Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 22

[Monty100]

Yay, did I make it to the bar first again??

Hi all, back from a lovely week in the sun (apart from the occasional DS 7 going on 17 moments!).

Lou - that sounds awful - hope you're okay.

Belle - new relationship on fb

Can someone else summarise what I've missed in the last week?? Juicy - where are you?!

I'm still trying to play it cool-ish with Mr blue, although he's text me quite a lot over the last week and is coming over later. Kind of thinking its probably just a fling - although I'm enjoying it and trying not to expect anything else! Get back in the saddle and all that!!

lou that's scary. have a cold beer

Hi all, just about survived the teen party last night. Police round here are determined to ruin the fun. So it ended at 11.15. DD had a ball and no major incidents.

Just had a friend request from a guy I don't know. Lives 30 miles away and has about 125 females only in his friends list. Talks about Doms and small penis humiliation. How the feck did he pick me? Needless to say I've ignorned.

Lou hope your nerves have calmed.

pass him on to kdk for her collection
sounds her type lol

nerves are fine thanks, just feela bit knackered from this bloody hayfever

i had a nap but am now having a beer before making banoffee pie

lamb harissa burgers for tea

glad dd enjoyed her party

Ninah lol.

Where is Kdk anyway?? Helloooooo!

Lou - how's the hayfever?

SMO1 - so come on then, no romantic encounters on your jollies? No young single dads or anything?

SCL - when is your jollies?

Eve - glad dd had a good party.

The back of my house is beginning to look very tidy indeed. I'm going to hit the beer soon. Have a wedding reception tomorrow evening, I bought a dress which will not suit a sultry summer's evening which looks now like what it will be, so I'm going to opt for the flowery maxi dress I bought for a tenner! . So now have a shoe and accessory crisis. Hmmmm.

Ds sneaked out of the house this morning before I got up. He was grounded. OMG. I'm beginning to give up with him, he's getting out of control. Ideas anyone. His tv is already in my room so he has no xbox etc and I've already hidden his laptop. What to do?? Parentline?? He has totally ruined my week. Well not totally, I've got a lot of stuff done, but he put paid to any leisure time. I'm wondering even about the wedding tomorrow , what to do with him. I can't think of anyone I can burden.

how old is he monty?

Lou - he's 14.

does he get pocket money?
if so i wouldnt give it to him, and take his phone off him , he wont be needing it if he is not going out

Lou - Thanks, but I've done all that too.

He came in about half hour ago, he's gone straight to his room. I don't even know what to say to him. I've taken all his privileges.

Monty, not sure what to say really just having a girl with no experience of boys. I just go by the rule pick your battles with teens, unless it's a biggie, make your feelings known then move on.

Sorry I'm not much help.

A relative of mine has visited, met someone after years of being alone and they are going to be living together very soon. This is after going out for only several weeks. Guess the moral of this is when you meet the one you just know and all fears fly out of the window.

Monty-is there something going on with him that he hasnt told you? Does he talk to you much? I obv dont have dc's that age but I work with kids of that age, sounds like you have tried most of what we would suggest. How did u react this morning?

Belle-lol sorry we outted u, but I had already changed my status on fb it was someone else who is comfortably on the couch with us that hasnt!

lou-how scary! Hope the hayfever eases up soon, I feel so lucky I dont suffer from it!

eve-glad dd had a good birthday

ninah-hows things with you? Did you ever hear from thai farmer again?

Juice-Hows your weekn been, is that your new car on fb? I want one lol!

Hi everyone else, a little bit tipsy here tonight lol off out for an early tea and a few drinks with bf tommorow night, kids are off to my mums yay. Oh and I have told dc's about bf and my mum now too lol! Dc's were funny and very giggly about it but happy. My mum said 'do you think i'm going daft in my old age' lol

Thanks everyone.

He's only just got in from this morning, I'm just going up there now. He was already grounded.

i would take his bedroom door off the hinges so he had no privacy and remove his shoes, but i am probably really mean

i have removed all laundry and feeding privileges in the past for dd1, who is now 18, saying if she expects me to do that then she has to live under certain rules, and if she was not able to behave decently then she wasnt getting anything back from me, including being taxied about (we live in a small village with rubbish public transport)

i have also offered to remove her to her father, which she hates the thought of

would any of those work?

failing that i find bursting into tears has worked

betty, i am still bunged up but not like in the day, i havent had it this bad before, but it does seem to get worse each year

i never had it until i was an adult

i may end up going to the gp to see if they can prescribe anything stronger that still allows me to drive

monty I am dreading this with my ds, he's only 7 atm but my god .. can take away anything and response don't care, said with a sneer
sounds a real nightmare, don't know what to suggest really
how does he respond to dp?
on the bright side with a maxi dress you can wear what you like on your feet cos no one will see them
though I'd draw the line at 'footgloves'

liking the hinges and shoes idea
will bear in mind for the future

yes they will do the dont care bit, but they do really, especially if you give it a proper amount of time before they get anything back, even if they apologise

ds1 is 11 and sometimes he does not know when to stop the backchat, (v similar to dd1 in temperament)

when i tell him i will remove his gaming privileges he says that, so i up it by another day, the more he goes on or is cheeky the more days i add on

he got as far as a 3 week ban then stopped

and i stuck to it, though i did offer him a chance half way through to knock days off by doing extra chores he wouldnt like doing, but he had to go without for the majority

maxi dress means you could wear slippers

lou sounds scary

monty how old is your ds - as you know I am also having probs with ds1 -age 13.5 guess yours might be a bit older.

Perhaps we can swap notes

Went to a friends for bbq tonight - ds1 didn't want to come ds2 came but was bored. I had a nice time and have decided can't get up tomorrow for ds2 football training.

Anyway will be having summer party usually second week of August and Monty and Sponge you are welcome to come along. Nothing special just a few drinks etc.

Lou and Ninah thanks.

I've been up to see him, ordered him to get his dinner, shower and bed. I also told him he was making matters worse for himself and that he wasn't to go out tomorrow. Felt I was talking to a brick wall with that one. Door off is a good one. I'll definitely consider it. It is good Lou, I'll hand it to you. .

I have been in tears this week tbh but he wasn't around.

I'm thinking of phoning his school next week and asking for help. I told him a couple of days ago that this is what I was going to do as obv my discipline isn't working so I'd be handing the matter over to a man that can. (Not exactly in those words). I said they might take him into care . Is that evil?

Cross posts.

SCL- he's 14. Nightmare.

Party??? Ooo, if I'm around sounds good.

Lou - I'm liking your style.

Oh and exh has given up. Like they do. asshole.

They've fallen out this week, so I can't even threaten him with that.

Mine is in trouble at at school. Very difficult.

perhaps we should all meet up?

SCL - Yes, good idea, and sorry for bringing my troubles on here (again).

Betty - I'd be interested in your opinions.

Oh, and to put the icing on the cake, I think the girlie kitten has had a shag today. lol.