where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?Part 3...

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

Elm thought you'd like that

thanks

most welcome as always
hoped you cranked that boiler up too
right am off to bed finally
so much for an early night
a mummy's work is never done lol
nite all

boiler still working, am off to bed as well

night

Lou. If a person gets angry at you because you reacted at his adverse reaction - can you honestly see things getting better if you entered into a relationship?

It might be that he didn't fully understand the situation that you were in, in which case, once he found out, he might have played more of a supportive role or left you alone. Being demanding has to logically push you further away. If this is a flavor of a potential future relationship and you don't like it, then you might want to have a rethink.

On my work note - I am not on part time. It's not ideal for money but it helps in other ways - child care and visiting friends on a Sunday night and me being able to stay out till Monday morning instead of Sunday night.

Night you two.

this is my best friend not a relationship dilemma, as in bf/gf

Your best friend who got hurt on the weekend?

I am also off to bad - an early night (early in the morning night) sounds like a good idea.

Sleep well everyone...or I hope you all slept well.

morning.

oh dear lou your having a poor time of it with your friends just now!!

all quiet here on the diver front.but marvelman text to tell me to wish him luck on his bike theory tomorrow.i was a bit short and formal with my response as i was sleeping at 10.30pm when message came thru.

inthemist - i'm having friday night dilemma for what to wear?? it's an fri evening. but it's a sober event as he's on call from 11pm.

asbm - so are you talking to any of your cybermen?

ok, I am off to shops this morning, J will have a look for you rj, gonna go to next as I haven't got any of their jeans yet!

no sorry i thought you were referring to my friend who left an angry vm for me

i've got a pile of new tops. my problem is trousers/jeans. i'm on weight loss drive. lost over 3 stone. got 2 more to go. all trousers i have are too big. but dont want to buy any new ones just yet as might be able to skip a size ...but looks like i'll have too.last week my stuff just looked loose. now my trousers keep falling down

jeans are definately out as no good fitting ones just now. got 1 pair of black trousers that is right size. but they are starting to get a bit loose too. i think i will have to face facts i need to purchase a pair of jeans and trousers that fit properly to get me through next few weeks till i get to my target size.

and diver has resurfaced.

Morning all!
inthemist i have a couple of pairs of next jeans theyre not a bad fit actually but not my favs
RJ god that's an amazing weight loss.do you follow a set diet or has it just dropped off?
have i missed something here?
what does marvel do for a living?
and yes all quiet on the cm front
am getting my headspace back

asbm, sent you an email.

RJ - thats really good news, you must feel really pleased.

Inthemist, let us know if you buy anything.

Lou - how are you feeling today?

Hi Holly,
you have mail too

yes Lou how are you doing?

asb, - just sent you a reply
did you get the printer sorted in the end?

well have heard nothing from samename2 and against my better judgement and in contrast to earlier coolness I have texted him (just fairly lightweight text). Aaargh!! Hope this doesn't look stalkerish.

I just hate not knowing what's what, not in the like sense of is this going to be a big thing - but we did hit it off I thought, there was chemistry and I do like a bit of attention esp if I have made the f*ing effort.

He did talk about meeting again near to my work but it was not specific.

He is not very articulate via text/email and found him to be alot more verbal in person. And has also been quite erratic in his communication.

ooh i will have a look!
and yes thanks i did sort it in the end
bloomin homework eh!
hows the lovely fitguy today?

SCL - I know what you mean, you just want to know what their thinking, nothing wrong with that. My fitguy is pretty good with texts and phonecalls but not heard from him today so far so feeling anxious, which is completely stupid of course so will have to learn to take deep breaths and just enjoy the how things are progressing. I know he's busy today anyway and I'm pretty sure he'll text me later.

hi, am not bad thanks, just been to see my friend at her salon, she went in to work today

she looks better with her make up on but she is v down

huge bruise on her backside has come up, but her nose has settled more and her eyes arent as black as we thought they would be, the right one is more colourful, but mainly under her eye

I know Holly and as adults should be able to have that conversation but it seems not.

I hate that my needy side has been brought out by this. Maybe I have got low self esteem (despite truly thinking I haven't)

and if he was 'really that into me' (hate that expression) then surely he would have texted more (apart from one just after date).

Who knows eh>

Lou, it all sounds pretty horrific, your friend is probably feeling bad that this has happened to her which is a perfectly normal reaction. As long as she knows she got her mates around then I'm sure she'll get through this. Has anyone suggested she talks to an experience counsellor regarding DV?

SCL - I just keep telling myself that these men must feel the same, a little bit anxious and not sure when they should contact you, perhaps they don't want to come across as needy themselves? In any case I never see the harm in sending a light text message, something like "Hi, how are you? how's your day been so far" it just sounds friendly and they know you're thinking of them, but I would then leave it then until they get back to me.