Where have all the men gone? thread 14

[ninah]

it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

Ok haven't text him yet as went to pictures last night to see the werewolf vampire thing with ds2 and then have taken ds2 to speech therapist this morning. Just in work now.

Have put his name and no in my phone tho!

A visual - average height/build, good looking black guy with shaved head. Very outgoing. Yes really very nice.

Not easy to check out his status - he works in all male environment and I wouldn't trust any of his colleagues. Would have to have coffee with him to find out.

Thought of texting him saying 'omg this guy at work gave me his no. yesterday and I wasn't sure whether to reply - what do you think?'

LOL

I'm hesitating only cos I feel quite overwhelmed atm with everything.

both nappy as is he.

lol. ah sin go for it girl - what have you got to loose!?

scl - i like your text... wity and charasmatic.. lol.. go for it!!

genius scl

Like aseriouslyblondemoment I am only speaking from experience of fannying around with someone on/off for years and have finally seen the light. If I can help prevent someone else from wasting the same amount of time that I did then I will.

If you are emotionally attached then can i ask why you only want to continue dating and not move it forward? For me dating is when it's casual and I don't really feel anything for the other person. Once feelings start coming in to play it's time to re-evaluate the situation IMO else someone will only end up getting hurt.

I think because i've not had the whole dating thing really before XH & I were living together pretty much from the off. I'm happy to go at a pace which suits both of us each day at a time. I don't want to be thinking waht i'm going to be doing with him in 5 years time or whatever (or even 6 months time) experience has taught me with XH that there's no point as it could all change - ie we'd planned out the next 20 years and look where that ended up - all I know is in 5 years time I want to own my own home with a morgage & be secure for DS teaching, if it's with this man then i'll be over the moon if it's not then never mind as long as it's what I ahve achieved. for me it's more about DS&I not DS,I & him - again exp with XH taught em that it's all to easy too give it all up and then loose literally everything when things go wrong - won't be doing that again.

The thing I don't get is why he sees your DS as an issue when he said he'd like to have children in the future.

You've been busy this afternoon. Belle I've been working too. lol

SCL I like that, great approach, will use it myself when the situation arises.

have drafted txt just need to send it. It will test whether he has good soh and is sharp! Which I'm sure he is due to the way he handed me no.

well as I say each day at a time, and we;ll see how it all works out - my life is never simple/straightforward.

sin just get it sent!! we're standing by for a response here. lol.

sent it - he rung straight back but I was on the other line so couldn't answer .

he texted and said I had done the right thing and hoped it would be the first of many - then I rang him (went to vm) and left a message for him.

So now up to him. I don't know anything about him so will be taking it real slow.

Doesn't that confuse you as well though belle? Haven't you asked why him being a father figure to your own child in the future is an issue when he wants father one of his own one day?

woohoo scl

darkhorse has just taken my exh home for me, they were both here because ds1 is 11 tomorrow

i had words with exh, i do not like him in my house

anyway because darkh is on my car insurance he took him home with dd1 to show him the way back, so i can destress and get myself in a better frame of mind

he's going to stay over then go home tomorrow, he wanted to come tomorrow instead but we are going to watch the town xmas lights go on, and because i know the person doing it, myself and the kids are going to be in the bit off limits to the general public to watch it, then going to have dinner with them afterwards, so it wasnt possible

Hi everyone

scl - sounds great, go for it girl!!

belle - I am in some ways for you but I can only trust that you know what you want.

lou - sounds v complicated - as ever with you! - hope exh starts to behave

Betty - sounds like things are good with you!

I'm still very in love.
My ex, once he heard about my NM, has cut down his contact with dd again. I am so sad about that for her sake and don't know what to do for the best.
Work is crazy this week and dd is in nursery more than I'd like but I will get time owing
Introducing both the children this weekend [nervous smile] - soft play and lunch. Easy, right???

mousie, that's lovely about your NM I mean!

That post doesn't quite make sense. Hopefully you'll get the gist of it

Thanks Janos - it does make sense

scl you foxxxy lady you...grrr!!
think this is fab btw. just what you need right now, and nice to see a cheeky smile on you,been lacking of late! soo go girl
lou am lol big time...bless dk horse(as i know he's a good un and treats you all nicely)
mousie lovely to find you're back with us and i'm so pleased that everything is going along so well

scl you foxxxy lady you...grrr!!
think this is fab btw. just what you need right now, and nice to see a cheeky smile on you,been lacking of late! soo go girl
lou am lol big time...bless dk horse(as i know he's a good un and treats you all nicely)
mousie lovely to find you're back with us and i'm so pleased that everything is going along so well

what happened there lol
must be having a MN name moment

tee hee think I may have dampened his ardour last night as we were trying to talk but kept getting vm and in the end I txt him and said I couldn't now talk as I had to deal with kids. He may not even know I have kids.

Anyway maybe a coffee next week to find out a bit more about him.

Either way am very flattered.

lol
i think it's just the thing you need right now scl
i'd be v surprised if he didn't expect that you had dc tbh
how old is he btw?

happy birthday to lou's ds1
hope you all have a fab day!
shame it's on a school day tho

oh i dont mind, it means i have been able to sleep off the hangover