Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part 12a

[lou33]

seeing as there has been discussion about using 13

(not that it bothers me)

i feel sorry for myself my back is still playing up, and i just tripped and made it hurt in the usual lower back place

evening all, just marking my place. weather that may be pc or not!

things are all well here with nm, although am feeling out of sorts tonight as the dcs will be away for the whole week and the little one is coughing have to wait and see what happens.

whats everybody upto this weekend?

mines fairly quiet, nm will be around so will be cooking dinner and taking in a movie, and other things

just a quick relpy for belle, ive been divorced since june now but went through sol because i got legal aid, he paid his part tho. but know it can be easily done yourself if u can agrees things. wikivorce.com is quite a good help for info on doing it yourself

i need a day i think to go back and read what everyone has been up to lol

belle thought you were already divorced?
betty is right re:wikkivorce as it gives you some pointers
don't know of anybody who's taken the online approach tho
would stress the following tho to consider
pension
private medical costs
provision for ds if he wants to go into f/e
any other perks that exh has that could be taken away from you etc
all of this must be written into consent order
obv.your arrangements re:ds as well,but from what i can gather this doesn't appear to be a prob atm unless i'm wrong
oh and be sceptical re:legal aid,as they do have a nasty habit of asking for it back when it suits them
after all if you murdered someone you'd get it for free,but divorcing your h...
sorry to hear about ds pmg(lordy weird calling you that)i know it's a terrible worry for you but heres hoping that you make the most of your me time
rj sounding good am always up for a girls night,shame we're not closer eh?bet we'd drink them out of bombay
hope everyone else is good?
am guessing that lou is recharging,
and that monty is enjoying her takeaway and vino a little bit too much

sorry didnt mean to say i thought it would be easy sorting divorce urself, just that there is s alot of help online if u want to. I think it all really depends on if u think he wud agree to same things as u? Cos if he wont then u wud need a solicitor i think.

divorce is never straightforward tho is it?

no not divorced just separated at the mo. but now is the time I feel i'm finally ready to get rid f him & move forward.

and on that note - the shops are calling me! Do I catch the train or drive that's the only question really.

depends whether you fancy a liquid lunch or not lol

lol. well it's just me myself and I that are going. so.... I think i'll catch the train - save the petrol money

yeah sounds like a good plan esp.as weather is so awful
hope you avoid the leery yobs football fans
i always seem to have one sprawled sat next to me despite spreading out my bags and glaring at them..

asbm-no agree there, its never straighfoward

belle-get the train and enjoy ur shopping trip! Wish i cud have a weekend to myself sometimes (very rare that exh has kids longer than a few hours and that can be months apart)

no footie fans - we're playing Hull away. so all good there.

Do feel for you not having weekends alone betty.

I have every other one at the mo, but will change next year or the year after. XH is off to either the falklands next year or Afgan the year after in Januray. so 6 months without DS seeing his dad - gonna be tough but would have been in the situation either way.

So is ur xh in the army? mine is forces but rfa, so he works 4 months away at a time then home for about 2 months, although saying that he has been working in port 30 mins away from us for past 5 weeks and has seen kids for one afternoon! He's always working or so he tells me

yes he is betty - signals. I did say to him y'day thou, I might not be with him anymore but that doesn't mean I want him to come back in a box.

poor form on your EX's part. do you get on with your X in laws at all? give mine their due, if they thought XH wasn't pulling his weight they'd soon be on at him, as they do ask me and tbh I tell them if he's seen him or not.

no tbh he never really had a relationship with his family himself, and kindof cut ties. His dad is the same tho, we get birthday cards for the kids but that's about it, never met his mum due to his bad childhood. So not much i can do about it really, i wouldnt ever stop him seeing the kids cos i know with his job it will never be regular but it's so frustrating sometimes!

shame for you and your dcs betty

nothing from samename - think I am just going to let it fizzle out tbh. Perhaps he is thinking the same.

Haven't seen anyone who takes my fancy on site but haven't looked that hard really.

thanks scl it's more a shame for them but they will be fine.

shame about samename, but u shud get back on there looking? Did u meet him on a dating site?

I think if he gets back in touch will have to tell him that whilst I like his company etc and he is a lovely guy there is not enough momentum there ie in between when we see each other we (and I am also partially guilty of this) don't talk much therefore we are not building any intimacy. He just seems in in his own little world. Could be an age thing (he's mid 40s) - has got set in his ways.

I like to communicate quite alot and the one of the worst things someone can do is ignore me.

Am a bit sceptical about star signs however in this case we both seem to fit our signs and possibly not a good match. Me drama queen - him scuttling into his shell quite alot.

Yes I met him online, same site.

Funnily enough just went back on and a guy who I had been talking to before I met samename messaged me asking why I was back on site - we'll call him gardenman. So have messaged him back.

However the problem of not being able to see someone much would remain.

I think if he gets back in touch will have to tell him that whilst I like his company etc and he is a lovely guy there is not enough momentum there ie in between when we see each other we (and I am also partially guilty of this) don't talk much therefore we are not building any intimacy. He just seems in in his own little world. Could be an age thing (he's mid 40s) - has got set in his ways.

I like to communicate quite alot and the one of the worst things someone can do is ignore me.

Am a bit sceptical about star signs however in this case we both seem to fit our signs and possibly not a good match. Me drama queen - him scuttling into his shell quite alot.

Yes I met him online, same site.

Funnily enough just went back on and a guy who I had been talking to before I met samename messaged me asking why I was back on site - we'll call him gardenman. So have messaged him back.

However the problem of not being able to see someone much would remain.

I know what u mean with the communitcating, i dont get men sometimes. My exh wasnt a typical bloke and was the opposite with texts and phone calls when he was away so im not used to not texting at least. Havent heard from (i need to give him a name now) footiebloke today, and he was v quiet yesterday too but he said he had a big job on , where as thurs when he wanted to meet he was texting me lots. Not sure what to think there? Is that just a bloke thing, really not used to this yet. I know it's early days but we have got on really well so far.

betty - it seems to be yes, gymboy/I have spells when we don't really talk/text, but then like the last hour have 6 texts and 3 calls after nothing all day (mostly it was him gloating about the footie, and me giving him stick back but hey ho) Sorry to hear about your EX as well.

sin - shame to hear about same name, I do think thou a semi decent amount of contact is needed to maintain interest/intimacy yes. who's the gardener then?

ho hum.. off to gymboy's tonight, not to stop over, had wanted to spend last night/today together as well, but he was out with friends & had to work today so no biggy. Must learn to be less impatient.

thanks belle, hope u have a good time tonight!

thanks betty, hope things come right in the end for you as well.

just popping in to catch up and say hi

not much to report, lb has been so busy with work he is doing 7 day weeks atm so we havent had much contact

i just spoke to him tho and he is going to try and finish early one night this week so i can go over

he is also coming down here for bonfire weekend

back from gymboy's

feeling a tit, we had a ruck - well I caused a ruck, not expecting to see him again now so will be surprised if we do.