Where have all the men gone? thread 14

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it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

Dont touch - there is no pressure on him at all. It is all very one sided at the moment. His choice too. He just gets a massage etc until he feels ready. I do feel really sorry for him. Wish I knew what was wrong. His ex must have done something really bad. Well that is my theory anyway.

well thing is... he knows your massaging or doing other things till he's "ready" iykwim..

if you tell him to use foreplay to satisfy you so that there isn't an issue if he never does pop up to partake in full sex then it shows there's not any pressure.

trouble is... even if you say there's no pressure... he will be putting it on himself as he wants to perform if he feels you need that to be satisfied as you have more experience.... i hope this is making sense..

even though you are saying there's no pressure.... you have to show it and physically refuse to go further for a set time to show him you wont be upset/annoyed/bothered.

having been in this situ myself... i also discovered best to say your not going to initiate sex for a while.

and the odd bit of reverse psychology works (obviously both aware what your up to and you have forewarned that your going to be seeming disinterested... but really your gagging for it)

Really? I don't want to be mean (well not all the time)
I can try that I guess. Fingers crossed it does not backfire, but it is getting frustrating. I know it all works properly.

another trick often worked depends if he likes watching.. tmi coming here .. apologies in advance.

you could do DIY , without using any toys... asking him first if he would like that... if it has the desired effect and he rises tell him you like him inside for you finish on... but only once he's excited... if you tell him before he will spend the whole time worrying what his knob is doing rather than enjoying the show iykwim.

but DO NOT use a toy, that will further intimidate him and make him feel more like a failure.

oops i think lb is cross with me lol

why is he cross lou?

because i ordered something i saw online to be sent to him, as i knew he would like it and it cost almost nothing

he doesnt want me to spend money on him, he even threatened to take my car keys and go refill my car with petrol once, to save me paying for it when i drive over

and no it is nothing rude lol

he might like it really

of course he will like it, i know for a fact, he just doesnt want me to be spending my money on him as he knows i dont have much, but it was under a fiver

he doesnt know that of course, he wold probably be less worried i was frittering money away if he did

Awww cant win can ya Lou! I'm sure he will like it when he recieves it, but he sounds like a gent

he will like it

i am not worried , hence when he sent me a text saying he hoped i hadnt spent money on him, because he would be cross, i sent one back asking if i would be punished, and when he said he meant it i joked back that i bet he was really sexy when he was angry

i will catch him later on the phone no doubt

ooh I'd like to be punished

i usually hope i will be

lol lou

I have been a very naughty girl so deserve it

scl have u been a naughty girl too?

Well my date is properly planned this time, just meeting in town for a few drinks. Hoping to have a good night with a nice bloke if nothing else

right, I will get and blinking do this it's reset it's set 3 times now!

sin - why/how have you been naughty - come on girl spill. re same name - good on you for not retaliating. onwards & upwards.

betty - hope you have fun on your date. oh and have you told zoosk yet?

lou - agree LB sounds like a real gent. can't believe your ex thou - well I can nobend. you really must get back to the dr's thou and have a chat with him.

Juicy - glad you had a fantastic w.e with irish. knew you guys wouldn't stop at just friends for the w.e lol.

LouW - I agree with what juicy has said re the sex thing. listen to our juicy.

hi to everyone else who i've missed off since I was last on.

re gymboy - things are plodding, 1 day at a time, have seen him 4 days on the trot thou which has been lovely I might add - loving the extra cuddles & kisses as well. all seems to be OK there, but we shall see.

who needs tracey cox when we've got juicy eh?

oh ffs my bastard internet is pissing about, i havent been able to use it since last night, and it is intermittent now

i suspect scl is like me and just looking for an excuse to get a bit of roleplay in

anyway he told me off slightly this morning but he doesnt mean it

not only has my internet gone booloo with this weather, my phone is messing about, my car is in the garage having its brakes looked at, so i have a bloody toy sized silly thing

AND the wind blew over a big piece of furniture i had covered up in my drive , just missing my car by about 3 inches, wood, glass, bricks everywhere

the good news is i have wangled it so i can get myself and the dc's in the vip area for the switching on of the town lights on friday (it's ds1's birthday), and we are being taken to supper afterwards

My internet was down at home last night. Will see if it's back this evening.

hi to all

back from running in a very windy Isle of Wight! was fab tho

nothing new to report, just marking my place

anyone going to the mumsnet do on Sat this weekend?

omg just got slipped a no. from someone at work - quite fit too!!

I'm very flattered but not sure whether I will respond.

SCL is he fit, interesting and available?

why are you not sure?

what mn do? not that i go to them lol

my internet is finally working properly again, and i got my car back

i am now going to drink a large glass of baileys

he is fit and interesting (he's a technician) - have chatted to him before a couple of times and he once kissed me on the cheek quite spontaneously.

I have absolutely no idea whether he's available but would hope so given he gave me his no.

I had to meet an external partner this afternoon and we went to his dept to check on a booking. Whilst we were standing around discussing said booking he said ' I think you forgot this' and handed me a post it note with his no. on.

Talk about bold, it was all I could do to not to start laughing. And I was not looking that glam wearing dark grey formal trousers and my ubitiquous black zip cardi because I was cold. Maybe it's my new bra which gives me a totally difft shape

Anyway I am def. curious shall we say will put said no in my mobile and think about what to do next. I suppose my only reservation is it follows hot on heels with close friendship with wh and am still reeling from him being told to go at such short notice. But suppose a coffee wouldn't hurt.

Just need a nickname for him now.

lou did you go to gp re flooding? And love Baileys usually treat myself to small bottle each Christmas and drink late at night with ice.