Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part 12a

[lou33]

seeing as there has been discussion about using 13

(not that it bothers me)

i feel sorry for myself my back is still playing up, and i just tripped and made it hurt in the usual lower back place

Oh dear belle, sorry to hear it didnt go well with gymboy!

don't worry it will come out in the wash, will see how today/tomorrow goes.

what happened?

south - about bloody time you got pissy with him.... you've been far too accommodating with his behaviour. hope you told him some home truths.

south don't blame yourself, his behaviour hasn't been making you happy for a while and you are entitled to say so
are you OK?

belle if anyone should feel a tit(and a prize one at that)it's him!
hope you're doing ok tho?

no basically I went a bit silent on him thru lack of hugs/kissing. nothing really me being totally stupid. He kept pushing the issue for what was wrong which was getting me more annoyed as I say saying 'fine' and he was saying ok then - erm no i'm not fucking fine, you're not giving me a hug back when i'm cuddling into you, and have only had 3 pecks. we were talking ok thou for the most part. I think he's been tired, I've been tired.

now am upset cos he didn't ring this am like he said he would - then again has been doing the GSR today plus hockey, knowing him he would have been late as well. so doubt i'll hear anything until about 6pm at the earliest if indeed at all.

As I say expecting a wobbler big time, and you know what I really can't be arsed with it so if he does start on again, he'll be getting the 'you know what, i've had enough of going around in circles, i'm using the door & walking away from you' speach!

as I say thou it will come out in the wash over the next few days. no firm date either for the week left it as 'speak tomorrow, see u in the week' (never a good sign)

(were curled up watching halloween)

Just had a call - all seems to be ok - we shall see thou. think he's still buzzing over the GSR & beating his time by 2.5ms.

i still dont think he is worth it belle

but if you are happy then i am glad he called and things seem ok (though have a suspicion this is going to be how things are with him)

i'm still deciding if I want the hassle tbh lou he's worth it, but it's hassle for me. big big prob is he's been single for the last 4 years save a few short flings of about a month so he's used to just doing what he wants as he wants iycwim. which I am as well, btu then again I do consider his feelings as well when i'm with him iycwim.

we'll see how the next day or so goes.

anyhow how's everyone else's weekends been?

i just get the feeling all you do is consider he feels to the detriment of yourself

it's always you who is waiting to see what he thinks, he seems to be the one deciding how everything is

a relationship should not be so full of hassle, especially this early on

i just had a beautiful nap, and woke up craving coconut ice and butter tablet

sounds like you really want it to work with him belle, i really hope it does.

Well my weekend has been ok, not much in the dating dept since thurs, still kinda trying to suss this guy out. Have sent texts and talked on msn again last night but no mention of when we might meet again. Just had a nice weekend, kids and me!

How's everyone else been?

younger dc's went to see their dad, i have to get them at 5.30, the older 2 didnt go, dd1 was at an all night party last night so hadnt slept when i collected her at 10.30 this morning, and dd2 isnt feeling v well (though somewhat cheered up by my surprise of a new hamster cage for her syrian hamster)

gym boy has been on POF this week. had enough.

dont give him another chance this time belle

he's currently on fb chat trying to talk me around.

urgh belle, sorry to hear that, he sounds like he's out for what he can get (sorry) dont let him talk you round this time

no don't think he is to be fair. he said he's on a limited profile on there, had one email and isn't actively looking. neither of us are.

is worried about our combined feistiness (mostly as one of his ex's was physically abusive to him) but i'm not like that.

just said to him I think I need to decide to walk away.

You 'think' you 'need' to 'decide' to walk away. That's saying that he only has to say don't and you won't. It's not making a decision. Sorry to sound harsh.

I know he won't say don't. I have walked away. and feel strangely ok & detached from it all.

Sorry he's not come good for you. You have probably done yourself a favour though, too much on his terms.

i think you should stop making excuses for his lack of backbone belle

send him his p45

he's had it Lou. totally now. final.