Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

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dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

new name do you like it got it for another thread.

south - wouldn't call beachbum tomorrow.he said he'd text me tonight. to which i never responded. commitment phobia remember..... if he doesnt text i can run like the wind guilt free

ninah - not so sure, he doesn't know i have commitment phobia. just thinks i'm a pita probably.

yes, still talking to BugT.... he's also stopped taking the huff at things as realises i dont give a flying duck. i keep telling him i'm too busy to ever make our illusive 2nd date.

ninah - i changed names as i dont want this linked to my normal name. Im totally ok with what i may do, but im aware others may judge and it might look a bit 'slapperish' which im not....
tbh - i dont even know if he wants no strings or what really..... i dont even know myself. Not thought that far ahead. Im quite happy to just meet up and go from there.
Thats for all your advice.
prob will go for it ( and if you had seen the pic i have, im sure you would too, friend at work had to sit down as said she was having a hot flush... LOL, she told me to go for it and not even think about it!!!)

in that case, just hope he's not bald and toothless in reality crazy!

well his profile on pof matches his facebook and his pics they sent me. They are clearly the same person... not just the same pics on each thing... so i would think his pics are real?

Yes, don't worry! have a good time

unless they are old... oooh and there was the guy with gums who i couldn't see in pics till met him in RL.

not helping am i?

but must admit..... there was only that one who never looked like him pics.

everyone else looked same or better.

lol @ gums

RJ - love the new name.

Go for it girl n see where you end up.

have given up on gymboy, GBF has talked me around, in a shitty mood still but fuck it, gymboy is out now. why do they have to mess you about? (he's lovely I really like him, but mixed messages?!? someone slap me and tell me i'm over analysing & being paranoid & insecure)

southbelle - is it mixed messages?... or more a case of you feel if he was really into you he would see you more? or make an effort to see you more?

you're binning him cos he was online? have you tried talking to him about it?

no it's me being over sensitive i'm sure, y'day was full of texts etc after our chat, today not so much, text him earlier and said are u up to anything later n he didn't reply. to be fiar we've both had really really shitty days in work today, I text him this am being a bit rude and he laughed when we spoke at lunch (but that was for all of 5 minutes) and replied to that one, as I say I know we've both had shite days, I said earlier to him I was in a really shitty mood today, but asked waht he was up to as I say nothing since.

could be he's letting me blow off steam could be ignoring I don't know. tbh I just don't want to get hurt again. his listing still says active within the last 24 hours, but I think it goes 24 hours and then last 3 days. who knows.

GBF says to bin him, I deserve someone who's really interested, and basically not to ring him/mirror his behaviour - (but that's a man talking! lol)

what do u girls think, I know i'm being over sensitive about it all. n have prob made him run for the hills now! (mixed messages were his texts on tues night/weds am about wanting to fall asleep/worth it etc etc) then again I guess men say anything to keep you onside?

yeah ninah he says (well he volunteered the info I didn't ask) that he reads them but only replies if it's talking about his hockey which he's really into. not sure I believe that - old sceptic me! GBF also says to not get emotional lol.

no word as of yet.

RJ, bend over you need a smack on the bum, one for changing your name and confusing me when I scanned and the other for trying to bin beachbum off.

OK here is my take on it. If you really wanted him you wouldn't be feeling committment phobic yet! Keep looking.

Can I have a round of applaus. I went on a blind date earlier. He was very nice but you know the rest. Still I did it. Bring it on.

go eve!!

right phones going back off for today & tomorrow and we shall see - back to my combat, if I can focus again.

panic over, he's talking on FB to me now, said I sounded pissed off earlier in my texts but not with him, so he went running n left me to it. things seem to be smooth now, remind me of this next time I wobble/get hyper sensitive/get paranoid n slap me one - anyone please!

eve - nope... when i'm not that bothered i tend to go with the flow... but when i genuinely like them i run like the wind

i need a good slap round the chops.

and well done you for your date.

south - at least you have managed not to scare yours off.

evening all, just marking my place

southbelle, nm and I have not had that discussion about deleting profiles on dating websites.

In the first few weeks I was a bit put out that he had been on line but we talked openly about it and had a laugh over the matches we had been sent, so in the end it didn't really bother me.

Maybe you raise the issue in a casual way? and then say that your latest batch are rubbish! and see if it gets him talking about it too, it could get him thinking!!!!!!!!

Nm came back from holiday laden with lovely pressies for me, yeah, the best one being that his holiday was cut short and he was able to spend a few days with me

he would still be here now if I hadn't had other arrangements!

am a happy smiling bunny again, think I will need to raise the issue with him casually, have asked him to come over to mine (did the whole can't get a sitter but would love to see u if poss b4 we'd agreed to next week on weds) and he said yes!! YAY!

RJ - hey you don't know you've scared him off- he might be letting you blow off some steam? is there some sort of trigger you have that makes you think you need to run like the wind? just thinking if you recognise that then it might help to stop it happening again?

inthe - glad you've been showered with gifts.

eve well done on slaying the dating monster
let's hope this is the start of the oasis
rj I know just how you feel but if he suits you he will understand
mine tries to
as for name change we remain oblivious on here as scl knows!
panic over south, it's horrible the early days not being sure of what is going on, he sounds as if he likes you, relax and try to enjoy not worry
nothing to report here just friends and dc stuff, very nice too
asbm will resurface in due course no doubt, reckon we should buy virtual hats?

itm at gifts.

south - re trigger.... anything that slightly hints at the whole committed long term thing. was set off this time by us discussing that we had deleted our profiles.

in my case it was the L word rj
deleting profile doesn't mean moving in though, does it?
don't want you to miss out on someone you seemed to really like - has he texted yet?

well he hasn't text, so i'm going to bed as to not worry about it or think about it anymore.

. although bigT is texting the timmy mallet game ... i must get a grip and knock this on the head.

big T is fun
hoping you speak to beachbum in the morning
how about you text him? tho if you are like me you just won't

I meant, only fun (no bad thing)

oh and dont get me started on the L word.

i'm really really bad. i was once in bed and a fella said that.... i actually got out of bed and made off home as i was so awkward and didn't know what to say.

he might have an idea though about this ninah... as when i was staying at his on fri i wanted to leave straight after sex and i was ordered to get couple of hours kip and not due home till 5am. but i didn't sleep well. kept waking up thinking... "could just sneak out now"

i always had this.... but i think its got worse after disasterous relationship with dc dad.