Where have all the men gone? thread 14

[ninah]

it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

i have to drop mine and collect them, sigh

i'm going to have a bath without being disturbed with shouts of "muuuuuuUUUUuummmmm!"

Was just moaning about having to start the peeling for the casserole when my Dsis suggested we had something quick and save the cooking for tomorrow. Brilliant! why didn't I think of that.

So it's cook/chilled ready meals I have in the fridge. Can relax before my 'date' now.

have fun eve, dont forget the one legged trick

eve enjoy your date.

asbm - have you enjoyed your peaceful wkd.

lou - have a good bath.

belle - well done on deleting him.. one day at a time

as for dishwasher. hmmmm.... jury's still out on that. will probably go on a proper date with him. bless him he was my knight in shining armour when required .. problem is he doesn't drive. cant be doing with me having to do all the running about. but luckily he only stays 5 mins away and there's direct train link only 1 stop.

ohh that will be my image for the night now of eve and her 1 legged trick
juicy it's been nice tho v.unproductive
will await the full story of dishwasher

well from experience i know that having stubbly legs has not always put me off, or them

but maybe i just have crap willpower

WTF???
am awaiting the lovely monty to post
friggin x factor grr..

what do you mean wtf?

the x factor result!
he was one cool dudey rocker that guy and sadly he had a crap song choice this week but hell when he has his song does he know how to play to the audience
check out his audition stuff lou-stunning!and a really pleasant bloke as well
anyhow reality check time, tis only tv
am expecting black armbands in the monty household

oh yes

actually i did see it tonight, and have to admit to being baffled at the result

well not baffled, clearly a gazillion teenage girls voted thinking with their damp knickers rather than the fact that lloyd and the twins would be better off working as redcoats

i reckon jamie will be ok tho, and cowell will sign him up

Hello, can I join in too?
I'm just braving internet dating for the first time- I've joined Ok Cupid, but I'm wondering about joining elsewhere too. Are you all on PoF?
I have a Ds(12) and a Dd who's 2 and really not very independent yet. I keep having panics because as much as I'd like to get back out there (no sex for a year!) I'm not sure how to balance the dating and Dd...

hello

i think most of the posters on here have used plentyoffish or frd

i currently am not using any sites, but i found pof to be pretty ok for a freebie

do you have anyone who could watch the dc's if you had a date?

i tend to prefer lunch dates for an initial meeting, they are easier to impose a cut off time for, and more casual (less pressure)

Part of the problem is- you won't be surprised by this- DXP! He comes here most weekends to see the kids.

He's happy to babysit when i go out with the girls, but I don't want to tell him where I'm going if I'm meeting someone else...

Argh, as I'm writing it I can see you all going but we were friends before we got together and although we've been split for 18months we've been hanging out most weekends.

I knew this would need to change, but "when I start dating" seemed so far in the future. Suddenly we're there and I'm worrying about how I keep some sort of resemblance of friendship with X and still manage to have a life...

I think I need to grow a pair and sort out some sort of more structured access. The added complication is that Ds isn't his, so although they get on, I don't know if he'd take both kids or if I'd have to make other arrangements for Ds.
Grr

i am not entirely sure why you think you need to tell your ex what you are doing or who you are doing it with when he watches the dc's

you are no longer a couple, he is able to keep the kids safe without knowing your personal life

you are just going out

end of

I think i'm still working on the head shift. I'm so used to telling him where I'm going / who I'm seeing, because we have a lot of mutual friends. I just need to get used to not telling him

Will maybe have a chance to practice soon, as I've been messaging someone on OKC and it's going quite well... fingers X'd

Evening all, hmph, internet crashed on me about 5 times in the last few hours.

Hi Fairy, welcome, ex sounds nice though so I suppose telling him what you're doing is kind of a reciprocal friend thing, but don't feel you owe him if you are not a couple.

Eve, spill the beans, lol at not shaving legs.

Belle, good for you. Stop even giving him head space now and get on to the next one.

Mousie,

RJ - you norty gal

SCL - how was your weekend?

And hoping everyone else is well. Am writing this really late and very fast as laptop might crash again.

NN

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I woke up to find 5 texts from him, starting out nice & getting gradually nastier & bitchier. resulting in him saying he'll email me in the next day or so absolutely all his thoughts on the situation.

apparently there was one thing he was genuinely uncomfortable with otherwise who knows - and I PLAY MIND GAMES!!!! god i'm livid about that one. ffs.

where the fuck does he get off saying I play mind games - seriously - cos of my FB update y'day. (it's a fucking chorus of a song ffs!) TWAT! seriously wft. livid. twat. and he thinks i've deleted him from fb - nothing to do with the fact i've deleted the whole fucking account! twat. fucking nob end.

AARRRRGHHHH! god he gets me so angry.

belle- why havn't you deleted him from your facebok

and hey.. monty.... i wasn't norty.

I have juicy - well deleted the whole lot. gonna have some time out from it (was getting too addicted at the suffering of the hosue/studies )

am livid so pissed off, he texted me number's gone but it's obv who it's from.

sorry... hi fairy.

agree there's no need to explain to ex. just say your going out. you dont need to tell him details. he probably doesn't want to know them.

well done juicy! hang on. 1 day at time remember

god i'm still pissed off - so much so avhe just texted XH and asked him if I play mind games - (stupid I know) but he says no. and he should fucking know after 8.5 years together and being married!

no belle, you dont. GB does and turning it on you... another classic mind games. he's a toss pot. i hope you aren't replying to his texts..... i also think you have an incredibly lucky escape.... GB is starting to loose it a bit here..

he's sent you 5 texts....even though you haven't responded?.... he's heading into stalker/harassment world.

i would put a bet on the messages turning nasty by end of the week.