Where have all the men gone? thread 14

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it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

i still think you made the right decision belle, but i am sorry you feel shit

i bet he does think i got it all wrong, who reckons i should say sorry?

noone?

thought so

good god lou we never admit we're wrong don't ya know that?

I know this is right - I put the words into his mouth y'day- he wants me but not my child. (bellend) he said I was making him feel callous & bad. muppet over here still wants him thou. he said what he wants isn't what he can have.

i just cant understand why you want a man who has no wish to accept your child as well

i just dont get it at all

am a muppet! lol.

not a laughing matter really quite pathetic. can't explain it.

(sorry he wants what he can't have I meant)

ur not a muppet belle, just human, you've obviously built up feelings for him despite the way he's been acting and a lot of that is because of his ever changing mind probably making u feel there was always a little bit of hope. End of the day tho u have a child and if he cant accept that then it's his loss

yeah I know I get that. yet still he's saying maybe... doesn't expect me to stick around, but says he's cann't tell me not to move on (am going to anyhow) yet then says it's cos he has to think with his head now b4 it gets too far & he can't. it's so shit.

he has you right where he wants you

belle am sorry to hear this and despite having lectured said this before am with lou(and all the others)
if it's getting so bad to the point of recognising the need for ADs after having them before then i think you seriously need to have a proper think,and yes i know(having been there)that we all make excuses for shitty behaviour-we're all guilty!!
{holding up hand emoticon}
won't post my email on here now for obv.reasons but ask any of the other girls and they will let you know
hth x

am concerned about you

Yes I am the queen of accepting excuses and not listening to my own advice but even here I am clear. He has stated his case yet continues to mess with you. Not good.

Exbf said he couldn't do step-parenting again so that was pretty clear re anything long term.

Samename is pissing me off again. He asked to meet so I suggested a day. He is now not responding but online. Sent him mail saying I am losing my patience but either way we need to have frank talk.

However going for loooong boozy lunch with WH tomorrow. Will be so lovely to just sit and have long convo and nice bottle or two of vino with him. Looks like he's def going in Jan as his appeal was not successful.

he can mess all he likes - i'm no longer listening. it does matter anymore. all that does is DS and my mental well being - to that end Dr's today. Phone is at my folks house again. off out tonight thou with the girls should hopefully cheer me up!

(he's not the only trigger for the AD's btw - haven't been coping for quite a while again)

belle-hope it goes well at the doc's today, and good for you for going out with the girls tonight. Just a thought but can u not just delete/block his number from ur phone and block him on facebook & email, sounds a bit harsh but will prob do you good if u know he can't contact you and that you wont have any messages/emails to look at when/if you decide to look in a week or so?

scl-whats samename playing at then?!

belle, why havent you deleted him from all places he can get hold of you?

why should you feel the need to have to leave your phone at someone elses house just because of him?!

anyway good morning everyone how are you all?

i went to bed at 10.30 last night, got a whole 9 hours, it was lovely

lb otoh has had about 3 hrs sleep after a late night with his mates lol

i am going to the official opening of ds2's school outdoor quiet zone, which has been made disabled/wheelchair accessible thanks to a cerebral palsy charity, and they have invited me as a guest

i think they want ds2 to have his pic taken for the paper with the deputy mayor

i will skulk about in the background and hope i dont get roped into having my pic taken too

parents evening for ds1 at 5pm as well, plus a trip to guildford and chores to fit in

best get a move on i suppose!

Sounds like you have a full day ahead Lou.

I went out with a friend and the girls for a meal last night and am now at my desk feeling the worse for wear. Why did I drink whiskey on a school night . Why did I drink whiskey at all, never normally do.

Belle, sorry you are feeling so down. Really think you should block now. No-one should make you feel that way.

belle best of luck today
i've used ad's and found they helped enormously with my clarity of thought,v.useful for dealing with exh and a previous ex of mine
ouch eve
lou that sounds lovely bet all the kids are thrilled

ew @ whiskey

the kids at school have been using it for a while but today is the official opening

the head showed me round it a few weeks ago and asked if i would come to the opening

its a small garden in a quiet part of the school that kids can go if they want to sit and relax and think etc

they have put some special flooring down that enables wheelchairs to be used on it even tho it is covered by gravel

its a nice little spot

You guys are all so far ahead of me, it's a bit intimidating

I've been exchanging emails with a guy on POF. Early days still but I have a feeling he is just after some "fun". Not sure how I feel about that! I suppose I'll see how it goes...

I haven't messaged anyone myself, simply because every time I see one that I like the look of, when I look at their profile there's something wrong with it. Am I being too picky?

i dont think you are, why bother with them if you arent feeling it?

i have been to the unveiling of the garden, ds2 was a guest of honour, i was bloody well shoved to the front of the line, right in the middle of the pic for the local press photographer (i had been lurking at the back)

i took dd2 to town afterwards and bought her a winter dress, me a winter dress (she made me), and dd1 a pair of boots

of course my dress was only to make up for the fact i couldnt drink the wine that was being offered at school after the garden thingy had been done

considering lb has only had a couple of hours sleep, he is in a v saucy mood judging by his messages today

not that i am complaining of course, aside from the fact i cant take advantage of it

just parents evening to do at 5pm and collect dd1 from college at 5.30, then i may slug on some mead

I'm well and truly off the alcohol tonight, struggled today, nearly home time now, thank god!

Got fb message last night from friend that kept me up till 3 on Sunday morning. Answered when I was a bit enebriated (sp), told him I'd been on a romantic walk on Monday and would have liked a man to cuddle up to and enjoy the view with , funnily enough he hasn't replied.

FWB caught me on fb chat yesterday evening, he was in France, looking at the snowy slopes, think he might have been pining for someone to share that with. I was getting to really like him when he made it obvious I was just a fling.

sounds like you have all been busy

I'm home early from work with a poorly child here's hoping it's just a quick bug. She's already in bed poor thing.

Not heard much from bloke i went on date with last week but i havent really been that bothered, have another date arranged for next week with someone else (I'm on a roll now lol) but other than that not much happening for me.

glowing report from ds1's teacher at parents evening

working above his expected ability, i think he said

he gets it from me you know

Hello all. Lunch with wh lasted from 12.30 till 6. How time flies

Still feeling a bit tipsy. But was great to relax like that.

Not much else to report. Lou ds2 also got glowing report - just under g & t.

i want your day scl

i have to say i am a bit of a proud mama

ds2 got a good one the other day too (i have a separate special meeting in the day for him as it involves senco as well)

yes we must doing something rightfor dcs to be doing so well.

Lunch was lovely we went to nearby restaurant and then pub.

Went out for tea again, that's 2 days in a row. I'm so glad to be home now. Had a bubble bath and getting an early night. Expect I will feel better tomorrow morning than I did when I woke up today.

Saw a young maaan that I'd had a one night thing with a while ago in the restaurant. With his gf a young, leggy blonde. I'd gone straight from work looking decidedly worse for wear. Still he said hello.

Glad the parents evenings have gone well. DD did English GCSE today. SCL I wouldn't bother about DC just missing the G&T register, in most school, not all, they don't do much with the ones on the list. DD went to a couple of extra things a few years ago but they seem to have forgotten about it now.

Good luck for your date Betty.