Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

[lou33]

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

i deleted his number after telling him it was off. he said he would text so i thought "fine, you can text if your really bothered"

took strop as was still in stinking mood after arguing with ex

I think you need to explain this to him at some point
I felt similarly, not to the point of actually getting dressed but a cold chill and the awkward silence afterwards where you can't reply
If he knows he will be able to be patient, otherwise he may think it's him (that he's got funny hair or summat )
hope you two get the chance to talk, be honest, why not?

because i was incredibly rude to him today.

if i do see him in person again i suppose i might have to explain.

thanks girls.

night
night

he will come back if he's worth it however rude you were
if he knows you he should see beyond it, this convo needed to happen at some point
sleep well x

I agree there juicy (will call u that now! lol) taking the profile off isn't a big deal - I guess really in fact (and am answering my own thing here) it's so easy to set another one up again it's no big deal really if it's taken off. left on it is thou lol.

perhaps you took it out on him as he was the one you spoke to next, and you're in a lot of ways trying to 'test' him to show his commitment etc to you- by deleting his number i mean. if he texts you then he's proving his worth, if he doesn't then you're feelings about commitment have been validated. if that makes sence? - however feel free to tell me to bugger off if i'm up the wrong tree. agree be honest as well. get it all out there - well maybe not all of it! the highlights.

have agreed a provisional date with gymboy for sunday. I then said that's of course if u wanna see me, he said why do u ask that course i do, I was like becuase I don't like assuming stuff with other people (not even family - which is true) so just like to make sure, he was like ok fair one, i'll text/talk to you tomorrow. so can chill out now. YAY! (till next time lol)

well yesterday i had non stop contact with my weds lunch date

i counted his messages to my phone this morning

there were 70

i guess he likes me yes?

also had a fair few from my lunch date next week, and about 10 so far today, plus a long msn convo last night

i'd say lou. you go girl.

2 texts from gymboy today still not sure which way it will go he's still showing as active in the last 24 hours on match.com. I don't know, I give up thinking about it/trying tbh.

i'm now thinking he's not as interested as the early indications/he claimed on Tuesday night - but I guess it's possibly now me sabotaging things cos I don't want to get hurt??

oh ffs, just did a sneeky log onto my actual match.com account to see properly, and it says last 3 days lol. MUPPET!!

computer and mobile are going off this weekend. he doesn't have my house phone number so won't be tempted to get my knickers in a twist!

i wont hear from him as much this weekend though as he is away

only 11 so far

south - why turning your phone off?? then he will think your not interested as not replying to him?? what if he is trying to confirm sunday?

i emailed beachbum to apologise this morning. he emailed straight back. says he would catch me online tonight but i will be out. haven't told him as didn't see any need to reply to his email(infact didn't trust myself not to dig a bigger hole). but no doubt will catch up with him and resolve this before he goes on hols... hopefully.

but.. going out with the girls tonight. got a wicked new outfit and will go on the razz in glasgow. woo hoo.

and constantly repeating mantra "must not say yes to BigT, must not say yes to BigT" as he wants to meet tonight.

lou - wow thats a lot of text. looking good.

they are all keen at the start tho arent they

you must not say yes to Big T
just to remind you!

I bumped into my date from last night in town this morning, he surprised me from behind. Told him I'd meet him for a coffee on Tuesday while DD is at the hairdressers.

At least he hasn't ran a mile. Shame I cannot imagine anything happening apart from friendship.

Got a message from an attached man. I'm ignoring. I hate men like that so selfish and only thinking of themselves, sod the wifes feelings and the feelings of the OW.

just cos it's easier to not know than know. sods law thou had two texts and can't reply cos my mobiles been cut off!!! (on the phone to them now as only paid it y'day!!)

texts said he was going to the gym, that I was the one with the sexy legs not him. then another than he was up at the gym & was then going home to go out with his mate.

aunty's gonna lend me a book about women who think too much.

eve - OMG! I usually give them a ranting email back lol.

lou - well you never know wait till monday n see me 'tinks!

as for me, back from the gym with a bottle of malibu & fairly relaxed now, so gonna put DS to bed & sit down and inspect the inside of the bottle!

I just can't keep up with everybody

eve - absolutely no chance of anything other the friendship with your date?

belle - you itchin to reply yet?

i went out. now a useless pile as only wee bit sleep then up with dc. but too much red bull so crap sleep iykwim.. the joys of being sober when out.

morning rj, hope you feel better.

Arguing with exs seems to be the theme of the moment in my neck of the woods too!

oh dear, my ex seems to have completely forgotten he has a child, we haven't heard from him in a week - still I've fed up of asking him to actually ring his child during the week so will let him get on with things.

Juicy - yes I eventually replied, and he rang me. Just had a bit of a giggle, and am hopefully sorting something out for sunday/monday. he's nice. I like him! lol. Asked what I was doing this w.e eagerly, I think for the most part he's leaving it all up to me to decide when to see him, but then I get upset if I decide to see him and he can't /doesn't iycwim. but then it's a 2 way street. redbull is best drunk with vodka duncha know!

how's everyone getting on today?

i have a confession....... i actually turned 2 fellas down last night as just couldn't.... aaaaaah i need to bang my head against wall for trying to bin beachbum.

belle - mines has fogotten too. as long as he's happy eh

no you don't - it just shows that you do really like him (but we knew that anyhow) and as such I think you should try to ring him tonight once the kids are in bed or something. He was receptive y'day wasn't he, so I don't think it's as bad as you think, he prob knew you were stressed out when you said what you did.

yeah as long as he's happy - mine likes to play mind games (as does his mother with me) so I quite like it being quiet on the western front, otherwise they're both saying things like 'we miss you' last time XH was on about my hosue (which I let them all stay in btw offered it, to see DS while I went to my mums for a week) and all they did was go on about how I need to be doing XYZ etc etc the garden needs doing - erm yes I do know but a) money b) time c) don't be so bloody ungreatful.

south lol at ex. they're great. but ex's for a reason i suppose.

can call beachbum remember. dont have his number anymore. wouldn't anyway. he said he would speak to me over the wkd then i will leave it up to him. he has a big night out tonight. so not expecting to hear from him till possibly tomorrow or monday.

ah sorry it was all emails, thought it was texts.

rj, are you ok? I seem to have missed the bit where you've tried to rid yourself of beachbum

thesouthsbelle, ex's and ex-inlaws: I sympathise. As rj said they are ex's for a reason!

I have been texting thepianist in the last couple of days and it has been ok. We've both sent each other drunken emails in recent days (different nights) which hasn't ruined the spark & it seems more and more likely we are going to meet up and yet... he has commented on the fact that I have a particularly busy social life (well, ds has been away and I wasn't sitting in) and although he has a few interests which he is passionate about they are rather solitary and I am getting a sense he doesn't actually have a reallife but an online one... Mmm...
He txt me and told me he was off doing something this morning and randomly I went on to the dating website to reply to a date invite I knew was there and there was thepianist!! Am I being a bit over suspicious? It's not the being on the site that I have an issue with its the why tell me he was about to go out to do a certain thing but very obviously not go? (Iykwim)

Thetrekker has asked me on a date and suggested an exhibition I really want to see so now the fun begins trying to find a time when we are both free.

Have a good weekend everyone

winnie - maybe his plans got cancelled and hadn't a chance to tell you? i lose count of the things i have planned to do that end up going awry

i'm ok though. just feeling kind of a prick for acting as i did. hanging my head in shame type of thing.