how does this internet dating lark actually work?

[raggedtrouseredphilanthropist]

I am finally ready for dating again, and after a glut of interesting men, 2 have now come along at once.
So I am meeting one this weekend for a drink - we have loads in common, but I dont think I will really fancy him judging by his pic. But I am messaging another, who I think Iwill fancy, and also have a fair bit in common with, but he is much less forthcoming (hasnt suggested meeting yet, less interesting emails).
So if I go out with guy no 1, is it still ok to be emailing guy no 2? At what point is it NOT ok to still be checking out other guys??

Sorry, these are stupid questions, but i am a complete novice!!

I kinda feel the same as you - let them contact me. and just like you - is it being chilled (which I clearly am not!) or just not being that into them? lol
so we are going to a local pub on thurs. either i will relax and enjoy myself or humiliate myself terribly. Not all that fussed which at the mo...

rofl here ragged
maybe its the latter eh?
whatever it is it's good for sure as i for one have been taken over by mobiles in the past
thurs sounding promising then

hmm, the more I think about it, the more scared I get. Like I said, it feels such a weird and unnatural way to meet someone - much better to meet someone, fancy them, THEN find out about them rather than all back to front like internet dating is.
So I have decided I am not really all that fussed. I will go out for a drink, and take it easy, but if he gets all serious I will do the old 'I'm not ready for this' spiel, and quite possibly run away.
there, that sounds like a plan ;)

hahaha!!!
oh dear lol
{asbm shaking her head}
you and me both here
just go and enjoy it's a night out if nothing else
that's what i keep on drumming into myself anyway

well I thought I owed you a run down of the night.
He is really nice. I do actually really quite like him. We had a few drinks, chatted about loads of crap and then he brought up the subject of past relationships, at which point I kind of freaked out. But he was SO nice about it. He said he kind of worked out I'd been through shit, and although I kept on freakng from that moment on (and very nearly ran away at one point), he was very cool about it.
And he is actually quite nice to look at (from a certain angle lol), and kind, and similar interests, and ticks all those boxes of intelligence, sense of humour etc etc

I think I MAY see him again.... if the situation so arose.

ooh ragged lol

right, in a bizarre twist, I have pulled out.
I am just not ready to do this, and need to get my head sorted out.
It occurred to me that my fear etc is all to do with my last relationship, and while I am over HIM, there are obviously some deep seated issues I need to sort out first - especially regarding trust, closeness, confidence etc. My ex was on the low level of dv.
Ho hum
But, strangely, I feel very relieved since I pulled out. It is clearly the right thing to do.
Fecking ex, he has caused more problems than I had thought....

or, maybe, I just wasnt that into him ;)

whats happ?
do you want to jump on the 'fit and interesting 'thread?
or if you like can give you my email addie

everything is ok, my head was eating me alive, so I kinda realised that I am not ready for this yet. It was nice and that, and he was nice, but I could take him or leave him, and it wasnt worth getting that stressed about.
hmmm, lots to talk to my counsellor about anyway

oh sorry only noticed this didn't do mn yesterday as such
do hope you're ok
you know where i am
xx