Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

[lou33]

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

oh dear, it seems a pretty shitty day all round, I am having a day of it myself-have a look at what I have posted here

Evening one and all
Have not been around much of late. Working stupidly long hours and have nothing to report man wise. Have joined my local kayak/canoe club and am off to Italy next week so that is about it for me!

Must also not delete rest of post before sending.
Have not read everything from days past so will catch up but hope that everyone is ok.

my date was v nice but i dont know whatni am doing really, it seems a huge waste of time

glad you had a nice one Lou.

I offically give up!

the bloke I met last ngiht which I was a bit worried about - OMG!! seriously kissed liike an eel got drunk then tried to feel my boob, and then tried to feel other places and kept asking me to go back to his - even after i'd come home he was ringing/texting saying come to mine and giving me the address - SERIOUSLY!!! twat. he's lucky I didn't slap him or pour my drink over him.

now today he's gonna ask if I wanna see him again (cos all last night he was saying 'I think you're ace, what do u think about our future??' - hmm, we have none!!! so what do I say to him in a polite mannor, considering he wouldn't let me pay for anything last night - not even my own drinks, he checked himself into a hotel (he's not from this town) and paid for the petrol etc up here.

but anyhow deffo give up - seriously where are the nice men who are not letches???

southbelle - you don't have to be nice! You don't owe him anything and a simple thanks but no thanks will suffice. His expectations aren't your fault.

lou - what happened on your date?

southbelle - you dont have to be nice. but if you want a decent excuse i think with one who is so blind to the obvious you will have to be blunt. tell him straight off he was far too forward and you felt put under pressure, even more so as he's paid for hotel and refused to let you pay for anything.

tell him it made you feel very awkward or ill at ease.

lou - what happened on your date?

thanks girls will do, he's already rung me 4 times and text twice in teh space of an hour!!

have said i'll ring him after work, but it's a def no go this end. He's apologised and said he was drunk/hope it hasn't pushed me off, but after talking to a male collegue in work, he's said the same as you lot.

ho hum, off men till after xmas unless it's david tennant!

nothing awful happened, he picked me up in his v nice car, we went to a nice quiet pub near me, chatted a lot, got on well, he dropped me home , got a peck on the lips from me and off he went

we both had a good time and have both said we would see each other again with no pressure, to see where it leads if anywhere

all in all it was v nice

i just wonder what the point of it is really

because at the end of the day i am 42 and a single mum of 4, so noone is going to want to take that on long term

but he was a really nice guy, from liverpool, and is the raf equivalent of a captain in the army, but raf police

oh lou that's what I think sometimes but on the other hand what's the alernative - even if it is light relief/casual.

lou fgs! of course someone would want you long term, why not. Is that what you want, though? sometimes you seem to push them away and want your own space
darkhorse is v keen isn't he
42 with 4 children good looks and a fab personality - whyever not? they'd be bloody lucky

AGREE WITH NINAH lOU, DON'T DO YOURSELF A DIS SERVICE.

(oops sorry) I know of a lady who has 4 kids with 3 men, who's about 40 and has just moved in with a new man she's been seeing for about a year. so it can happen.

they should be glad to be with you, and anyone who doesn't feel like that can walk out the door n let it him them on the butt on the way out! xx

Southbelle-you don't owe him anything so try not to feel as though you do. Surely he will eventually admit to himself that getting drunk isn't exactly the most appealing of impressions to give someone so early on?

It's not up to you to manage his expectations. A thanks but no thanks at best-and a full blown account of how to treat a woman with some respect if you have to spell it out for him!

Lou- you just never know what is around the corner-I never thought in my wildest dreams nm would be interested in me and all what comes in the package-divorce going on, a five year old and clearly the most
complicated stage of my 32 year old life!

Your children are you-what's makes you the person you are and I'm sure there are men out there that are 'man' enough to accept that many of those available over the age of 30 are highly likely to have a past and so on.

I hope you don't think I'm patronising you. It's just that from what I have read since joining this thread you seem like you would have a lot to offer a deserving man. So come on, chin up girl! x

Lou, the only guy I met so far off POF was ex RAF police, he had a certain aire about him which was very attractive. Just give it a try with no pressure. I do know what you mean but what is the alternative, trusting to chance?

I was disillusioned with internet dating so hid for a while. After this episode with FWB I unhid last night and got a message from someone who is locating to my area in 3 weeks, I shall call him 'American Boy', he's 5 years OLDER than me, so we will see!! You know how I am used toy boys, but look where it gets me.

FWB has apologised was going to ignore but couldn't resist telling him to find someone else to have fun with.

tsb he sounds like an annoying t--t whom you don't owe anything to. Just ignore.

Also Lou I want to second what the others have said about you. You have much to give. Repeat after me 'I am a yummy mummy'.

Just give the oh so tempting, non settling down types a wide birth, I will if you will.

go eve! good for you, and your text to fwb was spot on
we are fit interesting women on this thread

FWIW I probably feel the yummiest/sexiest I ever have in my life. Even though I'm old.

afternoon all... why the down in duldrums lou.

there's someone out there for everyone.

but then again... there really is nothing wrong with being single?

infact i love being single. its a terribly selfish reasons on my behalf... i dont need to think about anyone but me and dc.

oh there is a lot going on wrt dd1 atm

but i am right about what i say about myself

i was talking to a few male friends last ngiht, they all said same as you, and when i said to them ok name me one guy you can think of who would be willing to take on/ get involved long term with someone in my situation, they couldnt

darkhorse isnt keen and i dont want him back as it was before, even he couldnt reply to me whan i said tell me someone who would want this set up hten

btw he just said he seems to be homeless so may be staying here a few days on and off

he can clean my house and do chores in return for a temporary roof over his head

Lou he may be in your orbit as we speak but that doesn't mean he doesn't exist!

oops, that should read he may not be in your orbit!

Maybe better not to try to self-analyse when you have other issues? It may be because you have goings on with dd you are feeling negative.

agreed riding, you know this year i'm actually really really looking forward to xmas - just me and DS, thought i'd hate it without XH here as well, but we're going over to mum n dads, we can have a huge tree, also my brother his DF and DS will be there, happy days.

Life is good at the mo.

(sap from last night has text again today, my friend said I should just say he did put me off n I'm not interested!)

easier said tan done thou as I have issues with upsetting people. then again asking for reassurance on a first date is v off putting n smacks of neediness!

and might I just say scl I too feel the most attractive I have felt since before I was married and had dd!

I have lost so much weight (still have loads to go) but I kept catching nm looking at my boobs when we out for dinner last week! Not in a pervy way but he had a little, shall we say difficulty looking at my face whilst I was talking for a while hahahaha!

No big deal I guess but I was secretly flattered that I had that effect on him

Adolescent outburst over now. Ahem.

doll!