Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (pt 17)

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Has no-one beaten me to it yet?

Juicy sounding good.

WG old friend is worth seeing again.

Second not to arrange a meet up without me. Maybe down south in May.

aaah mongolia - pof was that good to you..

ahem

... i have a date tonight with one.. shall we call him the driver . quick coffee when i finish work while my mum is still baby sitting. lives very local. he sent me 3 emails before i gave in and responded. his first was too short, so i ignored.. his second i ignored as i didn't like his area as i assumed he was a born and bred local(isn't).. 3rd i finally replied as a decent length and proper email .

oooh and i have a few pics for you guys for a nosey of my recent dates. anyone after a nosey send me an email.

anyone else got any pics? betty - you got one of mrjacks? WG - are you on anyones facebook.. can we perve nosey at fit friend

shame mongolia I was going to ask for your username so that I could take a peek at your profile.

Ive found with pof that it has been more of a steady drip drip. I receive alot more emails on smooch.

But hardly reply to any

phone kind of fixed, well i can text and call anyway but they still cant seem to fix the photo messaging or internet usage

the day seemed to begin to go downhill after i left orange and went to buy some hair clippers and realised i had left my bank card in the store

cue me legging it back to orange, and luckily the v nice (and attractive) young man had put it in his till

after that it got considerably better with a visit to a couple of car showrooms, and test drives booked for sunday

i already know which one i want though

what you after lou?

I think the trick with POF is to leave it open in the background all the time the computer is on (that way your photo is circulating in the top strip all the time).

I only wrote to one or two, but I guess I'm as bad approaching men in Internet as I am in real life, so no luck there. So, I just added the ones I liked to my favourites and most of them emailed me within a day or two.

I think that something that helped is that I concentrated in looking aproachable (I think the expression I have in my photo is the one of a harmless spaniel puppy ), I said I was only looking for friends (plain friends) but that things could progress with the right person (thinking it was going to be kinder to say good bye to the ones that didn't like me enough or who I didn't like).

Oh and also said that I don't go for looks but for intelligent people. Probably that's what really did the trick... I guess most men think themselves incredibly clever while they are a bit concerned about their looks.

Another thing I found interesting about POF, is that everyone has told me it was a "meat market", while I found everyone very respectful. I still keep in contact with some of the people I talked to back then, they are good pen friends now.

mongolia - i agree... i have a few of mine i still email about once a week makes for interesting chats.

personally i never liked the favourites part. very relieved they have removed from showing the number of favourites you have as i didn't like men adding me without emailing me.

I also think it is a good thing they have removed it. I didn't understand why the other people needed to know in how many favourite lists you were. (and it was also a bit intimidating)

i need a car with at least 6 seats and enough leg room in the back row for someone over 9 , plus a big enough boot space for a wheelchair and shopping

it also needs to be high rather than low as it is easier to transfer ds without ruining my back anymore

the one that ticks the boxes most of all atm wrt all that is the volvo xc90

i need to apply for a motability grant for the deposit though, which is less than i would expect for a car like that, but still out of my financial reach

i fell in love with it this afternoon though

@ scl - do you get any real prospects off smooch - I just find I get toyboys and tossers sending me flowers and kisses and u r sxy type of messages ...

oh and btw @ juicy, not going to throw bedside clooney, may throw very heavy old German dictionary that I'm using as a doorstop however ...

Oh and lou - have you looked at the Ford S Max?

yeh but its too low and i think iirc the back row of seats werent spacious enough and the boot space was lacking

well I dated someone from Smooch for about six months last year - the jury is still out as to whether he is really a tosser.

Fair share of oddballs but also some quite nice ones - however I have been open in the past to a bit of 'fun' so might be using different criteria than if I were looking for something deep and meaniningful - but actually only went through with it with one person from smooch.

Am in touch with a couple of people there as friends.

I am not really looking for a serious relationship or next Mr Sincitylover and having been married to an academic and working with them am def not looking for highly intellectual/metrosexual type any more. Need a more down to earth man (not neanderthal of course)

Oooh thanks for the useful tips Mongolia. I still think, at the end of the day, for most blokes, if they like your pic then they'll contact you. Surprised the "looking for friends" line worked...

Good luck and have fun for tonight Juicy, let us know how it goes. Well he seems keen which is promising! Yes I'm on facebook but how would you get to see a pic of fit friend? Do you mean his little fb profile shot? You need to see a full length shot to perve appreciate him properley.

How much does Smooch cost?

I went to a POF party once. I'm also in the sticks and was surprised this was held very close to home. It was the reason I joined and I persuaded 3 single friends to come along.

Sorry to say it was tragic. I had chatted to a guy who was going and met him there with his mates, they were a sad lot. Not only unattractive but the social skills were zilch. Looking around they were also the best of a bad bunch.

We made a quick escape to the pubs.

Now don't let me put you off. I'm sure its different in a highly populated area, it has to be. KDK and WG do go just to prove me right. I promise you will have a great laugh. You can always escape to somewhere nicer.

omg mechanic just called me and as we were chatting about his day he said

"omg lou i almost let that L word slip out just then"

I will admit to once going to a PoF meet for precisely five minutes - my two friends and I walked in one day, clocked all the rather sad and socially unskilled in attendance, and went to the nearest bar ....

but maybe in centre of London might be different??

and just had another of these on soulmates
"thanks for message but, and i didn't want to just send a snappy one-liner, i am concentrating on some conversations already started for now"

oh well, it's going to have to be the saddo fetishist ... or the guy with the disability scooter

You can only give it another go in London.

Lou Tell him you want to hear it face to face.

saw the lovely man at work again today. Get all stupidly smiley around him, so no doubt even if he is single he will think i'm a complete fool! We'll be at the same office til Easter, so I have time to find out if hes married etc...

kdk- of course I dont mind at all messaging the match men for you...would you feel ok about saying their user names on here, alternatively if you're on facebook I can give you an email address which you can find me with on there (unfortunately I forgot the password to that account ages ago so cant actually receive emails to it, but works to locate me on FB...i would give you my main email addy,. but that has my name in. Blimey, could I make it more complicated?! )

juice..hope tonights date goes well.

lou - Volvos are lovely, my friend has one & its great. I'd love one myself but for the small issue of not being able to drive!

Okay - I have no pride left anyway -

one is wrldisenuff, t'other is nickm944 - my nick on match is quoideneuf7 and just say I got their message, unfortunately not a match subscriber but if they'd like to find out more/chat etc they can find me for free on pof under mzdemeanour.

Can't be any worse than any of the other loons I've encountered!

hey.. well my date looked exactly like his photo... except... he was too skinny for my liking.. you know i'm fussy about being to skinny. he was whippet thin. gotta explain to him a good excuse why i'm not gonna see him again. he's local and will deffo see him about. give me a good excuse. he's already text asking if i'm gonna meet him again aaaaaargh

hatespong - does no one else in office know if he's single/married/ltr

use the line I'm getting - that you're corresponding with someone and don't want to muddy the waters/lead him on etc - then can always say it didn't work out if he sees you out and about ... or say he reminds you of ex/teenage love who died in tragic accident ....

kdk I also belong to a site called lunchdate london or something similar though have never really used it.

However they have an evening event soon in Aldgate I do believe and they are selling it as being sophisticated and very low key - I could paste you a link via facebook if you're interested - don't think you have to be a member to go along.

Should get a better class of people there.

I was going to go to a POF event once and actually got messaged by a female who wanted me to go along with her but something better else came up at the last minute so I didn't go.

Juice - also not a fan of skinny men - they have to have a bit of meat for me to find them attractive although not beer belly or similar. Samename and exbf have a slight paunch (horrible word) which you might expect on a mid 40s man.

SCL, I'm willing to have a look being a well-sophisticated laydee who knows which fork to use!

ok will do so later when I am off the mac - (can't get onto facebook from the mac) and get the laptop back of the dcs.

I would go but can rarely go out during the week due to lack of childcare.