where have all the fit and interesting available men gone part 5!!

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ok we're off!

no he doesnt but he is probably asking many and seeing who is most up for it

oh God I see ... yes I am naive then

agree with lou.

OK - @ Ridingjoker, will take you up on your kind offer - but also anyone else who wants to have a look - any criticism comments welcome - preferably constructive. My PoF profile is mzdemeanour - don't ask me why - seemed a good idea at the time - thinking up witty nicks has never been my strong point. Off to make my dinner - back later if neither of the dts wakes ...

kdk - your tag line of "is the bar open" i would change that. alot of guys are not interested if they think a woman gets pissed every night of week.

in about me

remove the bit about not having phot and being under 30.

instead in your mail settings add these restrictions

and unless you really are not interested in blonde's i'd remove the tall dark and handsome. or blonde men will think there's no point messaging as you wont be interested

and change "prefer not to say" in kids setting. be honest. if you have them then say so.

love the photo's btw

ok. i did it. had words with marvel. explained here was too much baggage on both sides and wouldn't be seeing him again as cant deal with my own issues and his.

how does that sound?? think thats a good let down?

better than "your a complete nut with weird hobbies and a crazy ex "

Oh so sorry eve hope youre ok.

nice one RJ, im glad.

is POF totally free?

sv - yeah its free.

how do you make yourself invisible? the layout is shocking!!

you can hide your profile. but if you want to search for someone without beiing seen then log out. you can search username and just do a search when not logged in.

i actually find it the easiest site to use.

ahh ok, i find it really confusing and busy, but thats probably as im new. I think i have uploaded a profile. tbh i have no clue whats going on with it, fingers crossed!

it is busy. if you find you have too many then take your photo off your profile and you get a break. just keep your images private. then if you do talk to someone when you send them an email you can choose to automatically send pics.

must just be me then - I don't get that much interest - and what I do get doesn't interest me - tend to get quite a few of the fancy a shag types or just men saying hi and nothing else

will take your points on board and see if that helps. And thanks re pics - wasn't sure about them at all - an awful lot seem of women seem to be showing more chest then I would be comfortable with ...

rj, I am convinced that you were born to internet date, you do it so well and have lots of useful comments for others, cyber crown remains with you!

have just got back from a bozzy tea invitation, twas fun.

no, dont do that. the photo's are good. and fwiw. when i'm actively fishing i do plenty of the contacting myself.

send an email which remarks on their profile and make sure you ask a question. then they have something to respond to.

if you just send hi, it will get ignored. like you ignored ones like that which got sent to you

my friends are trying to corrupt me to get drunk tomorrow. i'm trying to have quiet one so i'm on top form for driving up to policeman on sat.

dont think he would appreciate me turning up with a stinking hangover and so tired i cant string a sentence together. specially since he's tea total

I'm currently invisible on POF. Also had the option that no-one can see if I viewed them. Will stay invisible for now whilst I get over the Capt.

They say for every year you are together it takes one month to recover. Think this is bolleux to short (lol) so how long does 2 week 5 days take to get over 2 minutes?

kdk, I've been told that too much cleavage on the photo's actually puts the nice guys off.

Guess these are the same ones who once into the relationship tell you what you can and cannot wear. So show off the cleavage is my motto.

Gawd can anyone tell I'm pissed.......and off as well.

no i'd agree it can put nice guys off.

same as if i see a guys profile

it's only acceptable for a guy to be showing his chest if it's a holiday snap.

i dont want to see anyone half naked or on their bed

Have to say I agree with you on both counts RJ ... I like to keep somethings to myself/preserve a bit of a mystique - and certainly don't want to see some guy with it all hanging out - what the beejesus is that all about then?

Oh, and the other thing I get (well two anyway) is messages from transvestites - got nothing against them - well apart from their truly awful dress sense - but think trying to have a love life with young kids is complicated enough without adding men in frocks to the mix ...

i've not had any transv messages. heard of other who have though. part and package of the online dating.

think it really depends on your area if there is alot of them about

Just me being cynical tonight. There is a guy that always comes up on 'my matches'. He is naked from his top up. Not very attractive with clothes on and at the one an only meet up I ever went to he was drunk, the sad git. Everytime he appears on my matches I feel like throwing up.

Think I will vent on MSN and come back to this lovely thread when I am in better spirits.

rj, in my opinion a holiday snap of a bare chested man is very misleading, cos lets face it all of us look a lot more relaxed and happy on holiday.