Where have all the men gone? thread 14

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it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

dont reply to ANYTHING, no matter how mad etc you feel

just ignore ignore ignore

i am an old hand at this kind of bollox, believe me nothing works but silence

fairylights, the head shift will come

belle this really isn't v.nice now please carry on as you are doing and ignore
BUT to be on the safe side i would keep all those texts just in case he up's the anti and becomes a total loon as you can use them as evidence
sorry i don't wish to scare you and i hope i'm not being melodramatic here but it's best to play it safe
hi to fairylights btw.and yes agree with the others re:exp and your private life

He sent them all while I was asleep. about half 11-midnight, my phone was switched off. I did reply thou this am which I shouldn't have done. but felt that I had a right to defend myself against waht he was saying.

He needs to grow up big time.

belle, wake up

you dont have to justify yourself to him or anyone else

if you keep replying to him it will start to suggest that you like his attention

sorry if that sounds harsh, but i hope you can see what i mean

oh belle dont reply to him at all! block his number on ur phone and block his email then he has no way of contacting u, he's the one playing mind games and u are leaving urself open to it by allowing him to contact you.

Well I dont think my date is gonna happen tommorow now, not heard from him to make arrangements. Sent a message on msn and he replied then logged off? He did say midweek he had some bad news about a friend so I half expected him to cancel but still would be nice to be told!

i dont have a facility to block a single number on my phone, not all of them do

you are just going to have to use self restraint

any contact with him is ENCOURAGING him

would def keep a record of the stuff he's been sending you tho just in case as if he's being nasty then he can be dealt with
hopefully he'll just give up that's what nobends like him usually do
we've all come across a few of them on this thread

Oh really lou? I thought all phones could?

he seemed a good en'

typical. phone can't be blocked no not one number.
I do see what you mean Lou - guess he jsut knows the buttons to press.

betty - you don't know, it might still be on.

but you know he presses them too, so it is up to you to not react
if you feel the urge to, text a friend instead, or go do something else for a few minutes

Hi, Date was ok last night. Went for a couple of drinks then back to his. Listened to musics and talked a lot. He's easy to get on with, lots of history being local. He's coming here in a mo to take me for a drive. Not sure its going to get any further though! 50/50 about whether I fancy him! What do you think? Should I go along with it and hope it clicks or is it a damp squid if not there from the off?

hmm eve a tricky one!
maybe it's a good sign if you're not overcome with lust from the off..but unless that chem or as lou calls it 'that funny in your pants feeling' isn't there i'm imagining that it won't work out as i had a friend who tried to date a bloke she didnt really fancy
but maybe you're wearing your sensible hat atm iyswim?
belle he isn't a good un as good uns don't treat women like this end of
and you deserve to be treated well anything less is simply not on
you will get thru this i promise tho granted it may take time
chalk it up to experience and tell yourself that you won't put up with turds like him again EVER!!
fab site to check out which i've mentioned on here before
baggagereclaim.com
there's plenty of stuff about scummy twats like him on there and i think it might help you gain some perspective

oh i do so like that funny in your pants feeling when it comes along

eve, how many legs did you shave?

you mean you're meant to shave your legs b4 a date? lol.

funny feeling in your pants - what's that all about then?

blondie - love that site & the label assclown. am so using that for him - from here on in he's no longer gymboy he's assclown!

have had a message over lunch as well apologising saying he'll email me and sorry for over reacting, he see's how rare it is to click with someone blah blah blah. have ignored.

now at home with DS - apparently he had an ear infection the CM said - turns out to be earache good job the dr didn't mind the emergency apt.

We've just been for a drive and lunch out then came back on the car ferry. It was a nice couple of hours. Will see if he asks me out again and will go.

well eve sounds like u wouldnt mind seeing him again then but u never know that 'funny feeling in ur pants' could develop i suppose

think i might have been a bit hasty bout date tommorow, spoke on msn he's in bed not well, thought that he was gonna use that as excuse but didnt. we've exchanged numbers and he's gonna text me in morning so i know whether to cancel babysitter or not

glad you had fun eve

and i hope the date goes ahead Betty

betty - good luck on tomorrows date.

eve - hmmm.... feeling funny in your pants.. you might not think phwoar... but you should know but now the answer to whether or not you would "go there".

i think everyone decides by end of first date if they would/wouldn't. phwoar isn't always necessary. feelings can develop. but you definately have to have feeling you wouldn't decline and would enjoy a bit of fun if the moment arose .

belle - assclown is an appropriate name.do yourself a favour and block him from your email.

morning ladies!
eve that sounds promising,i know that you're not feeling blown away as such but you're obv.enjoying the company or are you perhaps being a little guarded?!
hmm me thinks you're wearing your sensible hat here and i imagine are more than a little sceptical expecting the worst lol
oh dear what are we all like but i guess it's a bit of self preservation which is fair enough aft.some of the arses you've been out with since the thread began!
i often think i was terribly mean to bf at the beginning but tbh i'd reached the point where i just couldn't waste another minute on another bullshitter
belle-glad you enjoyed that site,it does make alot of sense,and if you're anything like me then i imagine that you prob cringed at some of it
betty enjoy!we will await a full update!

The Jury's still out with this one. We haven't arranged anything for next time yet and I'm going to be really busy from now on so will keep it as a friendship. I don't want to start something off it it doesn't feel right. He's had a shock recently over an ex.

hmmm..is he still into the ex?

Hi just checking in. Not much happening here.

WH asked to leave immediately yesterday (his official end date was Jan) but we will prob still meet up as he will come into town regularly.

I Always shave legs before date or if on a promise. Wouldn't let stubby legs put me off a unexepected liasio though.

Eve - sorry where did you meet the date guy (does he have nickname)and do you live in Scotland - or somewhere equally picturesque.

Betty hope your date works out.

I also emailed garden guy suggesting that I go down in the not too distant future and look round his garden (no a euphemism for anything else). (He works in a very famous garden in London). Otherwise he will just continue to send me flowery emails for ever.

Oh and one of the mums at school gate yesterday said that she saw exh and newp recently in the street near where they live and that they both looked very miserable. Then she said - 'she's very plain isn't she?' Actually I don't really wish their relationship ill because I would hate to see another set of dcs with parents split but it did give me a slight tee hee because new p does seem to be a bit smug.

No don't think he's still into his ex but something happened recently which was a bit of a shock. His nickname is DTR. He's someone that I've known by sight since being in my teens. He told me I spoke to him last winter when I was on a night out (think it must have been the night I met 'Captain') He couldn't believe I knew his name. I've chatted to him last couple of times I've bumped into him and he asked me out on fb.

We live in the English Lake District.