where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?Part 3...

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

Elm thought you'd like that

well like you said he's not the most articulate of people in his texts so at least by contacting him you are breaking the ice, however the rest is firmly up to him after that.

and I don't think you have low self esteem, its just basic human inquisitive nature

funnily enough holly i mentioned that to her today

you're right Holly. I think they must also have doubts etc - in fact someone suggested to me that exbf could be insecure due to various things he said to me. It just doesn't seem that way to me ie that they are insecure.

Samename2 did say (via text) that I was 'lovely' but am now wondering if that's just bullshit.

SCL, I'm sure he wouldn't have said unless he meant it. In his mind that might be a really big thing for him to say to a woman esp if he is insecure, have you said anything similar to him?

not for a long time (we have been in touch for ages).

Oh I dunno. Maybe I come across as too confident/independent.

Still I am who I am (in the words of the famous song.

Lou glad to hear that your friend feels up to going into work
thats a positive sign at least
SCL yes i know its so crap all this waiting game
what did you send in your text to him?
its not being needy as such
but i think that possibly as women our expectations are slightly different
and sadly all you can really do is sit tight and wait
and hope that he isn't suffering from broken finger syndrome
Holly you're fine with fitguy
no probs.there
he is after all at work lol.

SCL has he actually mentioned another date?
even tentativelly?
if he did then why would he say it if he didnt mean it
if he didnt want to see you again then you would get the specialist male treatment
SILENCE!!

at least in work she has stuff distracting her at times

shes bound to be distracted after what's she's been thru
being round other people helps lots tho

I agree with holly scl, a light txt message would do no harm

I think that blokes have basically the same issues as us when they meet new people, I know bob feels that way.

lou, it is a good sign that your friend is back at work, tell her to take care of herself, and not over do it she is still gonna be a bit fragile for a while.

I bought a lovely pair of tapered trousers from www.next.co.uk/shopping/women/collections/19/5, which I can wear with a lot of stuff I have already, am pleased with myself!

lou - she must prob feel soo fragile like she has been run over by a steamroller but best to keep working if she can. Is her fiance going to be charged?

ASBM - you are prob right - I am an over communicator (though not to ridiculous levels) and he has shown that he is not.

Yes he did talk about meeting up in town (nr to my work) (he lives out of London) for a drink. But also based on our previous attempts to meet up (he works shifts plus has another job) I also have limited availability) did not specify a date.

Maybe it'sreally just my ego that's dented atm!! I am a leonine drama queen after all. And also a bit fickle!!

those trousers sound nice inthemist sound like a good investment buy
a leonine drama queen SCL?
never lol
you just like to know that's all!
and yes shift patterns and children its a tricky mix to be fair
have you any other options at the mo?
i have just popped onto FRD and had a spring clean of my inbox
and removed all pics of anymunters undesirables
am seriously thinking of suspending my profile too

yes couple of really nice sounding guys have mailed me one of whom has a really unusual job. Will get back to them soon.

Plus very young man who I had a chat with last night.

And am sure exbf will pop up again soon.

Have also txted my gbf for advice - they tened to tell it like it is and good to have a male perspective. He is also dating.

whats the job?
are these men off POF or Match?
and yes a male pov always helps
have been calling on one of mine lately!

he does something to do with botanical something. I can hardly identify any plants or flowers myself so am impressed with those who do. On POF/Smooch. Not on FRD or match.

I do tend to lose all perspective when I like someone - that hasn't changed that much since I was a teenager Though a bit more hard bitten than then. LOL

Inthemist - trousers sound nice and a good investment buy.

Male opinions always help, they tend to offer a no nonsense approach don't they.

SCL - are you still looking in case samename2 doesn't contact you or is it just window shopping?

i think she just wants to forget it all, not sure what the police feel tho

my friend i fell out with has sent me a message saying he can promise me he wont do it again to me , and he misses his mate (i.e me) and would i go round for a cup of tea

hmm sounds interesting
yes i know what you mean about losing perspective

Lou - what are you going to do?

what are you going to do then Lou?

i said i missed him too but i cant go see him today

Holly - will be keeping options open as they say. But actually not properly free again until about middle of march so it'll all be online anyway.

SCL thats probably the safest way

For those of you on POF, please look at this guy's profile "dostyano", is it me or is it just totally bizarre? It's worth looking at just for the bemusement factor!
ASBM, will email it to you because I know you're not on POF