Where are all the fit,interesting and available men Pt.15

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

jesus it's still running lol...

scl =- meant to post about this before. this is similar to tiggers story. and we were calling/texting all hours of the day AND NIGHT.... yet he turned out to be married with a baby under 6 months old!!

juicy hmm a tricky one then..but it's a big tick in the box if he's actually a good dad
betty lol.glad you had a good night out,what were his friends like?
scl i was also a bitwhen i heard that yorke was living separatelives but you know the score,he isn't trying to be shifty is he?if you're just out for a little festive fun then hey go enjoy!
hatesponge hi!and well done for taking the plunge lol.it's all a bit weird, tho disturbingly funny at first,keep your soh intact and you'll be fine!oh and fellas from a distance away are just up for a quick hit n run

betty - after seeing his house and all the equipment he has. i dont think he should be paying her. he'd gladly have them both full time tbh without any financial input from her either.

have half agreed with irish we have to stop falling into friends with benefits category. we both agreed it's making us lazy on the dating front. as we simply cant be assed with anything new as its too easy for us just to meet up and there's no hassle.

and.... just had my first arguement with knight .... this coming from the guy who doesn't want to have any sort of relationship.. he's complaining about me not making any time for him or making an effort to fit him in my life. wtf!!!! i wouldn't even expect this sort of gried off a full time boyf.

does anyone have a men-women translator.. i dont think i speak the write language.

i do juicy tho my translations usually consist of two words

ffs - wrong longuage i meant.

asbm - he ticks quite a few boxes. not my usual type though. but quite suprising.suppose i better name him... em...the blubell

asbm - have to admit... very close to saying several 2 word variety of resposes to him when he started the arguement by text but just dont have the energy.

juicy he does sound like hard work knight but his piccy was nice lol
why bluebell for this other fella?
am i missing something?{dumb emoticon}

asbm-he was only with one friend who seemed nice. I was with all my work mates lol so they have all met vetted him now too.

juicy-that knight does sound like hard work

i just had a stand up row with exh in front of his place, and sadly in front of ds1 and 2

and in front of them he ended up telling me not to bother bringing the kids to see him again

a few days ago i sent him a message asking if he could have the kids overnight at his on the 19th, and he didnt reply

so when i went to collect them today i asked him if he got he message and he said yes , so i asked if he could or not

he said he didnt know he would let me know when he was ready as he may be busy instead

i said if he could let me know asap cos i had to make plans one way ro another, he said again in his won time

i said if he didnt want to do it then dont worry i would make other arrangements, so he saiod fine i wont do it

to that i replied that i thought it would be nice for him to have had some extra time with them overnight, and he said that they got bored round at his, it wasnt about seeing them it was just about doing me a favour, at which point i said i managed without any favours from him for 4 yrs so i would sort it myself

i told him that i am always bringing them to see him and running errands for him and he doesnt even offer me petrol money, so i saw nothing wrong in asking him to have the kids overnight at his

he said why should he be expected to offer me petrol money on the income he has, and said dont bother bringing the kids to him again

then said to the kids that he would see them at some point when he was eventually able to get his own transport sorted (which will be the 12th of never), walked into his house and shut the door

its to do with his location.

lookswise he's on par with beachbum. something about him though.quietly confident. dont know his profile id, dont want to log on just now to get it for you to perve look.

oh Lou that's really shitty of XH. to be expected thou. sorry to hear about LB, have you heard from him at all? not sure what that message was about either - assume it wasn't very nice - in which case the poster can bugger off.

juicy - check you out. re knight - up to you chick. I wouldn't take too kindly to it that's for sure - infact XP was v much you have no time for me - and he was basically told you get what time I have or you know where the door is. up to you on that front - do you need the extra hassle? oh n you need to get yourself a gay best friend!! mine's fab (well he's not gay and if he was single i'd soooo be in there right now) but anyhow they translate man speak for you - it's great. so are you going to keep seeing irish then as well? what's happening with beachbum at the mo? and the third chap sounds like a strong possible - settled etc I know what you're saying re the maintenance but to be fair thou if he has the child half of the time he has half of the expenses, out of interest what happens with TC's & CB?

sin - re mr york - how about a drop in at his? to be fair thou it's possible that's the case. after all XH stays at mine when he's seeing DS and there's NOTHING in it at all so you never know. be cautious but if you have no reason to disbelieve him.

janos - glad the move went as well as expected.

hate sponge hiya & welcome to the mad house.

betty - glad you had a good night out.

mousie/blondie how are you girls doing?

anyhow off to watch x factor. Olly to go tonight I think.

oh and also 9 days till the sailor is home for our coffee YAY! (only taken us 5 months lol)

beachbum has said santa may bring me an xmas gift if i'm a good girl ... he says he's going to take me for dinner at some point over the holiday.

will try and cut down on seeing irish as its definately not helping. we seem to be getting fonder/more comfortable rather than less.

i didn't ask bluebell about tc and cb.

belle - how does that work with your exh then? do you all stay in when he's there or do you go stay somewhere else? or go out and come back and sleep then leave again in morning?

well the kids have seen what he is like , i didnt need to goad him

anyway i managed 4 yrs without his help, so im not exactly left high and dry

have already sorted other arrangements for the 19th

shame he reduced ds2 to tears though

i expect some fallout from this later from him

i messaged him today to warn him about the message on here, felt he should know

we arent enemies, there is no bad feeling between us at all

that's good - I assume you mean LB as I say didn't read/have any disire to read said message.

juicy - XH will land fri avo at some point (in time for me to go to the gym) then I go to combat and flop at mums, or see gymboy/friends/latest boy toy. sometimes stop out, sat is usually shopping & catch up coffees with friends. sat night again gymboy home for lunchtime on sunday - however that said if XH needs me at home then I do go - ie if he's got a duty early on sunday I'll come home on the sat night & stay in my bed while he stops on the sofa. (thankfully he's stopped sleeping in the bed now - not that I really mind too much as i'm not in it with him) but it's nicer he doesn't tbh. Also his name is still on the lease for this house at the mo, but he pays nothing towards it at all, and doesn't live here at all - he's got his own military address. don't think gymboy quite gets his head around it, but then again he understands that XH comes and i'll stop for about an hour maybe 2 while I pack up my stuff dep on when he arrives and then I leave them to it. We've been known to all go out as a 3 before now as well (as in XH I & DS) to walk the dogs, and also for sunday dinners, will prob go and get some Christmas dec's etc together as well on the 18th when XH comes down for a week - again i'll go to mums but we do little things together. (will prob do a soft play thing as well)

yes i mean lb, was along the same lines as the rant from before

i wouldve been happy for the post to stand, but it was removed

lou i'm so sorry that it's come to this and esp.in front of the kids,it's hideous when this happensbut you've dealt with him before and you knew this was prob.going to kick off at some point-shame on him and what he's put them thru
he's nasty and immature
juicy you have me intrigued now lol
belle glad you're good,am impressed by your remarkably civil festive plans

hes such a prick for say "well dont bring them round then, i will see them at some point when i can afford a nice car "

i said ok kids you heard that your dad doesnt want to see you

then he said to them bye til whenever and went in

fucking tossbag of rancid spunk

ds2 cried

fucking hell that's heartbreaking esp.when they were all beginning to make a bit of headway with him
jeeze i think i've got it bad with my exh and his childish/spiteful ways but yours..

Oh lou he's a tosser, and your poor ds's, y do that in front of them

belle-I've wondered about letting my xh stay here and going to my mums when he has kids cos as u know he's in forces too, but dont know if he and the kids will feel weird with that, whether it will confuse them? I might suggest it for xmas,have u always done that tho?

lou - waht a twat - tbh the kids would ahve been better if he'd stayed away I think. you do waht's right with them thou.

blondie - well it's prob as i'm a soft touch at the minute re XH - he's been abusive, he's cheated etc etc but he's a broken man at the minute so do feel sorry for him, and don't like to think of anyone alone on xmas.

betty - yes it's how we've always done things. we split when DS was 18 months old. it doesn't feel odd at all. a lot of people don't understand it, but it works for us, and we'll do it until it stops working. origionally it was done as DS was young & clingy so was needed to keep him secure & not confuse him, but as he's got older he's got confused, so we've had to make it clear that daddy lives somewhere else. As XH is in the single block thou that's why we didn't want DS there when the lads were out all weekend (plus his new block is mixed sex aparently) on that front all I say is do what works for you - I like it as it means every other week I get to be totally responsibleless. iycwim. I know XP hated it thou. how do you do things at the mo?

as suspected i find a berating email from him, saying its all my fault once again, i did it in front of the kids, i was unreasonable etc, why am i slacking on the divorce, i havent replied to his email about it (well i have had flu?)

arguing about xmas presents for dd2, etc

wouldn't it be nice if you could say to him - jsut rev up & do one?

do the kids want to see him? thought you were already divorced?

no he has had a million and one reasons why its been dragged out, then i got the marriage cert sent back to my solicitor, but found out i couldnt quite qualify to get it all paid for under legal aid, and i cant afford to pay, he has known this for months

apparently he expected me with my flu to be checking for emails from him and replying about it immediately, so now he is getting the arse

his email is worth me copying an pasting i think, to show what a different reality he lives in, so here it is, minus any rl names

After todays little tiff

I have a few rather obvious points

1. I just responded to your question with ? i?ll let you know?- same answer as anyone might give, your response ? the?re your kids?

Can you not see the normal reasonable response would surely be ? ok but get back to me as quick as you can? , thus negating all the hassle and unreasonableness that followed

Surely i have shown that I am willing to help If I can by watching them i just bought up the obvious problem for them ?THIS HOUSE IS TOO SMALL

Let us compare this to your absolute non reply to my urgent divorce email of days ago

Your response= nothing at all, even though I worked hard to scan all the relevant documents,

And although I am desperate for some news, I purposefully did not bring it up in front of the kids today.

Please get the marriage cert to me or my sol

Your point about me helping with the petrol is valid, but to just throw it out of the blue is not fare, especially in front of the kids, can?t you see the message becomes ? why should lou have to pay for something that is to the kids advantage? unless of course you are bringing the kids for my benefit alone, but I think we can discount that out right.

The strop you got into about me buying a camera for dd2, I think most people would think the correct response ( if you have dd2's interest solely at heart ) would be to find out which camera is the best for her and decide to proceed on that basis, not to blow up so that you can gain some points and make me feel shit again

Result now=dd2 gets the present based on anger not on merit

Is that really the best considered adult result????

I think not"

exh bought without even consulting me, a camera for dd2 for xmas, when i had already purchased one as it is her main present, so when i told hit o return it, and he should have checked with me as agreed, before getting anything, he kicked off

i thought he had agreed to keep the camera he said he cant return, until spring for dd1 when she is 18, but it appears he is planning on giving it to dd2 still if he manages to see her at xmas
the size of the house has suddenly been replaced as an excuse instead of them getting bored too

i am so so soooooo fed up with him, is it only me who thinks his behaviour is childish and immature, and it is not me who is behaving badly?