Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 21

[Monty100]

Did anyone beat me to it??

Hi PMG, really sorry it didnt work out for you.

i am sorely tempted when you lot sort out your meeting to get my asse down to the big smoke for a meet up. be great to have an excuse to have wine meet you in person

betty - glad your nan's feeling better, as these types that text first are the keepers

re election - we wont know till it happens what will happen. whats done is done. we will just have to see what happens.

its all a bit hectic on the pof with me and who i'm talking too. too hard and long to explain. once dc dad is back and i am able to confirm dates and make arrangements i will fill you lot in.

being stuck with kids 24/7 is starting to grind me down a bit though. i have been sitting tonight how much i want to do a really simple thing.. go for a walk, nice evening.. and i cant. stuck indoors. cant leave the front door. stuck with these 4 walls. gosh.. driving me crazy today.

things still look on track to be seeing forces. got to see him on webcam was first time in a month. kinda good to sit and talk and chat

pmg - get it out of your system. better out than in .. important thing is you enjoyed what time you did have together when you had it.

sponge are you going to say yes to wedding man?

monty - needing new glasses yet

good morning everyone

ninah - am sorry thanks for putting me right

betty - i'm sorry i got it wrong, how is your nan today?((())) ooh let us know about boilerman's present

pmg - (((())))

sm - i agree with belle, perhaps he is hoping it would be one long 'date'? perhaps not then

sponge - wedding man slight red flag? glad things gettign sorted out for you with regard to your ex.

juice - glad you got to chat to forces what's this about monty needing new glasses

Hi all, just a quick post to say thanks for the support with your comments on fb. I have deleted the status this morning as it's a bit public. This thing has been hanging over me for months now, anyway I won!

Belle how lovely.

I'm down sarf a week Saturday. Will be free Sunday, but bear in mind that I'm a country bumpkin and not used to getting round town.

hi eve was wondering how you were, not sure if i 'know' you on facebook? glad you seem better now

afternoon all

whats the official time span for the bf being called the dp on here btw (i can never work these things out)?

anyway he is a bit pissed off, because i have a friend, not a close one, in fact i rarely have contact with him

however when he is in contact there is always an underlying tension because he has told me int he past he liked me as more than a friend, and i have always felt uncomfortable about it, always telling him it wasnt on the cards etc (and mostly why i avoid meeting him)

anyway he regularly invites me to things and i dont go, but occasionally meet him for lunch with a child in tow

when he found out i was seeing mechanic, he searched him out on my fb and added him as a friend, odd yes, but to not be rude he accepted him

this guy bangs on and on and on about having to meet for my birthday in january for a drink, so we eventually give in, thinking he will turn up with a friend, but he doesnt, plus pisses off bf by turning his back on him during mid convo to check my arse out when i went to the loo (his words not mine, and i didnt know about that til after we left and had gone home)

so clearly bf is not a fan of this guy

now today this guy has once again invited us out tomorrow night, to which i have said no, because bf has worked all the hours this week and i ave barely seen him, and i want to spend time with him at home with the kids catching up

after saying no and explaining why he then asks if he can take me out tomorrow night without bf, specifically stating there was no pressure and it was cos we are mates, but of course i said no again, explained again why i said no, then he asked if he could meet me in the week for a picnic and bring wine

i am actually really busy wit stuff and explained that, but he still went bangng on about pencilling me in for thurs pm ffs, so i said again i was really busy and buggered offline

now i told bf this and he, being not a fan of this guy anyway, is now fairly hacked off at his behaviour, saying he is cracking onto me (not that he thinks i am interested btw), and he is trying to do it under the pretence of being a mate

i'm wondering if i should just fuck off this guy as a friend , because i do generally try and avoid seeing him , as we did have a fall out when he got the arse about the fact i wouldnt date him a while back, and also because i do feel like he is always perving on the sly

having said that he loaned me money last year when i was having problems with my bank account, but i also wonder if that was done as another reason to be able to stay in touch as well maybe?

the conversation ended today with him saying to call him anytime

sigh

shall i just get rid or leave him on stuff like fb and keep the status quo?

i might get calls and texts and blubbing if i boot him off

gah!

get rid lou, mechanic (i remembered this time) is right, this guy is trying to crack onto you and if he can do this in front of your bf, he clearly has no respect for him or your relationship with said bf; it follows, therefore, that he is very unlikely to have any respect for you (and clearly doesn't if he trying to get with you in front of bf). a bit convoluted sorry but hope it makes sense. fwiw, i would cut yourself off from this 'friendship'

gotta go lou hope all goes well

ttfn x

i just got rid a few mins before i logged back in here

spoke to bf and he said just fuck him off (he doesnt mince his words)

i have been very clear that i didnt like his behaviour and it made me feel uncomfortable, but he never seems to fully digest it

i wonder if i will get messages to my phone now?

i wouldnt normally think twice, but i know that being told has had no effect before

bf wants to call him up and tell him to do one

Lou - that's quite an ugly scene really. I don't understand why, if he thinks so much of you, he would compromise you like this. Friends don't do that. No advice to offer really, except he probably needs to be binned if he's not going to listen and respect you and (do we call him dp yet) dp/bf? Friendship is after all a deep and mutual respect.

lou- entirely agree with mrsm. bin this 'friend' bloke off, he sounds like a total pita and don't feel indebted to him just because he helped you out once. Just ignore him from now on, hopefully he will finally take the hint

sorry, am being a bit forthright today, have been to the bank and sorted out my account (eventually) now just waiting for the inevitable fall out with the Ex....

yes you are all right, and i have got rid of him from my fb and blocked him, bf will be doing the same

it was only because of the fact that he loaned me money that has made me hesitant, but it isnt a good enough reason to continue like this, we werent even close friends in the first place, and tbh i now wonder if he thought the loan would reap some kind of extras, in hindsight

ew the thought makes my skin crawl

i didnt ask him to loan me any money btw, it was his idea and i actually refused it initially

Lou, now I am going to ask this due to the situation I was in yesterday, mine was over someone paying for what I thought was a treat and when I binned him out of my life he got very nasty and is still threatening to appeal today!

Have you paid him the money back? If not then do so and tell him to fk off. If you have just tell him to fk off , depends if you value his friendship in any way. I would just keep putting him off until he gets the message.

Lou, X post, can see you've done the blocking thing. I have had to change my privacy setting today on fb so that only friends can send me messages. Whilst fb should be a fun thing it can soon turn into a disaster if someone has a personal vendetta against you.

He might have lent you money just to keep in touch or just to be nice. Hard to say really.

i have paid it back partially, but i told him at the time the problem with him loaning me money was that i would struggle to repay him, and he said it was ok

i will get him his money when i can, i just dont want to have to be friends with him in the meantime

when the time comes i can pay him off totally (its only about a hundred quid, but thats a lot for me to find) i will just contact him for a bank account or address to send it to

lou - good on you for binning. he's not a friend. checking out your asse and pointing it out to dp is very rude

i vote for calling mechanic dp now

when you have the money just arrange to pay it back.

Well someone now owes me money so I have given my bank details and said I would look out for it rather than be in touch. So you can still fall out with him.

Yep DP it is now Lou!

Dp from now on then. If I dont forget because I have never used that expression before !
Right am off to drink my warming cup of tea (heating is broken) then make some tempura apples with cinnamon

Dp from now on then. If I dont forget because I have never used that expression before !
Right am off to drink my warming cup of tea (heating is broken) then make some tempura apples with cinnamon

tempura apples sound lovely! - lou I think you need to give us cookery lessons esp considering we had toast for dinner here tonight, my poor children....

and re bf now being dp.

Still waiting for the fallout with the dreaded Ex. He is lurking upstairs. Am hoping this could be the weekend he finally moves out.

Meanwhile wedding man predictably has cancelled Saturday's date

so....when's are we all going for this drink then - and Juice are you coming down to join us?

whats tempura apples?

sponge - you were expecting the cancellation though weren't you?. here. have another biscuit .. store them up to chuck at him

i have a date tomorrow at a castle ... hoping for good weather. but if it rains he is providing a large brolly to shelter. i have been very well behaved and avoided the innuendo's possible around getting wet... he's a bit of an elligible batchelor, lives local(ish), trying to give the impression i am a well behaved lady .

knowing my luck... it's slip on a wet stone, start cursing like a trooper as i haul him down with me

i'm his first date from the sites as he's only been on a few weeks and never yet worked up the courage to go on a date.

wish me luck he goes through with it .. and looks like his photo

depedns when you guys are meeting and when dc dad is back. dont aim for me to be there. i will make it if i can and flights are cheap.

oh... and wtf do i wear to a castle with a chance of rain? i'd love to wear heels... but really??? in a castle with cobblestones.. i'll look a right pillock wont i?

Wow juice sounds exciting! I would skip the heels though if you think you might be struggling in them.

Have also got new date on Sat lunch and am also seeing my last date again next week when he gets back from his travels. Am quite keen on him but he is possibly the most unavailable man I have ever met as is always out of the country - pretty sure he is telling the truth as I get chapter and verse on where he is and what he is doing.

The dating police (aka my married mum friends) have been round and taken new pictures of me as they think I need to update my profile. so we shall see if it works

omg juicy
Mr Rochester??? date in a castle?
you l-i-k-e him
don't you
tomorrow? wow

no wear the heels
you can take his arm
(arm, nothing more lol)

ninah! but yes young juicy - arm, at a push a kiss on the cheek. lol.

elastmum - good luck with the new profile. and check you out with ya dates.

castle rain - any thing like ours i'd say flats or something with a small heel - ah who am I kidding - it's trainers here for the castle - esp if ya gonna be looking about inside. do we have a name for him yet?

sponge - hope XH does move out & doesn't think about taking any more rugs - infact hide the bins he may want those idiot man. just hope it goes smoothly for ya.

lou - yay for DP! it's fab. glad you binned the man off as well - and SP for doing it - tbh I agree change all settings, after you have his bank details set up a SO of say £5 a month and don't bother to contact him again. must say it is lovely DP being so protective.

pmg - (((hugs)) be good to yourself.

hope everyone's ok.

not much happening here- oh FA cup final weekend - YAY! get in hopefully we'll win it's wembley and anyone's game I think. no really lol. apart form that have some shopping trips planned. had a nice long chat with soldier y'day we've taken to calling randomly at lunch as well when he can so it's all good this end. Also lost 2lb at the fat club - no idea how as haven't changed eating really, and missed the gym on monday as couldn't be assed to go (even to perv at marine)