Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

[lou33]

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

afternoon all

got my dcs back, they are delighted to be home from their hols.

Finished our major event at work this week, it went really well (most stressful event I have been involved with due to high profile of attendees) Phew can relax now.

Samename stayed for last night of 'freedom'.Both of us said how much we enjoyed the chance to see each other more - not sure when we can meet again.

Lou your exh

Must be wine o clock soon

yeah lou's exh is v much
i'm guessing that your dcs are glad to get back to normality scl and me thinks samename is def growing on you too lol

think i am gonna go back to bed tbh

oh and also, as well as their dad calling, ds2's physio told me yesterday that there was nothing more then can now do to improve himself , and can now only manage him to make sure he doesnt get worse

i kind of knew that but it's offical now

morning all,

feeling sad for you lou , if its official does that mean you will get more help?

just a quick update before I dash off again with the dcs on holiday to Dorset.

Had a fab time in France with nm and he went down well with my friends which is always a good sign.

The dcs came back from their dads yesterday eve a little bit worried about the mum and dad situation as he had refused to let me speak to them on Thursday night until he was ready for them to speak to me!!!!

the consequence being that I was in a fairly upset state on the phone to them when I did eventually speak to them. But it is great to have them back.

nm was around yesterday eve so we with some other friends took the dcs to the park, went to a restaurant, went back to the park before eventually he went home.

So the deed has been done the dcs now know that I have a partner, I was a bit concerned but it went very well, we all laughed a lot, which is always a good sign.

I am so glad it is over with, I was so dreading it, the kids dad will be duly informed I am sure, but he should have nothing to say!!

To those with dates out there this weekend, good luck and enjoy, for those without a date (by choice of course) enjoy that bottle of wine!

yay itm!!
bet that's a huge weight off for you
am wondering how long it will be before your dcs mention the m word lol
my dd is already informing people that she has a new step-dad
aww to be young and innocent eh?!
lou-(((( ))))

nothing will change, he has physio etc anyway, it's just saying he def wont ever walk now

quick Q what do we think to blokes on pof who give out their mobile on the first email. cos they're not always online?

I was thinking itm that samename really needs to meet my dcs sooner rather than later - cos actually if they really didn't like him I would have to rethink. I have no idea how they would react to him tbh

i think they are after a quick fuck

I know it's not very MN lou but have some of these ((()))

I would agree they are after sex.

thanks

Lou (((())))

xx

thanks

it is just timing really, i have had a lot of quite heavy issues to deal with this last couple of weeks

another time i wouldnt have felt so crap maybe?

lou - chin up things always go up after down.

morning all.

how are things on the dating front.

itm - fantastic things went well with nm and the dc's. must feel great to have that over with now.

asbm - u must be doing just fab as your still MIA

janos - what happened with pervy doc? did you block him immediately or did he try and redeem himself?

eve,monty,llaj - anything lined up.

south - i met teatotal policeman who gave his phone number out very very early. think it was 2nd or 3rd email. but he had said he wasn't at comp much and really didn't have time for checking it , and he preferred using phones. he was perfectly sane. and most definately not after a quick fuck. quite the opposite. but my dear lord he was dull dull dull.... shame, lovely bloke.

anyone i've missed my apologies and hope you are well.

as for me..

copper - was supposed to come round the other night... said he was off to come, then sent text 5 mins later saying he was going to be a bit late as car wouldn't start. then nothing , never showed , never heard from him. few days pass and still dont hear. last night texts and apologising simply saying "sorry, haven't been in touch, been unwell"... to which i reply "ok, care to expand"... and he says "yeah, next time i see you i'll tell you all".

have a vote... should i go and see him and hear him out? i might put this to vote on a new thread.

BigT - still floating around. but have never had more than our first date. very very complicated. he has great recommendations for literature though that i have been following.

Hi everyone, can I please join your thread? Finally after years of going around and around in circles with x husband I am now moving on but feel like a novice and could do with some support. I just want to get back out there and have some fun (and I am quite cynical as met x husband on line and he turned out to be too good to be true) but don't want to spend my life on my own. Quite a lot of sites look like a pick up point for sex and although I'd quite like some sex that is not all I want. Married friends of mine keep saying to me 'don't worry about it, you are fine on your own, you will meet someone when you least expect it' but I work in an environment which is 95% female, have a social life with friends who are halves of couples. It is not going to just happen

winnie - what about joining some club or taking up a new activity?

hi btw

hi ridingjoker, I have been thinking about starting something new in September. I have been making myself have a social life too as it had become too easy not to. I am making a real effort to regain control over my life and starting to date again is part of that.

You all seem very realistic and quite pragmatic on this thread and I need that as I have a habit of getting in too deep, too quickly. (Maybe I have learned something afterall .

oh no winnie, i'm not sensible.

well sometimes.

but others i dive in 150MPH, then find something i dont like and jump out just as quick

it is very easy to avoid social life. and for some of us on here it is practically imporssible due to childcare.

i had birthday party and a date last night but both off as ex decided to just bugger off to italy. no warning. off he popped. too late to get baby sitter.

luckily person in question for date is very understanding and equally as likely to cancel.... but alot of fella would be put out at being cancelled on as regular as i do.

last wkd i arranged to meet him fri - he cancelled
sat - i cancelled
sun - i was finally free but he had to work.

Oh I know all about an x who lands one in it because his life is so much more important. However, although I don't have a good network of support with ds x does have him two nights a week and every other weekend so I do get time to myself.

I am going to enjoy being part of this thread.

Lou33, I was here originally when you were 33 I remember your splitting up with x and his bizarre behaviour. Can't believe (or maybe should) that he is still dumping crap on your children

i'm lucky to have a good support. plenty of bro and sis willing to baby sit at night and friends who offer for during the day. trouble is... i hate asking regular. maybe once or twice a month will i ask someone other than their dad.

rj -interesting story re the copper - how can someone feel it ok just not to show and then text a few days later - have had that happen to me too. I can't imagine doing that to someone I had arranged to meet.

Hi Winnie - welcome (waves)

DCs are back and we are just having a quiet weekend.
The loo is blocked (aargh) (think ds2 was a bit overenthusiastic with loo roll), have tried to fix it myslef (yuk) but can't so have to try to get landlord as he has plumbing insurance.

Am missing samename a bit - it was really nice to have him around for some of the time while dcs were away.

Have also felt a shift in feelings for exbf - I really can't humiliate myself any more by contacting him and getting no response (would hate to be thought stalker like) so will not contact him (this time I mean it) and am sort of resigned to it really. Still feels bad but different. Weirdly I think having this big event at work and being consumed by that sort of put him and situation into perspective.

Welcome winnie

I don't know about sensible over here! Def not. I do sympathise re: lack of social life, I don't have any support up here myself, just me and DS. It's a bit knackering as I work 30 hours a week (can't afford not to).

So y, it's hard but you just need to keeping plugging away and mithering people.

Lou - hope things are looking up for you today. Thinking of you anyhow

rj - hear the copper out - but he had better have a bloody good explanation!

itm - glad things are going well for you

asbm - yes MIA, where are you? Hope you're having a great time whatever you're doing!

Man stuff - the pervy doc is being ignored. I haven't blocked him as I have no iurge to contact him.

Other man CM2 is blowing hot and cold on me and I'm a bitw ary as my feelings are starting to be engaged now. Who knows what will happen there. Next time we have a chat I'll be asking him some questions.

scl - I agree. Can't imagine arranging to meet someone and then just not turning up. Very odd, not to mention rude. But there just might be a good explanation.

Glad you feel you are moving on re exbf. I've been in that situ myself and it is really hard. It takes all your willpower not to contact them doesn't it? And not being responded to is really crushing.

Hi girls, hope all is ok with everyone

Lou-sorry to read about ds. I don't know the background but wanted to keep your chin up!

Hi Winnie, omg is the taking the piss issue with exes a genetic thing do you think? It seems such an issue for so many of us. I have been ranting posting on another thread about the very same thing.

Am meeting nm in a bit, I have had a really bad week and am feeling quite emotional about just about everything. This has lead me to start over-analysing everything that is happening around me. An example-nm was to ring me this morning to confirm where to meet etc, He hadn't rang and I was in tears in the bath thinking that's it, I've been dumped, knew this was all too good to be true. Turns out he just overslept today and rang me a while ago saying sorry! I wouldn't mind but he wasn't even supposed to have rang by a particular time or anything. I know even as I'm thinking all this crap is in my head but sometimes I have this real scary ability to be bleak and negative about anything.

I need to get a hold of myself and keep away from the self destruct button. Sometimes I think I'm like this because of how I have been treated by exhb in my marriage.