Where are all the fit, interesting and available men pt 16

[Janos]

Yep, it's still going....

Part 15 still lurking about, I believe.

doesnt it just

he had to go out of his way to get it too as work have run out

the kids are counting down to boris arrives

t - 4 hours

lou - at lovehearts.

monty - yup.. that sounds like him. wel educated,very witty, clever.. highly paid main job. 2nd job(to keep him out pub)

but... i have never actually seen him completely sober at wkd now i think of it? either still drunk from night before.. or already drinking.

only time i've ever seen him sober is on weds nights

and completely pulling me in wrong direction to where i want to be. was supposed to go get my watch tonight. but i didn't have time.

ninah - lolo @chinos

and laughing at all your weird foods. we're having £1 cheesy pasta packets, think we've ate all super noodles... and freezers looking a bit bare.

and i can get out of house... just cant face tescos at all!!

@ juicy - maybe you should give yourself a bit of time before you get your watch - I know from my own experience that it's very easy to almost give yourself permission to get dragged back to behaviour you're trying to stop.

See my earlier post re birdman and smoking - it would be very easy for me to use a bf who smokes as an excuse for me to take it up again - and the associated socialising/drinking that for me goes along with it.

Still planning on going for a drink with him if I get round to messaging him - just hoping that I keep my 'straight' head on.

i just sneaked a fag out my bedroom window as its too cold to go out

its only my second today though

Eve - hope you feel better. Shame about the party.

Lou - lol at sweethearts and Boris.

Kdk - I'd wouldn't say 'the ball's in your court' imo that's a bit submissive, I like the joke though lol and there's no harm in a 'give us a shout if you fancy going for a drink' sort of thing.

Nina - hope stew was good. Yum.

Juice - Guitarman used to go in the pub at midday on a Saturday and Sunday holding court with the Guardian/Observer/Times crosswords and wouldn't give up til he'd finished them... by which time he'd also be slaughtered! (And every single night on the way home from work) He came to mine a couple of times on a Sunday at about 4pm and I'd be mortified as dcs would be here and they'd be although they really liked him and he used to string/tune ds's guitar and stuff and sort IT. But I couldn't really have him around dc's tbh. Al kinds of knows that guitarman and I were friends and I don't know if he assumes anything else. They know each other. I can remember thinking to myself 'I cannot end up with a drinker, I just can't do that to me or my dc's.' Then Al invited me away for a weekend for my bday last year and we slowly got back together. Guitarman hasn't spoken to me really since, even though we were not in a relationship as far as I was concerned. Anyway enough of guitarman it was his loss and it was quite sad really, I'm just saying that I can empathise, as many others can too.

Sorry that was long.

Hi to everyone else.

*lovehearts lol at Freudian slip.

Juicy-lol at pasta packets!

kdk-so who's birdman? have i missed that one

we had pizza for lunch and crumpets for tea lol my freezer is almost bare too have done an online asda order for tommorow tho lol cos there is no way im going food shopping on a sat! esp in this weather we do what we have to dont we!

I must get out of the house tommorow tho have been a real hermit this week. if roads arent too bad tommorow i might take kids swimming.

I'm another one who likes a drink but know my limits and like u wud prob steer clear of someone who was worse than me

i'm just hoping sainsburys is open til its normal time tonight so i can get there later

@ betty - it's a long (boring) story - he's someone I was chatting to back in May, sort of gave up on but decided he was, by very very far, the best of what can best be described as the scrapings of a very unsavoury barrel, so as he was still viewing my profile, I messaged him to wish him happy new year and asked if he'd like to go for a drink sometime ...

evening everyone!

eve - hope you feel better soon

lou - am liking the mechanic's gifts - combining the practical and romantic

kdk - definitely msg birdman. I think the tennis joke is great (wish I could be so witty!) but agree with Monty it might come acorss a bit submissive - but say something along those lines! If he says no, you've not lost anything (can you tell I'm in a positive mood today?!)

Have had a good think & realised the various guys I have been in contact with on Match (barring the gorgeous builder of course!) are all not men who I would have ever considered had I met them in the pub/party etc - they're all attractive, but they're not guys I would have looked once, let alone twice at, in real life.

so have had a rethink, am going to be more selective & not just message everyone who does me (as I have been, aside that is from the obvious nutters!)but only ones I really think I might like I know this is probably what I should have been doing all along but hey..!

kdk - want my watch back so i can close the chapter iykwim... and then i have no reason not to contact him.

wonder how belle is?

lou - @ sneaky window fag.. i had one out back door just now and i was physically shaking. lol.

sponge - i've been on dates with some who i would think are not my type.. and turned out to be a real spark.. beachbum was nothing special in his phot.. and wasn't really that bothered. kinda went on the date just out of filling a childfree afternoon for a bite of lunch. and was really shocked to find he really appealed.

and there was ones who looked great in photo. but then.. em.. anyone remember cocktail man... with the teeth

i kinda think i have a date on sat? one of guys who remembered my birthday has asked me to go bowling tomorrow. he's running friends to edi and collecting them from a night out and asked if i fancied doing something.... he's younger than me by couple of years .. shall we call him mr diy? have we had that one?... and no... get your minds out the gutter... its to do with his work!! he's not phwoooar in his photo's.. but he's such a sweetie i think i fancy a wee fun night of bowling meeting someone new!

sainsburys was shut but we found a local shop, and he had some fun turning off the traction control going round the roundabout, lol

OK all, I'm absolutely shattered and off to my bed - can't keep up with all the excitement these days! Hope everyone is having a fun-filled Friday night.

Juicy - go for it, think it's often when you least expect it that fireworks fly - and I always find bowling good for a laugh, well it is the way I bowl anyway.

I will message birdman tomorrow - he's online now but I'm too tired to be bothered at the moment - certainly can't think of anything that's a bit flippant and amusing as brain has gone mushy.

tbh kdk don't try hard to be flippant and amusing. Just ask him for a drink. You will end up being yourself in the long run, start as you mean to go on
Don't try too hard, just relax and enjoy
act like a buyer not a seller

what ninah says

"buyer not a seller"...... quote of the week ninah!!

Point taken Ninah ... but unfortunately I'm a crap shopper - takes me weeks to make up my mind whether A) I really want something B) whether I really need it and C) whether it's worth the money!

Anyway, message sent - no jokes just said would be great to go for a drink so now just have to wait and see ...

kdk-good luck im sure u will hear back and if u dont its his loss!

I finally braved it out today and took kids swimming, feel better for getting out!

Thought id blown it with mrjack yest was in a bit of a funny mood and asked him about pof on msn [cringe] he said he's been on cos he's had emails/messages but hasnt replied, seemed fine with it and asked me if i was still looking then, i said no, did say a bit later that i obv dont trust him tho anyway all seems ok today and looks like i'm seeing him tommorow so cant have scared him off yet! need to stop being insecure!

Hi all hope you are all keeping warm.

Betty agree about getting out have just been to local shopping centre with ds2 today.

Don't do yourself down over Mr Jack - I have found that some men actually subtely make me feel more insecure than others whose actions would never make me feel insecure. It's difficult though when you are in the thick of it and if you really like that person.

Juice - I have been out and lived with a heavy drinker. I have also drunk very heavily myself esp pre dcs - used to go out and just drink to oblivion - spend hours in the pub etc. I still enjoy drinking now but don't think I could hook up with a serious drinker again.

Nothing much to report here - Mr Yorke texted me yesterday which has been ignored and the gardener is still texting - I can't be bothered to reply to him though - not sure why - his texts are always about himself though maybe that's why.

Had quite a few messages on Pof but no-one who really grabs me.

subtley

hey all,

still lurking. sailor's been in touch. is laying it on thick at the mo re a coffee/we're mates/he'd be proud to have me on his arm etc etc. have replied.

gymboy has been in contact saying he promises he wants to talk but isn't ready to just yet. I just said ok.

have just brought myself a lovely new phone thou, & won't be giving him the number.

hope you're all ok.

Hey belle-so do u think u will be meeting up with sailor? as for gb again it's on his terms isnt it, just ignore i think u've given him plenty of chances and enough time! you sound like u are coping fairly well tho.

scl-thanks know what u mean about some blokes making u feel more insecure, think it's prob because he's quite confident, doesnt take much seriously etc and think it would take a lot for him to talk about feelings. Also think this is a learning curve about what i want!

where is everyone else tonight? anyone on dates?

betty - apparently it's easier once you know what you want lol.

re sailor have agreed for next w.e (again! lol)

re gymboy - he's promised he will talk & he's said he'll ring either later or tomorrow. said I was finding it hard he said I know. I offered to go over to talk (agreed we both want it sorting one way or the other) he said no point until his head is clear. then promised to call tomorrow. as I say new phone is already on it's way lol.

belle - again your waiting around on him... when suits him.. no concern for your feelings..

scl - get what your saying about insecure too... some guys just give out vibes you can trust them... others... i find i cant trust from day one and i avoid like the plague... i think there are certain ones who also like trying to get a reaction and imply they are up to stuff or purposefully withold info.. this i avoid too.

belle - i think you should defo go on date with sailor... keep your mind off gb...

i've got my date later tonight. i have been a good girl... i have refrained from any contact with irish today... none, zilch, ....and staying sober tonight so shouldn't be inclined... thinking of leaving my phone in car. then if he sends me a msg i wont be inclined to reply or feel guilty about being on date!!

where is everyone else... i should really be in bath... but ... farting about trying to delay.. not particular bothered about this date.. its more just a fun night out. dont think it'll come to anything. not even making an effort.. skinny jeans. flat boots(be walking around edi), black vest.. and some funky jewellery incase we end up in a club so i dont look completely underdressed.

should really be going full glam.. as it is a night out in edi now instead of bowling... but.. i cant be arsed

and yes.. where is everyone else?