Where have all the men gone? thread 14

[ninah]

it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

god no my house looks toxic after weeks of sick kids and half term!

it wont look pristine but it's not going to look like a health hazard, at least

i have no idea anymore what i want from anyone.

it makes my head implode sometimes

what the men or the state of the house?

I ve been at home today and the house got calmer and tidier. ds1 brought 3 mates home and then collected ds2 = chaos.

Then ds1 has tantrum about the state of the house. Told him if he wants a tidier house to contribute something in terms of housework.

Scarily the above is like a repeat of my arguments with exh. That does worry me can see similar traits in ds1.

both

2 of mine are more like their father, and 2 are more like me

the 2 like their dad are the ones who are usually at the centre of a row , and seem to have an inability to stop when i say thats enough

and i just realised that tomorrow night will be the first time i have ever stayed in my house without any children, ever

have told gymboy for the v v final time enough now, put down the phone on him didn't wait for him to say goodbye, he's not texted after like he did b4.

said he would respect my choice this time. even if it was hard for him.

I got v v angry, he kept saying it's shit.

phone is at mums switched off and will remain there until prob sometime next week.

Well done, belle.

I didn't really know what I wanted. I guess I wanted long term with someone worth spending long term with but otherwise a bit of fun and flattery was fine. I got lucky, I guess, after several short lived "relationships". I would still prefer being single over being with some idiot. Any warning signals or disrespect then I would still rather be alone. Somehow I have found a gentleman that, despite every reservation, I can't find anything lacking in any way. I am smitten but I would still walk against all the good stuff if I had to.

I can't find the aparklers I bought 2 weeks ago for my dd. Fortunately she said "mummy a silly sausage" rather than being distraught about this. We have watched lots of other peoples fireworks.

ok, shall I bother to try datingdirect again or just fuck it all off totally?

What do you want to do?

I seem to want a break, but not as long a break as I feel I "should" have. It's just what's best for you - you were fairly in love with him though, so if you need time, that's fine too. Take it slow, and know we are here for you regardless .

thanks mousie. yeah guess I was in someways which is totally stupid really.

right so how does one right a good ad thingy in the what you're looking for bit?

keep it short (men have crap attention spans)

have something in it they can ask about.

pick a witty name they can comment on also

dont state if your after casual/fun/serious.

just kinda describe yourself.

i would say you were along the lines of spontaneous and laid back

laid back me seriously - right ok have spotted one I like the look of (so feels like shopping for clothes) but hey how he's forces and I do have a MAJOR soft sport for forces guys lol.

so what do u say then?

can I link my profile and give me your honest thoughts?

might as well share gymboy's long on now huh?!?

ok my profile is pompeylass13.

is this match or POF?

ask him a question on his profile.. that way he will be inclined to reply.. hey presto.. a conversation has begun.

pof, hang on will come on the msn. never seem to get anywhere on there- but there's 3 wayhay! who look potentially nice.

well done belle for getting back on the dating sites! So i take it u live portsmouth way with ur username? I was born in southampton, but live up north now

yeah. am a southern gal - scumampton!

hmmm lets not get into that belle!

i am off to bed, busy day tomorrow

Hi all, and I'm up late as I had a snooze earlier. Hope everyone is well.

Belle I went to college in your neck of the woods many moons ago.

Boy did I have my heart broken there, aged 22 and moved to the smoke because of it. The hardest fall of my life.

[nostalgic emoticon]

betty - ahy lets keep it sociable. lol.

monty - sorry to hear that, pompey men are typically fuck ups - aside from my brother cousins and uncles! lol.

well have had a few emails from a nice diver chappy which have made me smile.

gymboy also emailed me thru FB last night. says it's shit, and he doesn't know what he's doing right now, he's so sad. hoping going home will help him. say it's shit.

well yes love it is shit, but I can't keep doing this, he obviously didn't want to respect my choice to be left alone. (even thou the email starts... I know I should be leaving u alone...) says he wouldn't ask/expect me to wait cos he wouldn't do that to anyone - well that's aright then init! my phone is still at mums house & will remain there until sunday I think when we go up for lunch.

Belle, guess you will have a few texts to look forward to.

Don't understand him, he's not giving up without a fight, so why not give you what you need? Just a thought to keep you strong. Correct me if I'm wrong as I've only got what you have said on here to go by but did he ever actually do anything with you and your family. Did you go out for the day etc or did he just call round of a night. I reckon a guy who is worth it will do normal things, shopping etc and days out with you.

I'm at work but feeling a bit rough today, too much wine last night. Urgh!!! I normally only drink at weekends now I know why.

i am still in my pj's and dashing about in a flap, as lb will be here between 5.30 and 6

i still have loads to do, including dropping kids to their father and food shopping