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Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

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lou33 · 21/07/2009 20:36

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

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Remotew · 22/08/2009 17:56

Very at a guy turning a date down with a younger woman, some of us have the reverse problem we are the older ones, not that it should be a problem.

lucy1001 · 22/08/2009 18:01

I know I am a bit gutted! Especially as we had before he saw my picture then after that he seemed especially keen. We had arranged it and everything. kind of got the impression he was very stressed other work things. Anyway, his loss!
Just hoping someone other than a complete nutter contacts me soon.
I din't getthe age thing can't see it as a problem generally

sincitylover · 22/08/2009 20:09

I would have thought that he would have been flattered. 14 years isn't that much.

It's my birthday today (not posting fishing for greetings btw) but more to ask whether birthdays tend to make you feel a bit low or maybe just a bit reflective?

Went out last night with mate and our dcs but feeling v flat today.

Certainly am not where I expected to be.

Am usually on holiday too on my birthday.

My mum loves to rub it in too!! Oooh how does it feel being this age. She can be quite a bitch and thinks I should be getting my slippers and blue rinse LOL

Am I being too self indulgent/sensitive? At least I don't look it.

sincitylover · 22/08/2009 20:10

my age that is!!

lou33 · 22/08/2009 20:46

your mum is jealous she isnt that age any more

happy birthday anyway

lucy, 14 yrs is not what i was expecting

i date men that many years younger than me sometimes, and one of my best friends is married to a man 14 yrs older than her

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ridingjoker · 22/08/2009 20:53

scl - when you going to manage to see samename again yet.... can we call him NM or BF yet?

abitlonesome · 22/08/2009 20:56

for my single friend -- which dating websites are best, as in, full of single men who are really after dates, friendship and relationships, not for example tagged where everyone is after a shag!?

ridingjoker · 22/08/2009 21:01

pof has a variety. and you you state what your after and its free.

but it very much depends on area.

which area? maybe some of other girls are local and can say which they found had best response.

sincitylover · 22/08/2009 21:14

I think you are right Lou she has always been like that - ie anti fun and it has crossed my mind she is a bit jealous. In my 20s was in Australia for one of my birthdays, was on a really tight budget and I phoned her and she said I had probably been 'gallivanting around' (with pursed lips no doubt)

We have never got on really. She seems to dislike my personality and has never approved of any of my choices.

She is quite supportive about exh though - she doesnt like him one bit!

Well RJ seeing Samename on Monday night. He's forgotten my birthday - unless he has a surprise on Monday. he's def not bf - and with current situ with exh (dcs currently not going there until we can sort out probs) think he might be relegated to sometime fb, cos after mon prob can't see him for about a month.

Work hubby remembered (hurray), exbf not yet but wasn't expecting him to somehow.

ridingjoker · 22/08/2009 21:17

samename - at not remembering after all time you have been seeing each other. think your right in relagating.

must add to you feeling pissy today. wanker.here's hoping he remembers monday.

thesouthsbelle · 22/08/2009 22:13

blow I knew I should have whipped it off & pounced - hmm, next time! lol. (he was sitting on the floor btw, and I was well had oil everywhere over a tanned muscular bod! damn my woman's monthly turning up early! ) haven't heard from him at all today but is in London all day with something of other with his music, might well give him a tinkle in a few weeks and see. (and yes we did kiss RJ). 99.9% sure he's not a player type then again I don't like taking it for granted & would assume i'm not the only gal he lets massage him/he opens the door to semi naked!

gymboy rang today, think we might have a date lined up for tues but I need to confirm a sitter for DS. So far all dates have been out in public - ie we've met in the pub, or outside and that's about it. he did suggest goin to his but I thought it was a bit soon?!? perhaps I should just plunge n go to his place & pounce? hmm.. he doesn't really drink so getting him merry & taking advantage isn't an option really.

h and the sailor who I had a date with a few weeks back text today, is back from his hols and wondering if I'd like a date again - hmm, let's think.... er no! so I need to be a bit firmer & stop pussy footing around with that one I think.

RJ - i'm so glad you said about the dating with kids bit, it is hard isn't it, althou I have every other weekend to myself I find it hard as guys usually want to see you more (XP wasn't happy with 3 nights a week & was constantly pushing for more!). I find it an issue about the whole if dating not only is it tiring the next day with DS but also the feeling guilty about going out & leaving him in bed asleep while i'm having fun.

RJ - good luck with beachbum. he sounds nice. (listening attentively is a good start anyhow )

Lucy - 14 years isn't that much, but sometimes they've aged more than the photo shows so caution is advised, but least they're mostly settled & know what they're doing! also should point out same as RJ, when I do have a childless night during the week I tend to go to the pictures with my friends, so feel guilty about even more time away, it's so hard to juggle it all. i'm dreading him getting older if i'm not with someone in a lot of ways. still ho hum....

scl - Happy Birthday, not reflective or sad or anything, I think a lot of us a prob where we never thought we'd be at our ages, but we're exactly where we're meant to be - with our children having a lovely time. Hope that makes some sort of sence. Lets hope the man remembers on monday, if not sack him off!

ho hum. hope everyone else is doing OK thou.

havingfun · 23/08/2009 09:35

HI
right - thebiker has asked me out and ive said yes!!! ( First date since was about 20!)
Anyway - he wants to take me out on his bike for the afternoon then a meal in the evening.
I havent been on the back of a bike for about 10 years. BUT i would like a go. Do youi think its safe to get on the back of a bike with someone you dont know..... i dont know???? do you think i should say yes to the date but no to the bike until i know him better? ( if i like him)
Spoke to the farmer, he phoned me. Very distracting as he sounded like my uncle ( he isnt!) sounds really really country, and just cant take him seriously. AND he told me his fave tv prog is dog the bounty hunter! He keeps texting me now... how to i tell him im not interested without being mean?

ridingjoker · 23/08/2009 10:19

lol @dog bounty hunger.

HF - you could let farmer down gently by telling him you have met someone else?

the biker - best to keep it short to something where you can escape if he's hideously unlike his photo. or walk like a hunchback.

gymboy - why the heck not go to his to even meet. can understand wanting to spend a childfree night out.... but you've gotta find out if he can kiss. lol.

as long as you have met him then where's the harm in going to his. and the next date will be your 5th ffs. well past 3rd date rule (not that i'm known to manage to get past 2nd date without pouncing

but if you feel uncomfortable and want to wait then by all means ignore me.

ninah · 23/08/2009 13:14

hello all
rj great news you are getting on so well with beachbum
and scl I agree, relegation time
hello havingfun abitlonesome and lucy
at bloke thinking a woman too young I've heard it all now!
my news - you remember there was an issue between nm's dc and mine. Well he has spoken with them, I went round last night and they could not have been nicer. Making real effort, playing with my dc, they obv think the world of their dad and are doing as requested. We all enjoyed, is a bit awkward at times but my heart went out to them for making such an effort.

Remotew · 23/08/2009 15:57

Hi all, I'm back from my party, what a night, feeling worse for wear atm. It was a joint 18th and 21st so you can imagine the age range. Lots of cheeky young men calling me MILF!!!!!

Think I was one of the last to go to bed in the tent.

SCL it's strange how you can be made to feel guilty for enjoying yourself, that's exactly how I'm feeling today but it's from myself.

ridingjoker · 23/08/2009 16:12

eve @ MILF.

ninah - really pleased to hear nm has stepped up to the plate. does this mean he's promoted back to BF??

scl - are you thinking of sacking samename if he completely forgets your birthday? or just relegating?

havingfun · 23/08/2009 16:17

thanks for the advice RJ.
I emailed the biker and told him that i wasnt happy to just jump on the back of his bike for the day when ive not met him and asked about a drink instead. He said hw was totally cool with that and would love to take me out for a drink, and would i maybe fancy a meal out as well.
He seems really sweet, so i gave him my number.. ( he gave me his a few days ago, but i didnt text him yet!)
Thefarmer text me the afternoon to tell me that a dog the bounty hunter double bill was on and that i should watch it.... LOL! i have not replied yet and may just totally ignore him now!

Sorry that i dont know everyone to commet on everyone elses posts... sure ill get to know you all soon enough!

lucy1001 · 23/08/2009 17:44

Hello Having Fun LOL at the dog and the bounty hunter!!
The Biker sounds nice. Hope it goes ok.
Just out of interest did you meet these men on the internet? and what site?

lou33 · 23/08/2009 18:38

do we like the word milf?

i dont, purely because it is based on nothing more than wanting a fuck, i find it pretty disrespectful

but i may be odd

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Remotew · 23/08/2009 18:45

I said I was insulted by it but they said I should be flattered . One was a 21yr old model so I forgave him, of course I wouldn't go there.

ridingjoker · 23/08/2009 18:47

lou - its just a joke eh? anyone who uses that word hasn't actually got the know how to act upon it.

lucy - think we talked about this in past few pages for having fun.

some are internet. some real life.

we give nicknames as otherwise it gets pretty confusing thouh.

i use pof. but everyone uses different ones.

lou33 · 23/08/2009 18:50

i know rj but i still dont like it, tho of course i am not saying anyone else should feel the same

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Remotew · 23/08/2009 19:01

No I agree with you Lou I was embarrassed by it.

Remotew · 23/08/2009 19:01

No I agree with you Lou I was embarrassed by it.

Remotew · 23/08/2009 19:02

Twice oops!

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