Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 22

[Monty100]

Yay, did I make it to the bar first again??

gotta go have good evening xx

lol aurora
I really like our librarian too, but I think he must be married besides if I chatted him up I'd never be able to go back in there
is this 'wedding man' hate?

I need to read this thread more often, I don't have a clue whats going on.

Would appreciate some advice on something though if anyone can help.

Bloke I went to school with, been fb friends for a while, started chatting more last month and he made it clear he was interested. Started txting each other and he has just popped in for a coffee on his way home from work.

He asked if i'd like to go on a date and i said yeh and he said 'cool we can go up town'. Now by that he means large city centre, which I absolutly hate. I am not a clubby person, i hate dancing and feel really out of my comfort zone. He is a very clubby party animal type person and spends all weekend every weekend drunk from what I can tell.
To me that was a date that you had when you were 18 not in your early 30's.

It's not happening until a week friday because I am busy, but what shall I do/say ??
I would like to see him but not to go out and get that drunk I can't remember it the next day.

I'd go with the flow you are in your 30s not your 130s! if you have a nice time ask him for a second date, and you arrange this one so you do things you like
I know what you mean about clubbing, but it's good to step out of comfort zone from time to time
have a fun time!

Hmm, not sure Mrs M. I will confess that when I was in my early 30's I would have chosen to go clubbing on a date and did/would have rejected someone who was ready for pipe and slippers at that time.

I would have done the meals out, quiet cosy nights if I liked someone enough but would have got bored quickly.

You should tell him if you really would feel uncomfortable with it. Hope he say no biggie and changes the date. If not then maybe you two are incompatable from the off.

Oh I agree that clubbing at my age is normal, it is just that I don't like it lol, I hate dancing so just end up stood there looking like a knob lol.

The amount he drinks is kind of concerning me at the moment but then that could be what single blokes with no ties do, I don't know ?

He has mentioned us getting very drunk when out and thats fine, I am pretty good at knowing when I haave had enough, but I will be drunk way before he is even tipsy from what he has said.

Hey MrsMorgan, another mid 30s non clubber over here thought not quite ready for pipe and slippers yet .... like a night out but must admit I wouldn't be keen on someone whose idea of a good time is spending the entire weekend paralytic.

But, as ninah says sometimes tis good to step outside your comfort zone. See how you feel after spending some time in his company?

I wouldnt be happy with that amount of drinking or the fact he stated his plan on a first date was to get that drunk.

In other news, the exw of Dp is now my fb friend lol

It took me a moment to work out who you meant lou...are you just fb friends or friends friends?

Fb friends, though we get along ok irl when we meet, tho I wouldnt call us mates iyswim. We are very different people

Fb friends, though we get along ok irl when we meet, tho I wouldnt call us mates iyswim. We are very different people

That sounds like a good way to be. You are never going to be bessie mates I would imagine cos of situ but friendly/ok is nice

Hello everybody.

MrsM - What Lou says. Not really impressive is it asking someone on a date to get hammered. Is he just 'bigging himself up'? It's not my idea of a date anyway, and clubbing to me would be like having teeth pulled, but I wasn't so opposed to it in my early 30's although I was never big on it, I've always preferred live music/pubs. You could suggest something a little more low key, oh I don't know, I'm an old git, me.

Thank's for the replies, it's so good I have you lot to ask because I am totally clueless.

He is really keen, has been txting me non stop since he left and so I think he would agree to anything. I might be seeing him briefly on friday so I am going to say can we go to more local town instead. That way I will feel more comfortable, but we can still have a drink.

Also I am only 5 min away from my house then, which i'd be happier about should anything happen, good or bad lol.

Wrt the drinking I think he does definitely drink alot, but because he is a young, single bloke and has little else to do when he isn't at work.

Going to see if I can change the venue and then see how it goes. I do really like him and fancy him like mad so as some of you said, it might be worth going a bit outside of my comfort zone.

Thank's again

MrsM, oh you fancy him like mad? Might be better to be a bit nearer home.

Lol, that what I was thinking Monty

Lol, and not toooooooooo much to drink, just enough.

Yep lol. God it seems ages away, now lol.

Yes janos I agree. She seems to have a bloke atm too so she has stopped relying on Dp as much recently which is good.

He did some more diy today. New bedroom door handle and smoke alarm have been fitted. He goes back to work on fri so wont see much of him as he will be working every day til the following weekend, so am getting the jobs ticked off asap lol

It will be odd not having him about.

Talking of clubbing, I've got a works night out tomorrow, and have already told the 'girls' that I will not be going on to the cheesy nightclub no matter what. I think considering it's a biggie for me next year I should put these things behind me. Phew never thought I would say that and mean it. They are insisting I will change my mind but they will have to drag me kicking and screaming.

Lou, did she request you? I know you get on but I wouldn't be comfortable with it. I am fb friends with my first loves wife but we did split up 32 years ago. lol

she did request me

it was because she wanted to see the pics of our puppy , and she told dp that she wasnt able to see them

he said the only way to do so was to add me as a friend

i dont mind, we have chatted before more than once

i dont see anything i should be uncomfortable about

have finally caught up on the thread
eve- i think dd's dress is lovely have you found shoes/bag yet?
how are things with you?
have you found any talent on pof?!
belle- imho i think you're way overthinking things here,an intro as who's mummy's friend is fine and won't freak ds out,he'll no doubt like him and as he gets to know him he won't even notice or be bothered by realising that you're more than friends...this was the approach that we took and it worked well
i did lol @ marine texting you tho cheeky fecker!!
scl- wasn't surprised to hear that uknowwho had found another target..such a relief to know tho that he isn't still pestering you.men like him shouldn't be allowed out on the streets
i see that ds1 is still having probs at school,am guessing that his dad is passing the buck on this and no doubt blaming you.
do you find that things are always worse when he's come back from their house?
aurora- i knew who you were lol.hope all's good with you!
pmg- sending positive vibes your way,divorce is hard enough without the extra hassle he's giving you not to mention the huge legal bill that he's running up for himself.as a thought would he be willing to attend mediation?it would help to sure up a consent order and iirc you would not be liable to any costs as it works on a sliding scale.
juicy- really sorry to hear about the job,have you contacted them since?
betty-see you're all loved up too
sm01-any more happening with mrblue?
lou- your exh is a cock and a disgrace to fatherhood,all probs.which the kids have are v.much of his making.my exh has royally messed up ds1 so much so that i was contemplating taking him to the gp for help
ninah-v proud of you for sitting a dreaded maths exam and fingers crossed for august.won't mention email again as i'm crap at keeping in touch atm,but i will try to send one!!
janos-i like your kitchen shot too..are you using match and gsm?lmao at constructionman,jeeze if ever a fella needed an award for persistence it's him
sponge-are you feeling better since he left?
mont-lolol @ the wedding reception,bet you LYFAO and i can imagine that exh's dp face was a picture!

father's day...is anyone getting their sperm donor anything?!

DD bought hers a card. It's up to her now but sperm donor is all he has ever been to her. We got shoes and bag so all set, just an expensive hairdo to pay for now.

Not on POF, just that useless Zoosk.

hi everyone, am place marking again

and no i'm not at the same library as library guy

hope you all ok? will try and catch up tomorrow have a good evening