Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

[lou33]

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

i have a feeling i'm going to have to have this out with him..... early days or not...... it could be perfectly normal and he's just on the forums and blogging things for work.. i have looked and the posts are all work orientated or music orientated. and none of its hidden. all up front and he linked me up to his facebook soon as we were talking. i just never bothered to delve further into all this stuff till now.

but i think i'm going to have to actually ask outright if he does any other online stuff.......

I know eve - we just spoke, and he was his usual self, he volunteered the info (when asking me if I had many bloke interested) that he read the emails but didn't bother replying. He's keen to meet again, but now i think i've buggered things up - will be typical! ho hum, we shall see, we both agreed the other was worth it last night. so lets hope it works out, if not will be chalked up - GBF (gay best friend) says to leave it be this once. poor lad's just split with his girlfriend as well so will be on gbf duties this weekend!

eve - agree go where is comfortable for you, and also a quick get away. if needed.

rj - beachbum sounds like a comptuer geek but each to his own! there was enough washing up for prob a week and the loo was brown inside - did raise my eyes. buut was soon forgotten.

ho hum, think i'm gonna back off now n wait to see if he comes to me, on one hand he asked if I was free fri - good sign, but then said 'i might be out with friend tom, will let you know nearer the time' so bad sign?

i need my head banging together with yours rj! we did say were gonna see what happens last night thou - does that mean not seeing anyone else or not??

oh i misunderstood, yes i'd say talk to him, but if he's showing you and in effect has nothing to hide don't worry.

thats the thing no... i knew he was very techy in his job... and had seen all the gaming stations.. and when i quizzed he said he had been in the past but wasn't now.

but he's not geeky in RL.... odd, very blokey, into his extreme sports and goes gym 7 days a week.

its like a whole other hidden side.. thats whats worrying?

rj you're having the jitters! nothing wrong with the geeky stuff you're looking around for poss ways out
first his hair now this
he's OK, give him a chance
and south don't read too much into him checking online, just needs that convo at some point my bf was still on there after the first few dates I think it's habit
(I still look now from time to time)

ninah - yes... you know how it is.... i like a good excuse to bolt.

i ridingjoker have commitment issues

Hi
I hope you sort this out with regards to the active profile thing- Have to say thats the thing that frightens me a bit you can track everything with computers can't you?!
Anyway, nobody told me how time consuming this whole internet dating type thing was?!

I was just thinking about some bad dates I've been on when someone popped into my head which made my flesh creep. Guess what get a new mesg and it's from him. It was around 3 yrs ago!!!! My physic abilities don't always work in my favour. It was a pay site, not pof.

i had a really nice lunch date with a friend of a friend today

'Psychic' think that is how you spell.

ninah, ok will keep my cool. friend's just been telling me the same thing tonight - went to see time travellers wife with her - why o why can't love be like it is in the movies? simple... you know where you are.....

lou does said friend of a friend have a name or anything, are you going to see them again?

lucy - yes it can be time consuming can't it! lol. all good fun thou.

RJ - right mrs, you hold my hand n walk me thru the early weeks and i'll hold yours for the commitment thing! honestly give the guy a chance - never know he might be a good en. also we have to take a risk at some point, can't spend all our lives running away from being hurt etc cos we might miss the one person who's really special. (remind me I said that! lol)

am thinking of a name for him, yes i will see him in a few weeks time

i want to keep this one low key

also i have a date for next thurs with the rather lovely muso guy

i can see me struggling to make a choice if i get on with him as well as i think i will

well, to be fair if you're not fooling about with either of them just yet would you not date both? (obv tell them about each other thou?)

any reason for wanting to keep it low key?

i dont like dating more than one at a time tho i feel awkward about it, even tho i dont think it unreasonable for others to do it

yes i have reasons for it being low key, my awful track record for one, and we are trying not to attract attention of mutual friends til we know if anything will happen

i see no reason to mention them to each other though

my lunch date from the other day has been in non stop contact

and so has the one for next week, but the one i havent met for lunch yet would be in touch a lot i guess

Hi ladies

Am a regular but have namechanged to save embarassment....
Been internet dating for a while have met up with a few men, but noone clicked.
I emailed this super fit guy, wasnt expecting a message back... but we emailed constantly for the weekend, swapped numbers and have been texting 20 plus times a day.
He is as i said very very fit. VERY FIT! do i need to repeat that again... VERY FIT!!!!!!!!
Clearly very interested in meeting for sex, the text messages have gone extreamly rude, but im not embarassed to say that i like it and ive had some amazing pics ( one or two passed round the office for approval... and confirmed... VERY FIT!!). WE have spoken on the phone - he is nice as well.
Im more than totally ok to meet up, if it ends up just a shag, then great. If more even better, but im kind of casual about these things.
Just wanted to know if im completey crazy? or not.
Will meet in a public place for a few drinks and go from there... if its turns out i dont like him, then i wont do it... but ive a feeling i will.

A little tiny bit of me thinks its a totally daft and irresponsible thing to do... but then a big part of me thinks what the hell, as long as im safe. DD is with her dad. And of course, im highly flattered... and did i mention... is is VERY FIT!
LOL

Three words. Go for it.

Lou, it's great, the attention, when you have met up and found a mutual attraction. Not so great before hand. Can see you may be posting about a dilemma soon.

lou - sounding good.

crazy - as long as you do a neutral initial meet somewhere to establish you look as expected then go for it.

if you know where you stand and happy with the arrangement then there's no real problems. however.... remember the warnings. it could be one off, could be repeated.. if ends up a fuck buffy/sport fuck thing... it ALWAYS ends when one gets feelings and the other has to dump them as they dont. not nice ending.

as long as your aware of this and feel you can handle it then go for it.

eve, i think i may well be

crazy, there is nothing wrong at all with meeting him wrt a casual fling if you are happy with that and so is he and you both know where you stand

and you make sure you feel 100% ok in his company and are not pressured into anything or feel uneasy

have fun

well.... guess what, was in stinker of a mood today after havin fights with ex from 7am

. and managed to pick a fight with beachbum which ended in me telling him to "leave the whole damn thing" in regards to us.

must admit i wasn't particularly nice today. dont expect to hear from him.

been joking with my friend today that i am an emotion retard... had the jitters soon as i knew he had deleted him POF profile.

where does one go for counselling for commitment issues?

RJ.

crazy agree with the other girls really depends if everyone knows where they stand then it's all good really.

I've had a shockingly shite day, can't stop thinking about gymboy (but not for good reasons - like y'day was none stop for good reasons lol) v v unsure of myself again now, ho hum.

he's been his usual flirting self - it's not that i want/expect exclusivity but jsut to know if i'm one of many or not iycwim - the impression the other day was am not but well who knows.

still gonna do some combat later on to work out the frustrations, & talk to GBF who's also having a shitty time at the mo - think the w.e might well be about a bottle of jack daniels & a take away for us to share!

rj - do you think you could ring tomorrow and say you were stressed or something/would like to go slower?

who'd do this early dating larkey - and i'll stamp my foot, why can't it be like in the movies damn it!!!!

rj if it is meant to be he will put up with your committment phobe self
remember I dumped bf at about this stage last year? hope it works out as you want it to
some of us worrying they are still on sites and poor old beachbum deletes .. he's not proposing to you, just being decent I think
are you still in touch with big T
crazy it's up to you but I wouldn't be into this myself - if you are embarrased enough to change your name on here are you sure you could deal with a sex only meet up?