Where have all the men gone? thread 14

[ninah]

it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

blimey scl take advantage!

i couldnt go i got so backlogged with stuff today i had to cancel and rebook for tues

i feel ok tho, but i will def go and discuss it

yes might just send him a txt to suss him out.

I would also get withdrawal without internet - I'm addicted

Yes text him SCL, find out if he is single and if so wayhey, you never know.

i got given a number a couple of nights ago but he isnt my idea of fit, so when he said text him, i said i wouldnt know what i would text him about lol

wayhey scl you go girl
he's def.keen BUT what is it with some blokes about giving you their no instead of asking for ours?can you make discreet enquiries @ work about him to check his credentials (for want of a better word lol)
give us some more info about looks,age etc please

we need a visual

i would text saying
bet you thought i wouldnt contact you didnt you

call him phonebone lol

Hi I have been told I should join this thread so here I am

south Sorry have only skim read this thread and seen some of your posts but IMO if all you're after is a casual fucking thing then fine, but if you want more than that don't waste any more time on this man. It seems he just wants a fucking relationship which is fine if you only want that too, but if you want more I think it's a bit one way TBH and you'd be better spending your time on finding someone who wants the same things as you. Let's be honest if he can't see himself in a serious relationship with a woman with a child then what future can you possibly have together? I hope I'm not speaking out of turn here but the way I see it there's no where for it to move forward so if you want more than what it is right now you need to finish things and look elsewhere.

hello nappy

wise words there

hi nappy. thanks for your input. (to be fair here, and I'm not sure if I added this or made it clear before, the physical side he openly admits he's NOT done anything about at all, leading me to question if he even thought I was attractive like that) (sexually I mean) but he didn't want to knowing what he was thinking. So am confident that he's not just after that sort of a relationship. but as I say one day at a time. after our talk last week, it's not he can't get used to DS, or has issues with him per se, what he has an issue with is the label of 'step father'. but one day at a time.

sin - what are you thinking woman get and text him! :D

lou close call re your car - where are you in the country? we had mini tornados down here yesterday (about 2am). and yes don't forget to go to the doctors re the flooding.

Just checking in this morn to let you know date was fab didnt get to bed until 4 am he's really lovely and def 'fit' lots of chemistry this time. Am feeling a bit worse for wear now tho and almost overslept this morning lol

i am about 8 miles south of guildford

belle, this is so frustrating, what are you both playing at?

whats with all the stepfather bollox, because essentially that is what it is

ffs you barely know each other and its nothing more or nothing less than dating

i think you are both making it overly complicated

phonebone ROFL

Betty
am glad you had a great night out are you seeing him again?

Belle what is his issoo with the word stepdad???
if he wants to have a relationship with you then DS comes as part of the package and inevitably DS will become attached to GB
(speaking longterm of course)
ffs he's already planning his nearest escape route again

Sounds good Betty, when are you seeing him again.

Hi Nappy .

Belle, totally confused! Is he still going on about the step dad thing? So wrong when he has asked you back out.

Lou, I love that put down .

belle am confused. So you haven't had sex with him? At the end of the day if you are happy with just dating and you want to keep him and DS separate and don't want it to move onto being a proper relationship then carry on. If you do want more from it eventually and he has a problem with being a father figure to your DS then I really think you should cut your losses now before you get too attached.

i wanna see this guy belle is dating to find out what is so amazing about him

does he have a huge cock, or can breathe through his ears?

huge cock still isn't good enough reason to stay with someone.

belle - good question from nappy... are you happy to continue dating but keeping ds seperate indefinately?

you know i was joking juice

(he would have to be able to breathe through his ears too, and have a ribbed tongue )

oooooooooh ribbed tongue with little nobules on?

Go on belle post a pic

yeh you get the idea

i know you were joking lou

we've been messing about. if it was the size of his parts then - well lol. no it's deffo not. I'm happy right now to keep as we are with DS not being a part of things. I don't want him a part of things, my choice not his. if/when the time comes that we choose to move forward from that then yes fine fair enough. The problem is we both really really like each other.

juicy - you've seen his pic!

When you say you really really like him do you mean fancy him like mad and think he's sex on legs or are you emotionally attached as well?

seriously belle
we're not having a go at you we're concerned that's all
i am for one as i know that you've had to go back on the AD's
ok i don't know you in RL or offsite but we all look out for each other on here and if needs be we do tell it how it is
and yes..this is coming from someone who had an on/off thing with a bloke for the best part of 6months which absolutely fucked my head big time(ok my kids weren't an issue in this case)
incidentally i saw him for what was to have been the last time a fortnight before i met my now DP
and i admit that the door was still open for himin the first month of me seeing DP purely for me to get a handle on things
my friends felt that my coolness at the time made him feel confused about his feelings for me etc,but after 6 months of fannying around i decided(as part of my dealing with depression/anxiety)that if he ie T1WGA wasn't going to back up his words with actions and hell yes big big actions then he had lost me
and of course his loss was DP's gain
long post here but just wanted you to see that i do understand and am not just being hypercritical

I know blondie - and I can't say it enough the AD's are NOT because of him at all - they're for me and tbh i'd be on them even if he wasn't in the picture. I was looking at starting councilling as well pre him so it is deffo not him.

I know we all look out for each other on the thread, and it's good, also good to get others pov's as well, so far things seem to be ok - infact he's just rung now and asked if i'm ok with him as I have been a bit quiet - am fine just busy today working (apparently! lol) so if he was only after one thing I don't think any bloke would put in the effort to ring as much/text as much as he does iycwim.

as I say right now i'm happy how things are. we both like each other, I don't want him to be a step father for DS - I would like a future with him, but I will look/talk to him about all of that when the time comes - he has admitted he'd like a future with me as well.