where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?Part 3...

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

Elm thought you'd like that

oh can see why you obv.bothered then SCL
aaagggghhhh blooodddyyy meeeeen!!!
SV yes best to keep dd out of it for now
you can get to know each other first thats the main priority
how often do you see him?

no rj you are right I don't want anything serious. I really dont.

I just do not like the feeling of wanting someone to get in touch, And I feel powerless.

Think I might have another glass of wine!

right now he is fine with it, give it time im sure Ill put him off haha and there is always the train i guess

scl - dont feel powerless. you have the power to continue contact. not just him. you dont have to respond to text or arrange another meet. think of it that way.

supervixen - train is a good idea. or meet half way.b&b's and hotel are great fun.

SCL yes its a horrid feeling for sure
and lets be strong together here lol
SV hmm do you like him or not?

RJ am imagining that SCL doesnt want to appear too keen in case she scares him off
men dont like overly keen women

asbm, we see each othr every 2 weeks on average, it all depends on the ex having dd! my love lif revolves around the ex, grrrrreat! lol

rj never thought of hotels etc, how fun and naughty ;)

im not sure i like him THAT much, hes all new to me and i get uncomfortable!

oh yes know the relying hoping that ex will help
whilst being quiet about it too

they dont like overly keen. that why i'm aying not to text if she's feels this relationship is making her feel powerless. perhaps it's not for her.

sv - every 2 weeks is quite good with a ldr.and all our lives revolve around ex's and childcare issues. but bugger it... if it means we get some time to feel like women instead of mothers then who cares

i've had a couple of beers my brother left in my fridge. can you tell. i'm getting brave. better go to bed soon.

as my text to diver are also veering towards naughty. which i'm trying to avoid with him.

"i am an angel" is the mantra i shall continue in divers vacinity.(sp?)

omg yes your post rings true with me!
and yes watch those naughty texts
have had to stop myself from doing those too

he's asking "angel or hells angel" and my bloody battery has died on phone. charger is in the car. damn damn damn

with me would be the latter lol.
oh fcuk sort your phone woman
quick get out to car...

no naughty texts oh dear! i pressed send then read this :D

get to the car quick!

got the charger. told him "depends on the time , place and company" lol.it's charging . gonna boot it up shortly. perhaps i should just say its dying and leave the text for tonight.

uh oh!
naughty-ish ones are good with right man
had plenty of naughty tho downright wrong lately too courtesy of Blackberry man

or could all be pointing to exbf!!!!!!

I am hardly little miss perfect myself!!

But if I put myself in samename2 's position I would be trying to cultivate me, IYKWIM. It wouldn't mean that anything was set in stone of course but I would send the odd text etc.

Maybe I would be a better player than they are LOL!!

But I do realise I am very communicative generally with male and female friends.

Ok, get this
mn supposed to come see me tomorrow if he is not working, while dd in school, his idea, i said ok yes. not heard anything till tonight, he just texted me random crap. so i say "are you working tomorrow then?"

i get this back "maybe not, why are you so interested?"

WTF is he trying to get me to be dirty or is he just messing with me?

Sorry to jump in to this long-running thread.

I wondered what your definition of overly keen was? In previous relationships (several years ago) I used to be so good at playing it cool, waiting to email or text people, not being available all the time.

Now I can't help emailing or texting back quite quickly and am worried am losing my elusiveness.

Wonder if it is a good thing not to play games any more, or really bad?

sv - weird response. i'd send back?"my mistake, thought we were meeting tomorrow"

if he wants to be dirty then he'll respond in a good manner. if he's being a prick then it'll look like you got him confused with someone else.

oh RJ are you out of breath..?
and very tantalising if you do that!
SCL it is only today that he hasnt text you isnt it?and by your own admission you didnt reply quickly
SV has he mentioned anything else dirty?

bluejelly - i dont play games. i just respond when suits. but i've got a pretty hectic life at the mo. and point this out to anyone interested. sometimes i respond straight away. sometimes it takes me half an hr.

i usually say why it's taken me a while to respond so they dont think i'm playing games.

if the guys genuinly interested i will get explanation if they take a similar length of time to respond. if they are very erratic i cant be bothered tbh. too much like hard work from my point of view. i just dont have time for games

That's reassuring RJ.
I have to say he is a quick responder too, but I am still worried that I am being overly keen. In truth, I am overly keen and that's a bit scary!

if he's a quick responder then go for it. but i would say make sure you end the text convo occasionally as you "too busy"

i often say i've got to go because i've got x.y.z to do. which i usually have.even if it's just something simple. like "gotta go do the routine" when it's near bath time.but i only do this if it's general chit chat. if we're arranging a meet i'll hang on till the end.