from time to time, as we did on my birthday, because iknow dp wont forget how he spoke to me and will pull him on it

i have told him it isnt worth it as it makes not odds to us etc, but he is v protective of me if he thinks someone is taking the piss

especially this week, when he has been coming down after work, just to tidy up and look after me, cos the kids havent really felt so inclined, then going back to work and doing 11 hrs without being on call at night

he even had a bit of a moan at them last night cos he felt they should have been helping me more, and told them so, then felt bad about doing it lol

anyway today is the first day i have ventured out of the house since friday,and i think i am on the mend slowly

still not close to 100% but at least i am not doubled up in pain crying in bed ;)

hope everyone is ok and enjoying the sun i havent been able to

Remotew · 28/06/2010 15:19

Lou, I would have just said I'm in a relationship now so don't want to be in touch. Can see that DP knows what he looks like so let hope you don't bump into him. Guess you won't if he sees you both first.

Glad you are on the mend albeit slightly. It's clouded in here this afternoon. I have been really busy with one thing and another so haven't taken full advantage to work on my tan. Had a nice afternoon yesterday even if we had to watch that damned match first. Had a BBQ.

DD has just gone on her hols with mates until Friday so I'm home alone. Got night out then off tomorrow but working the rest of the week. She enjoyed her date btw.

lou33 · 28/06/2010 15:37

Eve, this is someone i have known for years, why would i say that to him just because i am with dp? I feel it much more justified to tell him the real reasons our friendship has floundered,as well as let him

Janos · 28/06/2010 15:44

eve - sounds fab! I love a good bbq and now the good weather is here I may just invest in one. Are things still on with Stallion? Is just a casual thing?

asbm - yep that's the one. Bloody cheek. What does he think I am? I asked why he cheated on me and his only explanation was 'Sorry, I was an arsehole'. Well, you got that bit right.

Lou - glad to see you are feeling a bit better. All that testosterone flying about, what are they like! Glad it's all sorted tho.

lou33 · 28/06/2010 15:47

let him know i wouldnt do that to dp anyway

i was gonna post more but its going funny, hence half a post earlier and i need to lie down again so am giving up

Janos · 28/06/2010 16:01

Take it eay lou x

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