Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part 12a

[lou33]

seeing as there has been discussion about using 13

(not that it bothers me)

i feel sorry for myself my back is still playing up, and i just tripped and made it hurt in the usual lower back place

He was on holiday at the same resort when I met him, as he is from the city IYSWIM. He did ask when we can see each other again and when am I coming back.

Gawd I am clutching at straws now. He was very nice.

what the others say, keep a healthy dose of scepticism until proven otherwise

eve, you fox

Do you really think?
Its just that he was posting pics on twitter, in real time, then uploaded them onto his website along with a write up of the weekend.... So i sort of think that checks out, unless im being naieve?

He def isnt married, he is very googable, as mentioned, he owns quite a few websites and writes for a few magazines and newspapers, films, news etc.... All his profiles say he is single....

Annoyed well that sound like he is single then but I was referring to the break in contact, just let him chase now.

well we havent spoken to him, you have, but based on collective experience i would just have a bit of caution for now

if he prepared to wait thats great, let him prove himself to you

ugh i have to go food shopping and really dont feel like being about people i dont know today

but i am old mother hubbard

sorry - thats not going aganist all your advice or anything....

I dont want to end up making an idiot of myself or getting hurt/played. So i do value what you say. But then i sort of think there is the proof otherwise and i should just trust him and not distrust him to start off with....

if that makes sense.

I'm finishing work in 15 mins for the day, hurray, I have done some today honest, but this job is boring and easy and means I can flick in and out of the internet.

Meeting DD in town and she is finally getting the dreaded brace fitted, top today, bottom next week. We are going to Asda as our local supermarket is classed as the Waitrose of the north and I'm sick of paying their prices. Can only just afford to feed us from there atm.

Chin up Lou.

Thanks - its really difficult isnt it.
Im going to try and keep a bit of caution then....
I do really believe he is single, he does talk online at all times, morning, day time, evening, all night.. over the weekend etc...
The times when he hasnt been able to, he has told me he is working and i have been able to see that from his sites ( not like i check them all the time or anything!! LOL)

He said he was happy to wait, ive only one childfree weekend until i have surgery, and hes not that local so couldnt come for just one evening for a first date.

Thing is, ive been trusting and hurt before. So i do tend not to belive what people say. BUT everything he has told me can be proven, so i sort of feel like i should just let go and trust him you know?

hi all just popping in - lordy this is fast moving - not much to report
samename still low and depressed - he doesnt like to burden me with it - not sure what I think about that really - it used to frustrate me about my exh that he wouldn't do anything about it. Wondering if samename is the same. Seeing him in about a weeks time.

Also asking myself if I am being totally honest with myself IYKWIM generally about love life. Too complex to expand much here but am sure you can get the vibe.

arent we a confused bunch today?

i am ok eve thank you though, been keeping busy, maybe later it will get to me

i just realised i have an appointment with the OT at ds2's school in 5 mins , so best head off for that in a sec (it's only 2 mins in the car)

its this evening that will be when i wobble i think, i bought wine just in case

lb wont be about til late as it is also his exw's birthday so he is taking a gift from his son over, trying to be on good terms still etc

he will call me when he gets in, but i may be a bit pissed

my whole life is one ball of confusion !!

Hope the day not too bad Lou - you feel how you feel though and esp on anniversaries

Eve - in the words of Lou 'you fox'. Go for it!

ASBM - nothing's happening with me. Al still around, I'm too tired busy to get on with moving in with him. (procrastination emoticon). My house needs stuff done before I could leave it and his needs stuff done before we could move in!

Don't know where this year has gone.

I'm going to get my hair cut shortly. I emailed a picture of the cut I want to my colleague and she said 'are you going to ask for the face too?' Good job I have a sense of humour lol.

thank you

i probably feel worse than i would do because ds1 and dd2 are not well, i seem to have had one thing after another bug wise, and the trapped nerve has left some underlying thing that wont go, plus i have lost my voice

that has meant i havent had many decent sleeps, as ds2 has been coughing so hard he vomits, or his ear is hurting

this is his second week off school and second course of anti biotics

i am hoping he will be well enough on monday to go back

my we've been busy here today. right now then girls, please pull my head back down to earth again and tell me (or scream!) how much of an arse gymboy really is - come on scream it loud n clear!!!

I know everything re DS & the situation there, but he's been SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO lovely the last few days - he came over tuesday, I gave him his b'day pres - which he said he didn't think he deserved - prob didn't but hey was only a card & a little teddy thing so nothing major special. anyhow he was lovely then. lots of kissing, & talking random shite then y'day we had a chat in the evening after his hockey, (few texts etc during the day) but really long chat again in the night when he was waiting for his take away walking about the weather (random I know but not like you think) and my meditation etc etc, so he's being so sweet, have had texts again today being really sweet, and last night on the phone he either said 'love you' night or 'laters night' couldn't make it out - am hoping it's the latter tbh but someone pull my head outta the clouds - PURLEASE!!! not sure if we're seeing each other tonight yet - will prob be tomorrow as XH is coming down either today/tomorrow, might suggest both in fact we shall see.

annoyed - tbh i'd say caution, and if he's that well known it's possible he's a player. The other girls are right thou we do all like to look out for each other - even when we give advice the poster isn't going to like.

glad all of you girls are doing ok today...

eve - turkish man?!?

do you want this up and down stuff tho belle? i mean surely it leaves you feeling slightly anxious as to what mood he is going to be in and that is unsettling

being nice for a few days is easy, dont forget that, the main issue about your dc has still not been resolved, just pushed to the side slightly whilst he makes you feel good

i dont want you getting hurt

I know lou, this is what I need to hear, keep saying it & it might well sink in lol.

you dont need a rollercoaster in your tummy

belle - your ds needs a mummy who's emotionally stable too... not a mummy on an emotional rollercoaster from the effect of a man messing with your head.

thanks all, really i do appreciate the advice.....
Im going to stay offline for a few days myself and see what he does......
Saying that he is well known, well i didnt have a clue who he was, i think you would only know if that was your paticular interest really.
I dont think hes a player, he really doesnt seem the sort at all. Plus ( and i didnt mention this before) he has several big kinks which would probably send most people running.... by some amazing chance im into the same thing....

belle - i cant comment as i dont know all this history, but the others are giving good advice...??

Belle - I just think you are worth so much more. I know it's hard, when you are clearly falling for someone, but long term... I don't know, from what you say, it sounds like it's going to be painful. It doesn't matter tbh if he thinks he loves you if he can't accept your ds.

aau - if it's such early days, knowing about 'kinks' sounds a little worrying? I've gone too far too fast, so I'm just saying that I now regret that - this one's a slower but not too slow, more sensible, more enjoyably paced thing for me, and all the healthier for it I think.

Lou - sorry it's a tough day for you. I need to ring my mum's oncologist tomorrow and wherever you are on the journey it's such an emotional rollercoaster. I bet she'd be proud of you though.

eve - - I'm assuming you are in my approx neck of the woods, or quadrant of the country anyway - nothing wrong with asda, or flirting with random turkish men!!

rj - what's happening, missing your happy updates!

My NM has an interview tonight but we are both still smiley if "thinky" from last night! I have a big day at work tomorrow so should distract me from it! Life is stressful here, I won't lie, but the last couple of days I have felt an honestly 'happy' feeling for the first time in weeks, certainly, maybe months.

lou

not seeing gymboy, have put him off till tomorrow.

[ear pricking emotion] here too re the kinks.

Belle I met the Turkish guy on holiday in Turkey in July. It was a one nighter as he was leaving for home the next day. He's on my fb list and sends an email now and again, but last night asked to see me again!!! He may be after a visa. He had a job in the city, so he said. I'm not taking it seriously.

Yes Mousie, we are both oppp north.

thank you mousie, i hope the phone call goes well for you

blimey how v inconsiderate of annoyed to leave us dangling like this, i insist she comes back and tells us about these kinks

i doubt there is anything that would shock me, but we cant be left on such a cliffhanger!

eve, he could come over for a holiday and you could just use and abuse for the duration, then send him on his way, job done

lb called me twice this evening, once briefly to say he was on his way home and would call me when he got there lol, and again when he got there

he said nice things about today to me, without going too overboard , he had a better day today so was more upbeat as well

we had some banter as well as a talk about more serious things (not related really to us), and he is now off to see the exw, as it is her birthday and he has a gift he got for her from his son

i think thats a good quality, he is trying to remain on good terms with her

we may speak later depending on when he gets back or how pissed i am (tonight is wine time as it is the only way i will be able to allow myself to get a bit emotional and through the evening)

i may drunk text him for nekkid pics, what do you reckon ?

lou - def drunk text for nekkid pix!!

yeah, i kind of think he told me about the kinks quite early on as i should suspect that otherwise he must get a bit fed up of talking to people and then eventually telling them, and them walking off... so he cut to the chase after a few hours conversation. He did say that he doesnt tell everyone straight away, and that it just sort of came out from things i was saying ( not sure if i belive it or not?? dont really care in any case)

ok kinks are - SERIOUS latex and shoe/boot fetish.. combined with bondage and Dom/sub. Like i said, fine with me as im that way inclinded anyway, think he was seriously surprised to find someone into the same things..

Mousie - no way would any man make me do something i didnt want to do. So dont worry about that.