Where have all the men gone? thread 14

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it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

afternoon all. Lou hope you get it all done.

I had text from samename today asking how I was,apologising for not being in touch, saying it had been manic and would I like to meet him for a drink. Haven' replied yet.

Also the giant (who I went on a date with earlier this year) and stayed friends with was talking to me on fb the other night. He now has gf which is great (as he seemed be very keen for serious relationship) - he's working in the area I live in and was keen to meet up. Told him I was too busy.

Belle how old is gymboy and what's his previous rship history.

I've had a week off drink Eve - can't say I feel any better.

SCL, sounds like they are crawling out the woodwork.

Lou you better get on.

I had 3 nights off the booze, do everyweek, usually have a couple on a Thursday followed by glass of water but had a mate round last night with a drinking head on.

Eve - Yup he comes round of a night with DS, but yes we have done the whole shopping/going out/pubs etc etc chilling thing - nothing involving DS thou.

his email word for word. (not worth bothering about really is it I don't think?)

"im back home and look i know im meant to be leaving you alone but this is really tearing me apart. ive not had a good day and i feel so shit and sad at the moment This is very very hard for me...it's not about me though. It's not as if I dont care or dont like you. This is very very difficult. I drove pasrt your way and tried ringing yoou...I don't know what im doing other than that I would really miss your company and its shit because I have got on with you so well. I hope a weekend in Wales will help me but as I said earlier im not expecting you to wait round for me i could never do that to anyone. x"

Sin - he's 31. (just) lived at homoe until 6 years ago - was with someone there for 4 years but obv was living at home and not with her. has seen someone for about a year since he's been here & lived with her but says he didn't want to jsut didn't want to kick her out

if he can't get his head around it why is he still bothering - this is what I can't understand. Keeps saying he can't walk away - well no you can't but I can and you're not making it v easy!

Sin - what have you said to same name if anything?

oh and the wine - was tempted y'day but thought better of it. lol.

eve - how's the plans going for your trip?

Lou - have fun later with LB - i'm sure you will

Belle - do you think there's a glimmer of hope that you get what you want. Stick by your guns.

Eve - sympathy on the hangover. Ouch.

Lou - hope you get it done and have a lovely weekend with lb.

Hi Noteven, SCL, RJ, Lou, Mousie, Betty and everyone else

Hmmmmmmm wonder why ASMB's so quiet .

Oh they do all crawl out of the woodwork eventually don't they?

Haven't decided whether to reply to samename yet don't really know what to say to him.

Belle - just read that email - he's really going for the pity party isn't he? Sounding very tortured.'

I would give him an ultimatum if you're prepared to follow it through. He's not giving any clarity atm is he?

Either he wants you or he doesn't.

However I'm quite crap at taking my own advice LOL

I have only ever issued an ultimatum to exh - and that's because my biological clock was ticking!! (Told him we could not continue unless he agreed to have dcs - heavy eh?) It did get thrown back at me a few times as well!!

Agree with the non clarity of that email Belle. It's about as clear as mud. Seems crystal that he's a total ditherer and expecting sympathy for messing you about. Bloody men. Makes me almost glad I'm single.

Trip is all planned and dandy.

Was just thinking last night about my lack of love life. I havent had sex been close to anyone since July. Why does it seem so easy for other people to have a relationship and impossible for me.

I don't think it is really Eve.

But I do sometimes think that generally about my situation. I think alot of people struggle.

Anyway you have lovely holiday to look forward to. When is it?

I would love a holiday I really missed having one this year.

WH just came over to see me. That's get tongues wagging round the office.

ooh sin you norty thing you lol.

eve - tbh I shouted at him y'day - what the hell do you want from me - sympathy, to be upset, to actually give a shit how you're feeling - all was met with no I don't that would make things worse. is a ditherer yes.

sin - tortured would you read that? sometimes yes I think that - sent one back saying I think he has issues with intimacy prob a bit unfair but he does have some there thou. also said I want space to sort out my head (re XH & that goings on that I found out on weds, & weather or not i'm prepared to let XH have unsupervised contact with DS still) phone is still off still at mums. will go mad thou when it goes back on due to the FB updates lol. Might think about talking to him again on tues/weds, or maybe never. as u say it's not a hard choice to make really is it? oh and I do the threat thing but never carry it thru so not really much point in doing it! lol.

eve - glad your holiday is all sorted now & booked. also it's not always easy on the 'inside' as it were. sometimes I prefer to be single - far less hassle.

ho hum... off to the gym tonight for combat, and sorting SIL's hen do tomorrow, what are you guys all up to over the w.e?

yes he sounds like a tortured soul. Drama queen lol

i've given up doing any more, it will do

he left earlier than i expected, but i think bad traffic is holding him up, luckily, so i have time for a shower now

Top secret but will tell you all. I namechanged to start a thread this week and it's made the talk roundup!

have fun lou.

oooh eve- share share!!!

just been on FB chat with gymboy/he's emailed me twice. says (and I quote... 'your far too good for me to be causing extra crap on top of everything else that much ive realised over the past few weeks...you are a very genuine and decent person and this is why this is so shit! ') coupled with giving me a blow by blow account of his actions this weekend.

also says he's gonna talk to his mum properly about things?? also got the arse a bit and snapped at me it was head v heart for him which is why his head is so fucked up?!?

I in essence told him to grow up and it wasn't fair to try & get me to make him feel better about his own decision.

You will have to guess, have a look at talk round up.

God that gymboy would be doing my head in by now.

he's bloody doing my head in tbh.

off for a guess...

how does one find the talk round up?

Go on the homepage, scroll down a bit and click on the box, it's on the right. Let me know if you guess.

LMFAO!!! braless! I do beleive it was Lou who had a similar experience of being braless on the last thread?

May I sidle back on thread to lick my wounds?

Sorta sorta got back with my ex.

But.

Drinking again.

And then...tonight I was gonna have it out about the drinking and say stop or that's it, because he was full of ooh I want this to work etc. Then he comes out witha right SDOOZY. You'll have heard it before... oh I can't have a relationship right now.But then, get this...I still want to see you again.

I threw more than a few choice words in his direction.

I don't expect any sympathy here, it's entirely, ENTIRELY my own fault. Just need to VENT.

Hope all who have dates these eve are having a smashing old time.

By my ex I mean exbf not DS' Dad.

Anyway, in case I didn't mention he is a WASTE of SPACE.

oh dear janos - only sympathy on this front - what is it with men out there at the minute- all fuck ups!

Belle, yes twas me. I went to adjust the strap and it wasn't there. Nipped out to Asda and got a nice one and some knickers.

Janos, maybe you have realised why he is an ex. Hope you are OK.

I think my norks would be well & truely below the belt if I went out without a bra- oh the shame!

Had a lovely reply typed out and then hit some rogue button...you kno whow it is. Grr!!

Anyway thank you eve and southsbelle. You kknow I am starting to feel better already.