Where are all the fit, interesting and available men pt 16

[Janos]

Yep, it's still going....

Part 15 still lurking about, I believe.

Oh yes scl I see exactly what you mean. I'd be very suspicious of anyone saying that they lived with somebody but they weren't 'together' (yeah right).

And also needy. Not good at all. Completely understand your reticence (sp?), I would feel same.

match for me is shite tbh, not interested in any of it.

lou - glad mech is good for you.

sponge - yup we shall see - end of the day he can't even be honest as a friend - apparently he's not bothered by match anymore & hasn't been on there - yeah WHATEVER!!!!! he's been on there in the last 24 hours. twat.

scl hope you're ok?
have read your posts and without wishing to seem OTT i don't like the sound of this guy one bit
juicy ohh rofl at mr catch(good name eh?!)
i'm assuming his piccies were good tho in the first place as i know your taste
any more from w/e's outings?!
lou

apart from gb what don't you like about match, belle? they are a bit fuglie true (loving that word)
as for the friend thing my boundary-mixing 'friend' does all those nice things that lou mentions from mechanic, just making life easier you know
but it ain't right
going to miss the support tbh
hoping head clears soon

he just went and dug all the snow and ice from outside my drive and gritted it

just that, the whole site as well, can't be arsed with it tbh,. have tried pretty much all of them, and so far decided none of them are for me.

the friends bit isn't for me - I can't be friends with someone and frankly I think it's unfair he knows what I think/feel for him for him to expect me to be his mate & watch him date others even if he says he's not - i'm not that stupid!

ooh missed all that!
sponge whereabouts in the country are you?(don't have to out yourself btw)
but some of us still have profiles on various sites and we could check out the talent for you before you consider signing up!

back in the room lou?!

I am hereby resigning from the would-be dating society - have just received a message from a man who spends his weekends taking part in historical reenactment - I am just not cut out for this, I really am not. Goodbye, good luck, I am off to join a nunnery .... it was the weirdos what done it.

Ok lou, cards on the table here..does mechanic have a brother who is willing to relocate to Scotland?

asbm- am south east london/kent borders

typically though having just said that about Match, have checked & have been contacted by someone potentially more suitable...well not a definite no at least. So might not give up on it entirely just yet!

(having said that, if anyone does know of any nice men in my area, point me in the right direction!)

have you tried any other sites?

kdk don't go!
he can't be that bad surely?
what exactly does he do @ w/e's?
you never know you might actually enjoy...??

i tried eharmony (before I signed to match)...it said I didn't have any potential matches so I didn't bother with it!

asbm - it's not just him - it is just the endless parade of men that I don't even want to meet for a coffee let alone anything more. I think I'll just stop for a while, give myself a breathing space - I just find it so disheartening - either I've got a hugely inflated opinion of myself or there are blokes out there who seriously think that single mothers are so f*cking desperate that I would consider some fugly no-hoper with a lecky scooter or who spends his weekends pretending to shoot other no-hopers ....

I've not got the thick skin or the confidence to approach the men I find attractive/intelligent/a good match ie that I think I would have something in common with and can only suppose that they get so much attention from younger, more attractive, unencumbered women that I don't stand a chance - and I'm not prepared to settle for someone just to have a relationship (yet anyway!).

Off to give myself a good talking to ...

kdk - dont go... there has been a few dates obtained on here from men with hobbies that seem weird on the outset. but were actually very harmless.

keeps them out of the pub and our hair tbh we discovered.

i can think of a certain on who has a thing about military aircraft ... and then there is the train fanatic.

unless i am wrong. both dress up in full outfits occasionally for their hobbies. and both were most definately of the nice guy variety and resulted in proper lengthy relationships with girls on here.

in that case am hoping that any of our other ladies might step in and help out here,maybe do a search in your area?
just need a few essentials lol
age range,height,type etc
we all used to do this ages ago when we were all on diff.sites
a few of us have had success with pof tho
i'm obv.no longer on a paying site otherwise i'd have a nosey for you

ok well...

Age - preferably mid-thirties, but anything from say 30-45.

Preferably already with children, esp the older they are. The older the man is I mean.

Height - at least 5' 10. I naturally attract short men for some reason...but I like them tall! Looks-wise, I don't do pretty. Slightly rough-looking is good, oh and short/shaved hair.

In general...they have to be able to spell and string a sentence together. And read once in a while (FHM/Loaded doesnt count). And no weird re-enactment type hobbies

I'm too fussy aren't I?!

• should add if anyone wants me to have a look for them on Match am more than happy to

juicy
sponge hopefully that will give the girls a bit to go by
what's the latest match man like?

well...not sure now re the latest one .In his first email he has given me his mobile no & told me to phone him to arrange a date

makes me wistful for the builder who emailed me for almost a month before asking me out! (not that we ever went, but...)

phone number in first email .. gosh.. very keen or very scarey

sponge - how tall are you... few of us like taller men on here.. either as a preference as we like em bigger.. or because we are tall.... i like 6ft min... but ideal is 6ft2 +... proves to be the hardest thing to get in potential dates

It's one of those akward things height isnt it, I'm only 5ft 4/5 but prefer taller men, pref over 5ft9.

As for the dating sites, I've registered on quite a few but havent paid for any(cheapskate lol) and since properly looking end of sept/oct have been on dates with 3 different men from pof, one of which i still chat to on msn as he was a lovely bloke but no spark and latest one being mrjack who seems 'normal' lol although i have to agree that there are a load of weirdo's on pof. The ones ive been on dates with I messaged first tho so i would say dont wait to see which ones message you, look for ones you want to message.

janos, yes he does but according to mechanic his brother is a bit of a tosser

that description you wrote sponge, sounds like the mechanic , but you cant have him

i'm with betty.

nearly all my dates i have went on was me who contacted them first.

but i send messages to people i'm not even fussed in meeting. sometimes they just have a really crazy interesting profile. or weird job, and there may be some email tennis.

and it goes in waves... sometimes it'll be a few days or even a week between last visits.. other times there will be a really interesting emailer(who i may or may not fancy) and i'm on/off all day emailing.

but the thing with pof is that it works by last visit.. the days i'm on/off all day... there will be a surge of new messages from guys because i'm top of the search lists... once i've been off for over 24 hrs i will get nothing because i could be on page 7/8 so no one sees the profile.