Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part 12a

[lou33]

seeing as there has been discussion about using 13

(not that it bothers me)

i feel sorry for myself my back is still playing up, and i just tripped and made it hurt in the usual lower back place

ah ok,

well on one hand I can appreciate his thoughts re the divorce (raking it up etc) and to be fair he prob doens't have feelings for her, but all the same still won't be wanting to relive the whole thing again.

Maybe he's been thinking about it all the while and just wants a little time to make a final choice/decision?

tbh if it's not enough for you you were right to say about it, you know your mind and what you want. It's not fucked up at all, and you're certainly not selfish or neurotic. tbh, this point would have come eventually, and you can't have a relationship where you can't be honest with the other person.

Do understand the cautious bit thou as well - but he also needs to understand that not only all women are different, but also sometimes you do have to take a leap of faith and hope to christ the person you want to catch you is there to do so iycwim.

agree with your post there belle re:leap of faith
as my friend said to me 'life isn't a dress rehearsal'
but he somehow needs to make this break-thru

no exactly blondie - it's not, my mum keeps saying the same to me - to go thru life not wanting to take a chance or a risk will lead to a very lonely life.

thanks v much
He knows it, and as I said to him he'll get to this point some day in any relationship unless it stays casual
he doesn't want that either
do feel v selfish raking all this up on his ds birthday weekend but I hadn't realised
I know deep down I've done the right thing but I'm hating the waiting
had love without commitment from the ex and it wasn't pretty
love your expression leap of faith hoping the person you want to catch you is there belle - feel like that's what I've done now. No don't know anyone who could talk to him, he will prob talk to his batchelor friend who will tell him to cut and run
normally speak to say goodnight, guess I better leave it tonight

take your leave from him tbh if he rings and you want to take his call then do so if not leave him be.

tbh it's what I said to gymboy in a round about sort of way - I was ready to put my trust and faith into taking a risk on him, he's apparently still thinking - but i've done my thinking now, and am clear. Friends.

belle you sound v sorted and content with the situation
I am hoping I will get there by tomorrow too!
good for you, gymboy is a silly silly man

you will do, don't worry. Just keep faith that it will all work out how it is suppose to.

fingers crossed thou you'll get your happy ever after - one of us has to on this thread!!

hi, hope you are all well

Just to finish off I have had another allergic reaction - hives all over my boobs and tummy! Have taken the anti-histamine and all calmed down now.

Have no idea what caused it.

just looking in thinking of you tonight ninahand you know where i am
belle you sound sorted,but without wishing to speak out of turn(which i hope you don't think i am)can't see the just good friends thing working tbh as everything aside a true friend wouldn't disrespect you like this
just my pov here
but worth considering however upsetting
but as i always say that's what this thread is for and we'll always listen and support each othertrust your gut here girl you know by now what does/n't feel right.
really don't wish to preach as such or sound smug but honestly can't believe how far i've come since i started initial thread early this year and hope everyone else feels the same way{not wishing to come across like bono emoticon}
but safe to say i'm a success story!and even if things weren't peachy i've learned a helluvalot

scl

scl i think you need tog o to the gp and get yourself allergy tested

my money's on asbm for happy ever after
sorry to bore on everyone, feeling more normal again now
scl is it something you were wearing? (no, not the wrap dress) my ds came out in hives and we think it must have been his school trousers

bless you ninah looking that way atm.,but not over yet for you, and i'm rooting for you big time lady, we can have many success stories on herethe more the merrier!
scl agree with lou re:test as it might not be the usual suspects

the fat lady's gonna sing tomorrow
night all

nn sleep well we're all rooting for you xx
am offskies myself tho still strangely looking in on 38yr old virgin thread..
hmm yeah right lol

I know, those threads give me the creeps
bizarre enough to be posting real stuff without making up a virgin coupling with a man called Martin
yeuch
really must sleep now

thought you'd already gone lady..{strict voice}
just seen our monty's post
def off myself now will be checking in tomorrow nite all x

not good scl. is it stress related as well?

We shall see how things unfold this end. i'm going to be cautious about it all.

ninah - well it ain't over yet girlie, n there's gotta be a few sucess stories from here. we're all rooting for ya.

blondie - glad you're one of those stories. and no not out of turn, believe it or not I do take everything you guys say on board as well and listen to it.

I thought that thread was a wind up one - was it not (only read the first few posts thou)

yes total creepy wind up someone looking for sex tips weirdo
yes, I take what you lot say on board too and I'm really grateful it
going now, honest!

er hem...why are you still awake?lights out!{v strict mummy voice}
yeah belle couldn't be arsed to post and tho trolls are funny it's mean when people take advantage of others who sometimes go out of their way to help
still reeling from whitney omg?!
anyway must do one or won't get up in the morning nn x

whitney on X factor you mean? was she on something?

(my light is out - jsut the tv is on and laptop is out! lol)

morning all

my gp said she didn't want to do allergy testing but as it's the fourth one in a month thing it might be a good idea - could be all the cheap washing tablets I have been using!! There is no obvious link to the reactions nor have they been the same each time ie face and hives, lip only, bottom lip and chin (!) and finally hives only.

Yes I thought Whitney was on something.

Agree that this thread is a great source of support to me and hopefully all of us.

Had a wicked idea to put something rude on samename's facebook page but decided I am better than that and he's not worth the effort.

However he hasn't been active on his facebook for ages which is also quite unusual.

think

might as well take residence at gps currently seeing them for about five different issues!!!