Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

[lou33]

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

i've just been asked out

Anyone nice Lou?

yes actually, another musician, one who funnily enough (which has made me chuckle) can play the mandolin as one of his instruments lol

we havent firmed up any dates tho

pmsl at ninah and the black ash furniture men

Hello ladies,
Well, musicman phoned me last night and we talked for an hour which was lovely but I am terrible on the phone, especially at flirting, but he is off on holiday for 2 weeks today and wants to see me when I get back despite my ex deciding he doesn't want to see dd for a few weeks... so good?! I think?!

I have also been electronically talking to the traveller who from his photos os "my type" and is prepared to fit round me about meet ups and sees his ds every weekend (I approve!) and seems, generally, very lovely. He is away with work til Friday so I am just pondering things til then.

My "cycle" is falling too fast too soon, I hope like you rj I will break it...

good luck lou.

RJ - ooh good luck hopefully he'll soon be promoted to NG status.

scl - agreed get and sort out child free nights

am off over to gymboy's place in a bit, but I do have another question.. sorry full of em a the mo just don't want to rush this one/go too slow or summat.

this will be date 3, (in 3 weeks), we talk prob every other day but do text as well. prob a few is all during the day. thing is thou I know he's quite keen as everytime after a date he asks when i'm free next, realistically thou it's not gonna be the rest of this week, and possibly not next either, until next fri when XH has DS for the weekend. (mums having DS tonight & tomorrow so I can go out with a friend to the pics) is with my brother on sat night baby sitting, so I don't feel I could ask her to sit next week for me as well. possibly might see him briefly at the gym but that's literally a 5 minute hi n good bye in passing.

is that about usual thou to see each other so casually? XP was always pushing for more time together and apparently felt like we had a 'part time' relationship as a consequence.

mousie, music man sounds good yes.

and the other one as well - just see how things go really I think. (not that I can talk! lol)

south - i dont think there is anything wrong with taking your time. i've only had 3 dates with beachbum in 3 weeks. oh and he squeezed in a wee hour one night he popped over

i think scl had even less with samename in beginning month... am i right scl, help me out here.

its just not possible to do more i find.

but... beachbum doesn't complain.. and if your fella isn't complaining then where is the issue? as long as he's happy with it going nice and slow then just go with it.

personally i dont like that your ex was pushing for more contact. think gym boy seems much better relaxed bet. we all already feel pretty pushed and guilty about how we spend our time. last thing we need is a fella who's pushing for more.

mousie - ooooh pleased you have some good sounding options there.

true enough, we did have 'the chat' - but he raised the question, operation showuayamoves was a total sucess - hmmmmmm. lol. anyhow just got back now and need to be up for work in ooh 5 hours so had better get to bed - good job DS is with mum tomorrow avo so I can have an afternoon nap - lord knows it will be needed as we have the accounts office in finalizing the year end - deep joy!

way heeeeeeey for the southbelle

hey, does this mean you have a NM? when you say "the chat", i assume you mean the exclusivity one?

lol. no i'm not promoting him to that just yet, but it means that we both talked about it and agreed to see it thru to see what happens but we're not in any rush to say yeah we're dating etc, but on the other hand I made it clear that i'm not the sort of person who meets with loads of people at the same time - mostly cos I don't have time & can't remember their names lol. I didn't say I expected him to be the same, but he said ok fair enough, so not exclusive (as in we're now a dating couple) but also not seeing anyone else.

but he's good at kissing. and is also chilled out, asked when he'd see me next so I said next w.e is my next weekend childless but he has a race on in his home town so he's going back there. so I said i'd sort something out for next week if I could as the week after that he's away. best bit thou was he didn't pressure - he asks but said it's cool cos I know you're busy at the minute with the little one and all (didn't call him 'your kid, or the kid' like XP used to.

then finally I texted when got in and he apologised for keeping me out/up so late lol. so replied it was ok think he's worth it, and he said good, so are you. (yay! ) so think it's all good there. better try and sort something out for next week now - might have to ask my aunty instead of mum to come over if she's free

I know you're right about the time issues, guess it's getting used to someone who's not pushy at all, (but likewise that i'll need to put in some effort to see as well)

anyhow i'm now running late for work so had better get dressed.

oh must add, his place is a bit of a mess (think dirty dishes and dirty loo - not his one but the main one he has an ensuit apparently - didn't see it thou before you ask! ) that's a typical bachelor pad thou right? tbh I think he uses it more like a hotel just to sleep in really.

south - manky bachelor pad is ok.. as long as its occasionally cleaned.... if it's realy midden and NEVER cleaned like kim and aggie then thats horrid.

but if he makes the odd attempt to clean and it's just a days worth of dishes i would let it slide. but if there's dishes with mould.... i'm sorry, but that is minging, and i would actually turn around and walk back out of somewhere like that..

hi am trying to get up slightly earlier each day in prep for back to work nbext week.

When I started with samename think it was Easter hols so saw him twice quickly then usually once per week but now about once a fortnight.

Oh everyone seems happy with whats happening with them at the moment.

I am ok. Loads of socialising with friends as ds is away and refuse to sit in feeling sorry for myself so have had a really lovely time
I am still talking (daily) to Thepianist. We seem to have connected in a major way, (msg/emails). He is pushing for us to meet but I wish he lived closer & then we could just meet for a coffee and it wouldn't feel like such a big deal. I have had his phone numbers for a week(?) and not used them or given mine. He left me a message early this morning asking me to txt him in work. I didn't. I am having mixed feelings about it and can't help but think I am about to repeat a cycle which maybe why I am holding back.

Trekkerman (is that what I called him) is still in contact. Still think that is going know where.

Sometimes I wonder why I am doing this!

winnie - what do you mean by cycle? and why haven't you text him?

scl - do you wish you seen samename more by now?

Just thought I'd post that I have almost arranged to meet someone of POF. Think I need to break my duck as you all seem to be managing to meet people that your hitting it off with.

Not sure why I replied to his emails because I don't fancy him much from the photos, however he has just emigrated here so doesn't know anyone, also I'm trying to change type. I have said I would stop off after work at the pub almost next door. Its 2 miles out of town and as he doesn't have transport has asked if I would meet in town. There is no way I'm going into town to find a rare parking space, if he doesn't make an effort to meet here then it's not going to happen.

You can tell I'm enthusiastic yes?

rj, I've just deleted my answer to your question as my reply has made me sound quite mad

I am going to go away and think about it a bit. But I will be back

abouteve, don't go if you don't want to go

about eve - agree with winnie, if you don't want to go then don't.

winnie - why haven't you contacted the pianist? how far away does he live, is it a managable distance?

scl - how are you finding once a fortnight at the mo?

rj - the loo was a deffo kim n aggy thing, but then again the whole bathroom apart from some shaving trimmings in the sink was immaculate (save for the ironing pile) bed was unmade thou (did have a nosey lol) will see if much/any effort is made next time.

ok, just checked my emails and it's showing that gymboy has been on match in the last 24 hours (prior to that it was last 5 days) am quite upset really, but prob shouldn't be thou?? guess he's a bit of a jerk then? should I ask him about it or leave it and let him contact me, we've been texting today and all was normal.

Southbelle, sorry but thats what you get with internet dating, just reminded me why I dont really go for it. He could just be checking messages and its early days so dont fret. I wouldnt mention it. Kids in sweety shops spring to mind.

Don't take too much notice of me though

Told my prospective 'date' to meet where and when I say or its not happening.

If he agrees I will have a quick chat and coffee, or red wine then be on my way. I need to meet someone to get over this fear I have of blind dates. To me meeting conventionally is preferable. You have no pressure then, you clock each other, find out if it's a good chat up then arrange a date or not. You are going out to socialise and if you meet someone you like then that's a bonus. Sound so much more simpler but we all know it's not.

south - he could have been checking if you were online. or received email about it.

your going to have to have the chat about where you stand re profile.

i had a very simple one with beachbum.

was conducted over msn.

i asked

"quick question.. is your profile active, hidden or deleted."

he replied "deleted"

i replied "mine too now then "

thats all thats said, no big deal.

but what do you think of this... beachbum works with computers.but he's got loads of online doodas... facebook,twitter,and a pile of techi geeky things wimilar to twitter.. and and a blog ... where he posts about podcasts he makes for a gym thing he does and its a help centre for people regarding software jargon.

does this all seem a bit too much?......verdicts on this please... at present it is my current excuse to dump him... it changes weekly

eve - agree you should meet where you are comfortable with due to your blind date fear.

south - also..... how bad... when you say kim and aggy was the loo...... shit stains?... and were there any mouldy plates/cups lying about..?

rj not sure about all the computer stuff, depends on how much time he spends on it, like we can talk. lol

I would be more concerned if he was on every internet dating site going and forming online relationships with women up and down the country with dodgy common interest. My one and only date off pof was doing the latter guess I should have seen the signs.